I'm sure this "song and dance" has been posted before, but here it goes. I've been out of my last relationship for a little over a year now, got my heart broken ,and have been single ever since. Long story short, she dumped me 2 days after my mom was diagnosed with cancer. Yeah, it hurt, ALOT. I've only recently gotten over her after finding out some things she's gotten into (drugs and alcohol) and so there ya go. I'm definitely not an "asshole" or anything, and strongly consider myself a lover and a romantic. Basically, I always give 150% in a relationship, and get MAYBE 50% back. Obviously, I'm not finding the "keepers".

I've done this online dating thing, on NUMEROUS sites, for 6 months or so now, and I don't consider myself desperate (I've survived this long, haven't I? lol) but any messages I send out to what these sites consider to be my "matches", and after seeing if I'm interested, I never hear anything back from a single one of them. I always personalize the messages and whatnot, but I'm unsure as to what I'm doing wrong.

I'm one of those who's "shy" (I'm confident, just shy) and have one HELLUVA time walking up to girls in person, which is half my problem, but I warm up quickly, its just that first "ice-breaker" that's nearly impossible for me.

I'd humbly like some advice from those of you who can offer it, as I'd definitely like some ideas and/or pointers as to what I might be doing wrong, and how I might go about fixing it.


Thanks in advance for the tips, as they'll all be much appreciated.

well you pretty much answered your own question there...
You get locked up in fear of approaching which certainly limits your possibilities.
Approach anxiety is something every man struggles with; you aren't alone!
The pickup artists have struggled with finding solutions for this for years and years. Mystery, one of the top notch masters of the art, made something called the 3-second rule.
Whenever you see a woman you are interested in, or a group of people that have women you could find an interest in, you have 3 seconds to approach! Just force yourself to do it within 3 seconds. If you pass 3 seconds, you will only grow more and more anxious.
If you want to go more hardcore, another mPUA (master pickup artist) named Mehow has the 1-second rule. As soon as you see a potential interest, BEE-LINE IT immediately and approach!

the best pick up line is... Hi, my name is 'insert name here'. you will know right off how its going to go.