how do they do it?

Im going to answer this question not only because im 50 and im a Half a century but and also because well i can ive been there done that . But u are NOT gonna like my answer.


First of all one of the men i had an entense love affair with,we both felt like we had known each other in other lifetimes. It was incredible better than a movie and u know what it wasnt random we were meant to meet again in this lifetime. So basically people that are having these really intense experiences are coming from other lifetimes into this one to experience this union, its rare and its incredible.

Besides that i dont have an answer for ya

Perhaps they are the few that recognize
that if they give 99.9%, and their mate
gives 99.9%..together, they can hit 100%.

Like the way you rounded that soufie.

Good question though OP.

Actually, you answered the question as you asked it.

It's luck. Seriously.

Oh, I'm not saying that any of the many lessons a person learns are without value or importance, or that the way to succeed in love is to sit down and wait to be swept away.

What I am saying, is that there are millions of different stories about love that goes well, and they are all unique to the people who experienced them.

Yes, there are all sorts of things you have to understand, all kinds of things that will or wont help and so on. Anything anyone tells you, probably is valuable.

But the reason why one person finds the kind of True Love that everyone really wants, is because they CHANCED to have learned the lessons they needed to, at the exact right times in their lives; they happened to be the kind of situation that their wonderful mate happened to desire or appreciate; and their mate chanced to be ready as well, to get on board with them.

By all means, get your life in order. Know yourself as well as you can. Search with a hopeful nature. Establish real standards, limits, and boundaries that reflect what you want your life to be about. Find a good perfume/bodywash/ whatever. Brush your teeth regularly. All that good stuff.

But in the end, we can all get READY for love, but whether we find it or not, is really just LUCK.

Why? Because some people are lucky and some are not.

How do they do it?
The lucky ones just go on life being lucky.
The not-so-lucky ones eat Lucky Charms...



And the unlucky ones? .. the saying goes "lucky at cards, unlucky in love" so they are probably at the casino playing cards.

My friends Greg and Cathy are two of the most kindhearted people I've ever known. They found each other and have been happily married for years. I smile every time I see them because of their wonderful relationship.

Before they met, both went through terrible, abusive and unhappy relationships. So don't give up. Happiness and love are out there.

I don't know ..maybe they got lucky ..Why do some people have luck while some see none... can't answer that ..maybe it's like the weather where people say wait 5 minutes and it will change ..doesn't necessarily mean for the better ..I see the same thing in luck ..be patient it will change while being hopeful it will be for the better...

What we call luck may just only be timing ..right place at the right time one could call it luck or ..coincidence...now that word one can google.. ...Good luck in finding an answer that will suffice..either way..Good Luck..get it...

Very inspiring story Ameercommoner. thanks for sharing

Well said Igor.

It reminds me of the saying that " Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity"

Hi Peggy!

I like that one...my favorite comes from the Incredibles movie.
Edna the Super Fashionista Designer....

In old lady voice

"Vell, I don't know, daling!!
Luck favors the prepared!!

well they're just lucky

I have no idea, wish I was one of the lucky ones !

These profound truths always sound cooler with an accent don't they ? lol

Hi Rob!

you are welcome

maybe they were at the right place at the right time with the right person. luck surely has a role in that or maybe some divine intervention

Taking this just a tad further...

I think there are a couple of basic things about the idea of luck, which are very important for each person to face up to and deal with.

It's important to realize that luck, as in "fortuitous things which you have no control over," isn't something that can be corralled in any way. That means that no matter how well and thoroughly prepared you DO make yourself, you will never be able to CAUSE luck to come your way.

At least half of the more egotistical people who I've heard quote one of the variations on "luck favors the prepared," are really putting down anyone who has not been lucky. They often have an unspoken subtext or translation which comes down to a declaration that there's no such thing as luck, and it's all a matter of whether you work hard enough, or are innately special enough. Beware of people who think that they have accomplished EVERYTHING that they have done, entirely on their own. They are never as aware of the way that the world works as they think they are, and they are often self-centered jerks to boot.

Also, it's important, if you do believe in luck, to remember that it IS entirely unpredictable, and not magical. The fact that it HAS NOT come your way, therefore does NOT mean that you are an inherently bad person.

uh huh...but yet we all know those couples that are our age
been married forever
got married young
and they are so in love still
it sickens ya to be around em..hahaa

they did not know anymore than you and I did when walking down the aisle

young and dumb baby and broke
they liked each other cause .." he's hot"
"she's hot" and " I dig her smile" " his blue eyes make me melt"

pretty much it..and they are still digging on each other

I would suggest that they made it and are still going strong

because they both learned how to do it along the way
how to co-exist with another human being
how to communicate
show affection
be supportive

they're a plenty of people still love each other in divorce court
who didn't learn it...



I used to gripe all the time..back when I was married
that everytime we went somewhere, parked the car
my then husband would be out the car like a rocket
and walking across the parking lot fifteen feet in front of me
by time I closed my car door
man on a mission
then there I was walking into the store alone..
so I communicated with him on numerous occasions
how nice it would be if he walked beside me
maybe talked to me

one day I pointed out a nice older couple that were walking side by side
engrossed in conversation and holding hands
I said " see honey that is what I am talking about"
he glanced over at them and said
" ya well...bet they haven't been married as long as we have...probably having an affair"

They work at it.