I will always love my ex girlfriend and the memories we had

I take it you haven't split that long ago?
Apart from that, I often read/hear this from men. I think -based on myself and what I read and hear from other women- that women in general work through a breakup, heal and move on.
Men on the other hand often seem to remain stuck in the past. A crying shame, because it means you aren't free, and when you aren't you cannot find new love either. You can get involved again, but in a way you are not really available until you've totally let go of the ex and all that came with that. Like dreams and hopes and memories.
I also have memories, but they don't interfere with a new relationship. They're in the past, and nothing more than memories.
I'm not entirely sure why men in general find it so difficult to move on. Maybe it's because the feminine is more used to dealing with emotions and feelings than the masculine. Maybe men simply don't know how to deal with it, how to get over it and heal because they have never really been taught to deal with emotions and feelings. Even today mostly the masculine is told to 'man up'.

I met in hospital she was a nurse in the hospital when I had the bleed on my brain and she saw past my disability of not been able to walk she saw me for me, good sense of humour and big heart and was there at an important part of my life I will always care for her but she says she's moved on but I understand but it doesn't me I will always worry and care for her

Maybe it makes me stupid

I wouldn't say it makes you stupid, sounds like you are a caring man. Grieving a loss whether it's through death or the end of a relationship is never easy. It takes time and like crystal said, dealing with your emotions and being able to let go and move on.

Letting go and moving on doesn't mean you don't care anymore. I think that's where a lot of people who struggle with grief get stuck. The thought of moving on some how feels to you that you no longer care. So you hold on for dear life, and end up miserable, not able to think of anything else. That's a sad place to be in life.

Going through the grieving process, allowing yourself to find closure, sets you free from that and gives you the opportunity to have a fulfilling life, with or without someone new. You still have the memories to look back on, but it's not as painful. You're able to be happy for the other person and know that even though they aren't in your life, they will always have a special place in your heart.

Best wishes to you!

I'm ready to move on that's why I joined here, just because I care for her doesn't me I can't fall in love with somebody else, I'd never stop loving my family

Sounds like you are on the right track. I hope you find what you are searching for.

Not stupid ~ Ignorant.

Now, before you get all butt-hurt ignorance is a lack of understanding.
My response was not meant to be degrading.

People fall in and out of love all the time.
Love is not something that should be forced.
You either love someone or you don't.

There are always moments when that love is not felt.
What keeps us is that often there are more moments when love is felt than when it is not.

You can't "Make" someone else love you.
Love is something that we feel inside ourselves.
We can demonstrate our love to others in many ways.
Those demonstrations don't necessarily cause others to feel love for us in return.

I love many people in my life for different reasons. There are times when I don't feel love for them too.
If you had a loving connection with that woman you should see it as a gift and understand that she may not feel the same that you do. You can still love the things she expressed to you but you should also understand that its okay to love others.

The wisdom that you gained with her tells you the qualities that others have that touch your heart. It gives you something to look forward to with all the next women you meet. It allows you to adjust yourself to be lovable.

If you think positive you will exude positive confidence. Women like confident, positive men.

Everything that has been said.
Also, it's not clear to me if just you had feelings for her or if it was reciprocated for a while... but often ppl develop feelings for a caretaker when they are/become dependent on them. Kind of Stockholm syndrome, which comes in various grades from mild to severe.
I think it happens to nurses a lot, depending on where they work in hospital. Obviously not when it's daycare but departments where they care for the same patients for a longer period of time, I'm certain it happens.
Might be worth pondering...
In any case, work on regarding yourself as worthy, whole and lovable. That will help you to fully move on.

no. if you fall out of love you were never in love

Wise words!
I agree whole-heartedly. (with Crystal Fairy Too!)

Physical trauma changes our lives when it happens.
I went thru grief trying to deal with my new disability.
It is known as PTSD (Post-traumatic Stress Disorder)
A disorder that causes stress due to a traumatic event.

Seek out a psycologist that specializes in PTSD.

PTSD often leads to self-esteem issues brought on by depression.
Depression reinforces itself thru negative thought processes.
Sufferers of PTSD usually have no idea they are perpetuating their own depression. I didn't. I needed someone to enlighten me.

Here is one tidbit of advice that really helped me.
"Redirect your negative thoughts to something else."
If you are feeling blue - do something else that makes you feel good.
Personally, I used music and art to redirect my negative moods.

The key is to not dwell in the negative things in life.
Start seeing and saying "That's a Good Thing" everytime you see something, anything good.

I still go to dark places in my mind. I now have the knowledge and willpower to redirect those negative thoughts. I look at a lot of kitten and puppy pictures.

Try to remember that our minds are strange places and when those negative thoughts and moods try to take ahold, its not unusual and you don't need to beat yourself up for it. Just change the thinking and let it go.

I call bullcrap!
I detest my X. At one time I would have died for her. I loved her but I don't love her anymore.

During my long 25 year marriage there were times when I loved her and times when I didn't. Love is a moment by moment feeling inside.

if you fall out of Hate you were never in Hate is just the same as what you said.
so is
if you fall out of Depression you were never in Depression.
if you fall out of Joy you were never in Joy.
if you fall out of Anger you were never in Anger.

My point is that emotional states are momentary and come and go naturally (at least they are supposed to do that).

I agree totally I've learnt a lot from being with her, which me a better person which is what I always try to do

Ummm.. according to my last serious relationship apparently you can fall out of love..stone.cold....

She was different to the rest I'd just had a bleed on my brain and was struggling to come to terms with it and I felt her heart then I started to look at her outer beauty but she'd won my heart, we split because when I came out of hospital I started to drink as I was struggling to come to terms to how my life had changed and her grandad died and I wasn't therefore her so she slept with someone else to hurt me because she was hurt but I forgave her because I loved her so much but in the end she just said she didn't love me, it's taught me so much that beauty is on the inside I always just went for lucks to be stronger in life and not let things beat me, it pushes me on they said I'd never walk which I'm now walking without my walking stick, I'm striving to be the best I can be I believe in myself now and now when I next meet someone I won't let them go so easily I will consider there feelings and not be so selfish

That's why I say am I stupid I thought when you love some you you love them unconditionally, I sometimes think I care to much

I try to live and love in the moment.
I feel unconditional love for my children.
I suspect there may be some conditions that would test that but those are not in their nature.

Instead of getting all hung up on what love is supposed to be, just live and love in the moment.
Cherish those moments when love is strongest and live in those moments when it isn't.

Nobody but you can tell you what love is all about for you. I can only share my own thoughts on it, how it pertains to me.

The way I see it you either love someone right now or you don't. You may love someone in an hour, a day, a week or even a year or you don't. I do know that I exist in the present. That present changes every moment. I change with it.

Trying to love in the past or love in the future when I exist in the present just won't work for me.

I wouldn't call it really fall out of love but rather acceptance of the thing of the past and moving on. When we love someone and when we experienced a different kind of love and happiness in those moments with them, it becomes a good memory that lives on forever in our minds and hearts. You cannot just easily erase memories, you can ignore it but you cannot delete it. That person had left a mark and a space in your heart. Even if you are no longer together, he or she will always be a part of your life, becomes a memory of the past.Special moments are unforgettable. All the people that came into our lives leaves a memory , either bad or good in different levels or form we keep that feeling inside our hearts, love or hate and they might vary in their intensity. When love is strong from the start, and when that person had done extraordinary things to you or made a difference in your life, how could you ever forget? But not forgetting someone doesn't mean you still love her or you can't move on or still loving someone doesn't mean you just can't get over that person. We may not have fallen out of love actually but just have accepted the reality and try to change the intensity of feelings by controlling ones mind and emotions and wanting to move on to be happy. This is how it goes ..... Tell ex, I love you still but not the way it was before, I love you only as a friend now and I have a new life. Thank you for the love.....I am happy now

I think its totally possible to fall out of love with someone.

Sometimes severe hurt can terminate those warm feelings you once had for someone, but if it was true love, I really think that some level of care remains.....Not yearning, but general care for their welfare/happiness.

That said, I think many people don't know how to cope with the love they
still feel after a breakup.

For many people, staying in contact only fuels the love they still feel, making it almost impossible for them to get closure, to heal and move forward. Some people cant move forward unless they make a clean break

Im not saying that its right or wrong. Im just saying it happens

Well said Pisces!