Surely, it's normal to be hurt. Just be glad he chose someone else! Think about it.. he could've told SOMEONE ELSE he was falling for THEM while he was stringing you along, too.. he's someone else's problem! Count your blessings! (I HOPE SHE TURNS OUT TO BE A GUY! LOL)

I'm confused. Way confused. Really really really confused.

hey i am asking the same question...how can u fall in love by email, and phone conversations, and never meet each other? am i missing something?

Ouch.

What can I say? People are people, online, offline, on the street.

We want to see people the same way we want to be seen, sadly some are more smoke and mirrors than their authentic self.

Discernment, and intuition play a large part, in this medium, I have a wonderful intuition, it is only when I choose to ignore it, or want for the other to be more than they really are, do I find myself a little hurt.



'People always show themselves, in the end.'

Daaaaummmm...some of you ladies are detailing to the tee a man I talked to months and eventually went out with. He also did the same thing to many other women online. Some he was going to meet and just stopped talking to them all at once. He was the same...never mailed you back, nothing. Zilch
Kat

wow--
similar situation awhile back
but this is what happens when you are sincere and others are not
there are all kinds of people--
be careful and move slowly

That's why most online relationships don't work. They mess around with your feelings and make you deal with your own pain. However, your not being a baby about this situation because you were actually trying to have some sort of committment to this guy but he just ****ed you over. Just let him go, you'll get someone better then some lying piece of ****. If he can't be truthful to you from the start, then it'll hurt you 10x more then what you're feeling right now.

Sorry to hear of what happened to you. If it hasn't already been said, just be glad you didn't lose any more of your life to such a loser.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. SOME men can be such IDIOTS, take it from someone who has been there. As terrible as this sounds, Mr. Right will come along, and all the HURT will go away. It will make you appreciate him so much more!!!!

Believe me...it WILL happen.

throw a brick through his windshield...

Hey there, the first mistake you made was to jump to conclusions. I know emotions can make some acts go yonder, but the fact remains that all cannot happen over email and phone. You still have unanswered areas if you really dont meet the guy. Long distance friendships may be great but falling in love is about being together. Maybe the guy just wanted win over for reasons all of us know, and when he saw that things going otherwise, it was convinient for him to end it while you had a different perspective altogether....You should move on, as he was never meant to be with you.....And when you do find someone then you must make sure the curiosity will bring them to you. If they take that trouble then its work going for it. Believe me, there are good guys out there, but you also need good judgement to find one and that calls not just for phone conversations, but an effort to be closer as well. !!

You have a right to be upset but chalk it up to life honey. First rule of thumb it's impossible to fall in love with someone you've never met....you love the idea of them and what you've created in youre mind but the true person you dod not know. Just be more careful next time remember they are a voice on hte phone and words on a screen you have no way of knowing if whats being said is the truth or just a facade to go along with the dream they are giving you

Well I hate to be judgmental so I won't but it sounds like you put too much money in one stock so to speak. You gotta diversify and if you do, just know you could loose and that's part of it, but you sometimes win too! Fall back and let it happen naturally.

That would be great, huh? LOL! Shame on me for thinking that, but I have had worse thoughts. I am pretty much over it now. Everyone's advice has helped. I guess I just had that moment of frustration. Thank You!!!

I guess I am just different than most people. It was a time in my life when I needed conversation, and he catered to my feelings. A bit of a fool! I know! You are right, How can you fall in love by e-mailing, texting, and phone conversations? Well, all I can say is that I have come across too many men in my life that have only been all about my looks and never got to know me. I decided to do the online dating because I thought it would make a man look at my personality and see how intelligent I am instead of how great my ass and breasts are. LOL!
All in all, I still believe that it is possible, only because I will not stop dreaming (fool), but I do know that the effort the next person takes to actually meet me and we spend time together to see if we are compatible, is the most important factor. Once again, I do appreciate everyones advice. I read everyone, and I take each quote into consideration. Have a great day, Everyone!!!!

It's called intellectual attraction which is just as powerful and usually longer lasting.

Exactly, I knew somebody had to have a term for it. Thank You! I believe that it is more powerful and longer lasting.

Just be thankful you didn't start seeing each other and get a call from his wife. Happened to me on more than one occasion.

You are so right! I am sorry that happened to you. I bet that hurt was way deeper. I wouldn't know how to respond to that if it happened to me. I hope you the best for the future!

I've been on dating sites for several years on and off. This is one of the typical problems I see all the time. People never laying eyes on each other, and "falling in love". I believe people who fall in love like this, which is not love at all, are missing something in their lives, longing for someone, coming out of a relationship or just lonely. Women and men can be real SOB's, whether in the real world or in this medium. Look around you, do you see how many available people there are on this site alone. The grass to some always seems a bit greener on the other side.

Learn from this lesson the player taught you. And remember, you can't fall in love without ever meeting face to face. Until that happens, it's a fantacy you create in your mind.