I'm not a expert on relationships with dating, but some men don't know meaning of chatting on dating sites, it's about getting to know the real person not pretending your someone your not or chatting and then disappear and come back when you feel like it, I'm glad I got that off my mind. Hope this helps you. Think before u message someone on wot your gonna say next.

that is so true

Ohhh..well. I was going to say something but now I have to go think about it..lol

It goes both ways sister. A women who dont talk when a man opens up a bit is not only worthless on a chat forum, but worthless to talk to in real life.

It can be a bit difficult, though. A fair number of people I run across (well, I don't actually run across them that's just a figure of speech), don't seem to realize that if they want a conversation to continue, they have to do a tad more than give a full stop answer to the immediate question.

It's a bit like tennis, you see. If someone lobs the ball over to your side, and your response is to say "thank you for that," and pocket the ball, it makes for a rather short game, and one must run out to the store for additional cans of things to lob, in order to continue.

No no...don't encourage them...the less talk the better...once they get started..yak yak yak.

you are very right. I was thinking likewise, I feel sorrowful when some men play with genuene women's heart. It is better to ignore such people when they are trying to come back again. They are unserious men.

Yeah it kinda sucks really

Hello true

hiii you are absolutely right...
but don't judge everyone like this...
anyway I'm looking for a decent friendship... if ur interested msg me

Lol

Yes, I found it quite amusing too.

Kind of a crossfire between advice and a rant.

Hi Linda,

Yes strongly agree with you. Unfortunately it is trending now and it has a special terms called "ghosting" for an act where a man became a vanisher, disappear and re appearing. During that they usually need their time to reassured if you're the right one by keep on looking on the others, when they haven't found your competitor they need to ensure we're still there. As ladies we know what kind of guy he is and we need to decide will we wait or just leave, we are the one who make the decision here ^.-b

How much time do you want to spend chatting before you can make a decision on whether you want to meet up. I believe you should know after a couple of emails, so, ask to meet the guy for a coffee. (Nothing wrong in making the first move). If they live hundreds of miles away, I agree it's not so simple because you do need to know more them before travelling any distance to meet up.

Welcome to Mingle2 and good luck in your search.

I think either goes both ways. There are women who also 'ghost' on men. And guys have just as much right to decide whether to pursue or back out of a relationship.

I just wish the person backing out could be honest and forward about it when they decide to end it.

super true

chicks are the ones that are always lieing on their profiles. and in chat

that is true, you know I get to understand one thing about some men and women who pretend to be what their are not,that is just simply them don't believe in their self,them think nobody will like them for who they are