I got to thinking today. What are some bad habits you can live with. It's a lot easier to list the things you don't want your partner to do. I was just wondering are you able to come up with enuff bad habits "That You Can Tolerate" to equal another human?

Good question...

I have three that stand out ...
and probably a few more and a few more ...


thank goodness... know one is perfect

What?? Nobody is perfect?
I've been lied to all this time.
Ive been told I'm a perfect pain

I can deal with several shortcomings Ome but I admit that I can only accept it under certain conditions:-

1.A man who is cheap, as long as he doesn't try to dominate how I spend my own money

2. A messy person as long as he practices excellent higiene

3. Someone who smokes, as long as its not an everyday habit

4. Someone who is conspicuously overwight as long as he is healthy, active, and grooms/carries himself well

5. Someone who doesnt want me to have much involvment with his kids from a previous relationship, as long as he doesn't allow his kids to disrespect me

6. Someone who isnt very formally educated, but he must have the ability to express himself well.

7. someone who isnt all that creative with dates or gifts, but they should at least make an effort.

8. He doeant have to be the best lover in the world... but he has to at least be open to improving .

9. he doesnt have to be a handy man eg house repairs, but he has to share the initiative of hiring people for the job

Im sure there are other things I can accept , but I cant think of anymore right now.

woah...gonna need to think on this one..
he can have a bit of pudge that doesn't bother me
I am not perfect

I will tolerate a man that likes to watch the ball game sometimes
as long as it is not all games, all the time til the point that his life revolves around them..that ain't healthy

I will tolerate a man that sometimes misses the dirty clothes hamper
as long as he realizes it is his job to bend that bootie over to pick it up again and not mine

I will tolerate a man that curses when he stubs his toe, when his car gets a flat but not if he is an angry man that makes a habit of cursing at others

I will tolerate a man that does not jump up on his own to run around the house doing all the chores so I do not have to..as long as he is willing and able when I ask for some help

I will not tolerate disrespect towards me or my children
or towards other people

I will not tolerate cruelty

is it ok if he has a beer once in awhile? sure as long as it's not a 24 pack every damn night otherwise we got a problem

I will not tolerate someone who is narcisstic or a misogynist

takes care of and looks in on his kids and his parents

as far as education level? interesting..my folks came from a small upnorth town and my grandparents were farmers. Most of my family is working class. I am unusual what can I say

so this one I leave wide open as long as he can carry on a good conversation

Hmm. Stuff that I decidedly do not like, but which I would put up with for love. That is tough.

The really tricky thing that I worry about with such things is, that I'll THINK I can deal with it at first, and then it will gradually bug me more over time. I suspect that some of the people who ended up ditching me, might have made mistakes with the list of this kind of stuff they had before taking me on.

It depends on the severity of habits however the biggest turn offs are,
1)Chain smokers.
2)Constantly unclean,smelly.
3)Tattoo collector covered in gross ink.Tattoos in general are a red flag.

Just don't touch my Kleenex box and we're all good..lol

.ummm
..#8... I could definitely use some help improving... when's my first lesson..
Lol..wink

We should not have to put up with bad traits. If a person makes a mess and does not have any intention of tidying up then that person should be severly punished. People like that deserve no mercy.

I agree, and for that reason I have a fully equipped dungeon in my house.

Question, Who determines if your habits are bad?
You or someone else?

Are they compulsions or addictions?

Compulsions are something you must do without a physical reason.

Addiction is something you need because your body has developed a tolerance that needs to be satiated.

At what point does a habit become a compulsion or addiction?
When does a habit become a bad habit?
Everyone has habits, they are part of life.
How many people acknowledge their good habits?

I would say I have the least patience for excessive
childishness, selfishness, bigotry, negativity , or narcissism

and poor hygiene, particularly leading to bad odors, is also something I cannot tolerate , but is easily fixed by washing up ...