Well, my ex and I were trying to work things out for about a month (the whole reason why I hadn't committed to anyone on JSH, but if you remember from a post titled, "Doing the Right Thing," I let everyone who messaged me for any kind of going out, or talking, that I let them know this). Anyway, her family came to see her for thanksgiving (background, she moved to TX because her family can't afford to have her in CA). Thanksgiving day works out OK...she calls me in the morning, says hi, all that. Then I call her later, and she's at Wal-Mart with family shopping for Thanksgiving...this is where things take a turn for bad.

I let her go, because I could here her family, so I didn't want to interrupt. I eat my thanksgiving dinner here, entertain some friends and family, send her a text message. No reply. An hour passes, and I'm still mingling, send another one. No reply. 2 hours later, I send another one. No reply. Finally, at 10:50pm my time, about 1am Texas time, she calls me and says hi. I asked her why she didn't respond to any text messages, or at least drop a text message to say hi. She said she was busy, and if I'm going to be like this then forget it (hang up).

Now some background on us. We broke up (if you remember from a previous post) because she called me one Friday morning and said, "I just feel like breaking up with you." and that was that. 2 hours later, I received a text message from her saying, "I think I made a mistake." Long story short, she broke my trust, and wasn't putting any effort into the relationship. I told her, before I can be in a relationship with you again, you have to give me time to trust you again, and show me that you want a relationship by putting some effort.

Obviously, no texts, phone calls, or replies is not effort. The things that really makes me mad are the following:
1. She was coming back to CA in January, so it wouldn't be LDR any longer.
2. She put me through hell, arguments, asking for money, telling me I'm not what she expects, complaining that I don't look good, etc for that month we were working things out. Much more than I'm writing here, but you get the idea.

So, we haven't talked since that call. When she just said, "If you wanna be like that, then forget it. (hang up)"

So...why is this finally ending now? I did something stupid. I looked at her myspace, and there it was...someone new (keeping in mind, she wasn't talking to anyone else (or so she told me) until after thanksgiving).

I don't know what else to say...

She is coming back in January....maybe you could have a cooling off period for a month until she arrives. Then you can see where you both want to go with the relationship.

Good luck to you.

I don't think I want to go anywhere with her any longer.

She lied to me (how can you establish a new relationship with someone within a 4 day period?), and she was making me think we were working it out, while she was obviously hooking up with someone else.

I would believe you could miss 1 text message. But not 3 over the course of 4 hours.

That's not the point anyway, if you knew the relationship, you would know the effort was all from me. She even said to me, "the guy is supposed to be romantic and do everything."

STOP and leave her alone stop texting and calling you are acting like she is pure gold. get another woman man start dating. and when she see you happy she will be trying to get with you

Sounds like an emotional rollercoaster. Some people can handle them, I'm off the first chance I get!

Its your life and your decision alone. Personally, it sounds like she has some other things going on and she is not telling you. But that is just a GUESS and GUTSHOT on what you have said...so don;t put a lot of value on it.

Either way, i wish you some closure..either with her or without...sounds like some things need to be concluded either way.

Best Wishes!

My gut shot was something else was going on too.

There's not going to be any "closure."

I don't see anything worth saying to her, or anything she could say to me that would be a positive.

and the guy chooses to be romantic. in a players eyes he is the prize.. man stop talking to this woman she dont respect you AT ALL

Yeah, haven't talked to her since that Thursday. Her number is blocked on my cell phone, and my house phone has Caller ID.

Although, I guess it should be noted, she hasn't tried to call either. No reason to, now that it's all out in the open I suppose.

so what are you doing now... waiting for her to call. or inviting women to play wii

Inviting women to come play with my Wii of course!

OH OH OHHHHHHHHHHHH WITTARD!!!! I could give you advice or you could watch this.....

CHECK THIS OUT!!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XcidD2HFK8M

Wow......

Trust, honesty and communication are a high priority are a regular relationship and even the LDR's ones too. You went on gut instinct and found out she was not being truthful on myspace with ya. You attempted several times to touch base with her Thursday...

Life can suck... BUT you realized it before it went further and you do deserve that relationship you are seeking. Hang in there.... there is some Wii gal out there just waiting to bust a move with ya....

Good Luck........

Thanks for the support guys...got a few JSH mails from other user's on here, that they didn't post, but they were positive all around.

Still feeling bummed, I guess it's a matter of time.