They say that there is really no right person...only different flavors of wrong. What matters is how we make the wrong ones right for us.

Maybe that stated was 'invented' to convey that you shouldn't be looking for perfection. In other words, not be unrealistically demanding. Loving someone means you love them as they are, you don't feel you have to change them in order to be able to love them. If the little quirks someone may have don't work for you, they aren't the right match.

really wow lol that hurts

Flavors of Wrong..
Would make a good Chinese restaurants name.. flavors of Wong..lol..jk.

Who is "They"?

It might also be said there is no wrong person, only different perceptions of right.

A woman cannot make a wrong man, right for her. Just move on!

I think I read somewhere that trying to make the wrong person right for you is the #1 cause of divorce.

Isn't making the wrong ones right for you the same thing as trying to change them? Or change yourself to fit them. Don't a lot of people complain about that on a romantic level?
Is what you're trying to say more like loving and appreciating someone can take work? Most people who are or have been in love will agree. Though...communication is a two way street. So is reciprocation.
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To me, the one that I will love will always be perfect.. He will definitely be perfect for all his imperfections

Love and accept someone for who he is. Embrace all his imperfections. Love him without trying to change him to become who we want him to be.

He is never wrong and will never be wrong. No need to make him right because he already is... he is perfect jist the way he is

Maybe second, first is financial!

Only if you really have no desire for a relationship, or you are really looking for more self destructive/negative relationships.

Otherwise there is a right person, and it's the person that naturally and organically perpetually motivates you to continue the interaction/relationship.



There's really only 3 ways to do that.
1. Manipulate yourself; your perceptions of them so you see them as the right one.

2. Expand your thinking and perceptions to see more of who they are and what it means, become more honest with yourself about what you seem to really want and why (e.g."I hate players and one night stands!" whereas the last 20 years have been nothing but players and one night stands and you keep "falling" for the same crap...what you keep doing is what you really want, you aren't a victim. Start being honest with yourself, or go back to #1).

3. Find someone malleable and manipulate them.

Actually, you have things right, I think. For the most part.

You know what the most difficult thing is, about trying to pass learned wisdom on to others? It is that it is more often true, that wisdom can only be fully understood, AFTER you have been through the painful messes that those who are advising you, are trying to help you cope with, or avoid.

Wise sayings are designed to be short, and as simple as possible, in order to put a lot of information into something that can be basically understood and remembered.

The above saying is a case in point. "There is no right person," is trying to simply refer to the fact that we are all both very unique, and always learning and changing, and so finding an EXACT match for us in every respect, is extremely unlikely, if not impossible. Since no one is, or can be perfect, looking for a perfect mate, is usually a good way to guarantee you remain alone.

So we need to be ready to accept someone instead, who is a kind of wrong, that will work with our kind of wrong. That's what is mean by "how we make the wrong ones right for us." That doesn't refer to us forcing the "wrong" person to change for us, rather the exact opposite.

That's why HOW we adjust to the lack of perfection in ourselves and others is so important. The right way to make two less-than-perfect people work as a mated pair, is never for one member to try to perform emotional or character surgery on themselves, in order to fake themselves into matching with someone who they really don't get along with naturally. The right way to do it, is for each to appreciate everything about each other, including the flaws, so that we can build a positive life together in spite of neither of us being ideal beings.

Well, when you put it that way... I believe I misunderstood the OP's meaning. I agree with Igor's view.

Flavors eh? Let's break this down.

Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough- Best flavor ever.....but it has become such a normal thing that it has lost its' luster. Maybe spruce it up with some naughty Oreo's, or M&M's....oh yeah. Now I can dig it.

Vanilla- It's like dating your Momma....or rather it is the flavor you can bring home to your parents. Chocolate fits here too. Still, both need love. So it would be a possibility.

Okay....there are like more than 31 flavors and I don't have time to go into all of them. So, that said, I basically see what is going on here. We all have the flavors we are comfortable with, and we all normally go for those comforts. However, the right one could be the one that is the one that we think is the wrong one.......right? I am so confused now. I will have three scoops of butterscotch please.

In one cup I like to mix the flavors

One flavor is so flat, o like to add another flavors to the same cup, been said that

I like the same woman with a different presentations, in the morning is like the tender flavor, but at night could be nasty flavor mixed with the tender, a little bit of spicy could also interesting

That makes know sense to me ...


say I like only chocolate ice cream ...
and giving me strawberry would be wrong ...

I can not change either ...

wrong is just wrong ...

and that is the right way to go ...


goes back to why do I need to change or they need to change ...
is that a wrong ... to understand it that way ...

or are you just saying pick your flavors of poison ...