Madam....you deserve that as well!!!

Madam -- sorry for your pain hon I'm in recovery and forgiveness is something that comes up in meetings all time; along with the topic of anger. I know you don't want to hear this, but hear me out for a minute because this really works (at least for me it does). My sponsor always taught me to pray for the person that's pissing you off. I know that's a hard thing to do. Letting go of pain is so hard. It's actually easier being pissed off than it is to forgive. I pray for my ex every night. I ask God to let him have a clue about feelings and life. I don't let him rent the space in my head that he used to rent. Does he still piss me off? Yes he does, but I don't let it ruin my day anymore.
Try to let it go hon.

madam

What did you learn? What reflections were found within yourself? Have you found the things you can be grateful about?

In one way you get to move on with all you know now ... there is something powerful in that ...


I am reminded of the stories of the survivors of the Nazi concentration camps. There is a well known story ... for some reason I just cannot remember the man's name now ...

...but he was asked how he survived ... when so many did not ...

How did he survive and not leave that experience angry and bitter. His answer was that he had to find the beauty in it...

They were fed a broth made from a rotting fish head ... and he had to find the beauty in that rotting fish head ... and he did ... and he survived ... and lives without anger and bitterness.


You recognize your own self destruction in holding onto it ... I wish you peace and love as you find your way to laying it down. Imagine an overcoat that you does not serve you well in the summer heat. Lay it down and let the sun find your face...

oh twich i knew you would show up...im greatful. you are right. i do pray daily for his recovery. it does help. it softens things quite a bit. you are always right on the money! hugs

Only cause I've been there babe -- a heart with bitterness cannot survive especially when it only wants to love.

Time and working through the pain and bitterness will be the only thing that gets you to move on in life.
It may take time depending on your situation and how you deal with things as part of your makeup

just no matter what try not to get lost in that bitterness it will stick with you in any new relationship and that could cause trouble for you down the line.

If this is eating you up inside seek help from someone you trust like a professional
good luck

I have bipolar depression...lots of bitterness here with this disease.

I learned to give my anger to God. It lifted this tremendous burden off my shoulders.

Let go of the pain...start living for today. Learm from the past and pull useful events and knowledge from it, and wipe out the bad.

Good luck to you!!

Personally, I'm just stubborn enough to REFUSE to allow that person continue to control my life, my thoughts.

Accept it/him (**NOTE** You don't have to LIKE it!) and release it.

You know the old addage: The best revenge is living well.

So true...............he's not worth the loss of your time, sweety,

And BTW, you are right, the forgiveness is for YOU, not him. I once heard this and it was an epiphany for me: Harboring bitterness or unforgiveness is like taking a dose of poison every day and expecting the OTHER person to die.

Think about it..........

have i told you guys how awesome you are? xoxoxoxoxo