Step one: (probably the most difficult step) Find someone you like that likes you.

HintIf he or she wants to converse with you that is a good sign.

Step two: Vet the person. Use your common sense if you have any. If you do not have any common sense you really need to stop looking on the internet.

Step three: Once you've established the person is someone worth knowing then get to know them.

Hint This process can, should, and usually does take a LONG time. If you are unwilling to take this time to get to know someone then you are almost certainly doomed to fail at sustaining a viable relationship.

Step four: Once you've completed step three the two of you either move forward together or separately go back to step one.


Hey, I said not complicated. I did not say easy. The bottom line is that so many of you appear to be completely lost about socializing and the process of genuinely getting to know people. There are no shortcuts.

Understand?

Hahaha! Love it!

Or you could just give the local hooker a couple of bucks and get it done and over with, go home, lay on the couch, drink beer and watch sports on TV in peace.

Yes Sir, I understand, it shouldn't that be so complicated....Oh Well....lolzzzz

Exactly. People need to know what works for them...

No offense, but I think how a person does go about getting to know others, is of necessity, very unique and personal. The methods an individual uses to learn about another person might seem useless to you, but that's because you are looking for different sensibilities than they are.

No offense, but the proof is in the pudding as they say. I see many of the same people looking and failing since the last millennium. Maybe I'm totally off base, but I believe in a large number of cases that people are "struggling" with the process. They repeat and compound their mistakes time and time again.

I do understand that everyone has their own way, but at the very least there still needs to be a consistency and logic to their method.

The tricky thing about what you are saying (at least what I think you are saying) is that some methods fail because they are inherently illogical or otherwise wrong-headed, while others fail because they are tailored to find a particular kind of mate, and said kind of mate has not yet happened into the "neighborhood." I am thinking of the latter when I take issue with your opening statement.

The dating process is easy and simple to do.
Step one: Find someone you like that likes you.
Its not that difficult or complicated if you are out there and paying attention.
Step two: Vet the person.
Again, not that difficult if you understand what you're looking for in that person.
Step three: get to know them.
Technically that is still step two but at a finer degree of detail.
Step four: Once you've completed step three, the two of you either move forward together or separately go back to step one.
Essentially, that is true.

What I see...a lot, is people expect to find love at step one.
It makes the other steps Biased and Jaded.

Finding that LOVE connection is step Five or possibly step Six.

Dating is a process to find someone you COULD love. Nothing more.

Establishing a loving relationship takes time and understanding.
Physical, mental and spiritual compatability must first be established for both of you and to a relatively similar degree.

Actual love is not complicated at all.
If it is, perhaps you are making it that way because you are not really in love with that person in the first place.

Love has never been complicated for me.
I either love someone or I don't.
If I don't more often than I do, I gotta end the relationship cause its not love.

Commitment and dedication can be difficult sometimes, it does take work on both parts.

Dating is simple.
Love is simple.

We make it difficult and complicated.

If a "gentleman" (not an ordinary man) gets a 1st date by a couple of written,audio or video communication sendings; then; that is a giant 1st step in the dating objective. After that;all can follow right or not.

First date comes from a genuine interest by both;actor and actress.

No.
As long as you don't change your minds often!