Ever notice once you have a child that 90% of the opposite sex runs for the border once they find out you've got kids lol... Woman are ruthless!!!! haha.. and it seems the ones that do accept it and are interested are the ones who are lushes, addicts, etc...

Question is when you do meet someone and get along with them how much time is to much time to hangout with the person and how long do you wait to introduce the child aswell as how do some of you with full custody where the father/mother never takes them overnight find time to date?


just some questions that boggle me that i never understood till i had a child myself (without the pushing and pain)7 years ago..

i have been a single parent for 10 yrs and my children have no idea i date...everything is planned around their activities and my work schedule......no "uncles" for my kids

IT is not only women... men run just as fast..I usually tell them right up front that i have a son... And wait until i know they might be around for a bit before they meet him..After a few dates, you can tell wether they are a keeper or just for fun..LOL

even noticed on the internet.. did a lil experiment one time by making a profile that said i didnt have any kids and got way more responses then with the profile that said i had a son. amazing how shallow people are. I do understand their feelings of wanting their own family but there has to be a breaking point in their age where they give up on that dream lol.. i hear im a great guy all the time from friends and girls in general i talk to. and some are upfront that its becuase i have a son and i respect their decision but DAMNNIT i have needs hahaha... lol

Singledad, I am a single dad also. I have been single now for about 1.5 years. I have actually met some very nice women. However,(at least in my case) I have some problems that makes dating (Pick one) frustrating/limiting/dificult/impossible.

My ex and I have joint custody, but I have the kids 2 days a week. I work saturday, and I prefer not to have the woman meet the kids unless we are getting serious. So, I have only part of Friday, (My day off) and and during the week to date. A bigger problem for me is finding someone that is local to me.

Also, I have limited myself by NOT wanting to date a woman who has children anywhere near my kids age. (9,11.) I don't want my kids to have to cope with stepkids, and a new family. They are the most important thing to me. Guess I'll keep on looking, I've met a "almost", but not quite the one.

good Luck!!

i have my son 7 days a week and his mother was seeing him for a few hours a couple times a month supervised but as of a couple days ago is in jail for however long.. prob a few years. i get my friday night and saturday night from 10pm till around 2 and somehow talked my parents into watching him on sunday afternoons so i can shoot pool league iwth all my goodfriends. so really that leaves honestly no time for dating unless i meet someone who is fairly local and is very understanding and patient which in 7 years i havent met anyone.

It would be alot easier to date someone without kids but the girls without kids i meet dont want anything serious with me cause they wanna start their own family which i respect about them.

but yea its deffinitly frustrating.. especially when you know your a great guy and a good catch and your sitting there single while you see alot of good girls just being mistreated or abused.. its ashame.

my therapist gave me the best line ive ever heard.

"woman around 25-30 are starting to get divorced from their first mistake.. round two of the single women is right around the corner" most brilliant thing anyone ever said to me lol

I've been divorced for 11 years now. Even before I had children, I had a rule that I wouldn't date men who hate kids. And, trust me, I've dealt with men who didn't like kids over the years, they became history very quickly. It's up to you to set up the kind of person you really want in your life. Personally, my kids have come first.

I have recently begun dating again. What stinks for me, most people cannot grasp that I have to be at work no later than 5AM THUS I get to bed early. My schedule rotates & my nights are early ones.

As far as being a single parent, I will not introduce my son to anyone unless I know this person is THE ONE (whatever that is). I will not have him become attached to someone & if the relationship did not work out..I would have two hearts to heal instead of one. Call me over protective, I dont care. His well being is more precious to me than diamonds.

I have a 9 year old and she doesn't meet anyone that I date unless I know it is solid and going to last. Sometimes she knows when I am talking to someone but she doesn't meet them. I am always very upfront about having a child that lives with me full time. If a guy can't accept my child, I can't accept him. I let people know that I am not looking for a replacement parent, just a partner that is willing to be part of a family. Women are not the only ruthless ones you know. Men can be just as mean and ruthless.

If you play games and don't state you have children (when you do), smart women will run. That will indicate that you aren't being honest from the start. It's best to get involved with someone else who has children, in the long run. They have the knowledge and understanding that goes with raising a child or children alone. It's a hard job and parents only get 1 chance to do it right.

And here's a little different perspective. Men run from me because I'm a non-smoker. Weird, isn't it? People are strange.

I personally would rather date someone with a child, then they know and understand what I am going thru.

kids should come first regardless of circumstance. for instance i met up at a bar with a girl i was supposed to be sorta seeing and i get there and shes drunk hanging all over her ex bf's good friend.. second i saw her like that i just didnt say a word cracked a smile and said "theres goes another one" lol.. didnt say nothing left and went home. If i see any quality that i think might hurt my son in the future i simply just stop talking to them and move on. not worth putting forth the effort into a lost cause. In my head i know what i want in a girl and responsibility is a biggie..

Men, and women both run for some of the oddest things... better than run quickly and you didn't waste much time on them.

Well I am a full time single mom of three (365days a year). My life revolves around my kids all though I find alot of men are interested in dating me time is an issue I do not have a sitter so i do the online thing. I will not waste a baby sitter on just any guy I do not have that luxury. So I try to get to know the guy as well as possible befor I actually go out on a date> As for men with children I have no problem with it but I am picky about there parenting style as it is hard to be in a relationship with some one who has a completely different parenting style. Also a huge turn off to me is a man who has other children who he has not seen in years that does not fly with me. I know if I did not have children and I dated a man who had children from another relationship It would be important to me that I still had children of my own. just my thoughts on the subject.

Good call! run and run fast, she's a game player...

see, i use my boys to my advantage. my 3 year old is very friendly and "huggy" so right away, i let him do his thing and see how the girl reacts. if she acts like, "eww! hes gonna poop on me!!" shes gone, lol.

Im the same way. When i am talking on the phone with another parent i keep a close ear on how she is in the house with the child.. if they arent a good parent it doesnt fly with me. and yes my time is very important to me so i make sure its someone that might be something in the future before i go out with them. no point in wasting my time with someone who isnt gonna be around long. :)

haha i used to do that when my son was little. met a couple girls that way.

It seems like you know what you want and what you are looking for... It seems to me your problem is just actually finding what you want rather than knowing what to do... Join the club :)