Hello everyone. I am an older lady and live in central Florida. Why is it so difficult to meet anyone here? I am an artist and have other interests, I am attractive or so I've been told and I certainly don't act nor look like a senior citizen. I own my house and share it with my dog.
I didn't date for a very long time (nearly seven years)because my mother was ill and I took care of her until she passed away in 2015. I joined OKCupid in December and only met three guys and they are younger than me.
No guys around my own age were interested and I think I know why.
It seems that many older men are trying to hookup with ladies much younger than themselves. I've looked at a lot of profiles and I see that men in their 50's and 60's say in their profile that they only want to be contacted by really young women. Really? Lol.
Well, unless these men have money growing on a tree in their yard, I really doubt that they get very many dates with young ladies.
The younger men who have contacted me either think that I have money growing on a tree and/or they think that just because I am older and more 'mature' that all I want from them is a hookup. They are very wrong.
Why is so hard to meet a nice guy who wants to get to know me and see if there is a connection? I'm a nice lady, I don't bother anyone, I keep to myself, I have a good sense of humor, I'm caring, compassionate and affectionate. I'm not a 'cougar' on the prowl.
I think part of my problem is that I don't hang out in pubs and I don't socialize much. I moved to this town a few years ago and I don't know anyone. This is why I joined two dating sites. This dating site and OKCupid suck. Plain and simple.
On OKCupid I continually get messages from scammers and catfishers. I recognize them straight away. I just rejoined this site (Mingle) the other day just to see if it has improved but of course it hasn't.

So what is the answer? How do people meet up and get to know each other?

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Hi Redheadedlady54! Well I will say welcome to the Mingle2 forums.
You have ventured into this part of Mingle2, and this is where some of us real people hang out on the website.
Take part in the forums. It will give you an opportunity to see some of the real people on Mingle2, but also give you a little insight into others personalities, or thoughts on all sorts of subjects.
Who knows? You may find some guy that you like and vice versa in the forums.

Anyways, good luck and welcome.

I'm surprised you haven't been more successful here. There has been a lot of post from young men expressing interest in "older" women lately. When the offers do start rolling in snap them up and stop holding out for someone your age or older. After all, why would you want a car which very rarely fires up anymore?

Unfortunately people tend to fall into a rut; work, home, eat, sleep, work, home, and then wonder why they don't meet people.

In order to meet people you need to get out of the rut and socialize. Go to places where people in your age range, and who are interested in the things you are interested in go. And yes, that may mean going out, (gasp), alone, and actually taking the chance of approaching and having a casual conversation with people you don't know.

I agree with you, hard for older women to meet it seems all our age guys want the younger women. Then there is the young who think you have a lot of money (NOT) Then the scammers who think you have lots of money and are stupid enough to send it to them. I wish you lots of luck I find all the dating sites the same.

Thank you very much for the warm welcome. So far there have been about ten or so men who have messaged me in a matter of two days. Every one of them are either scammers or they are catfishing.
Yesterday I had quite a long chat with someone who said he was in London and he had a nice long profile and several photos. We chatted throughout the day. He of course said he doesn't use any type of social media but he told me that he does use Skype and he said he uses Whatsapp. Great! I asked him for his number and all I got was radio silence. Haven't heard from him since.
I really don't understand why I can't meet an actual man who lives in my area and actually wants to talk to me and go out to dinner or something.
Have all dating sites turned into a hangout for scammers?
Oh I forgot to mention the guy who I chatted with yesterday for a bit. He seemed alright for a while then the conversation turned to sex. No thanks.

I'm not holding out for anyone my own age and in fact, I prefer younger men. All I'm getting are scammers.

On OKCupid I said in my profile that just because I am an older lady, it certainly doesn't mean I have money. I said, "you probably have more money that I do".
Yes there are a LOT of scammers on these dating sites AND people who love to catfish. It's exactly why I ask them to video chat with me.
I wish you luck as well and you are right, all of these dating sites are the same.

this site is loaded with scammers as well, but mixed in there are some very real people, so just keep doing what you are doing and you very well may find the man you are looking for.

There is really no golden rule or advice that can be given, other then that

Hi redheadedlady...did you finally meet someone? I have been around for almost 2 months and I have only met a person here...is it really important for people to post a pic so they can contact you???

I am tired of young girls and scammers sending me messages here on this dating site, Are there any new and older woman here?

I'm also new to dating site, this is my first actually. Let's be friends

Same as you.I live in Florida,dont hang out in bars and tho I think men are a dime a dozen,i never am interested in the ones out my front door.On here I can connect to great men from the UK and Ireland.Try that,They are lovely and kind.Disprnsewith the locals and try farther afield,its fun.Dont give up

hello and welcome, redheadedlady54!
i can relate to your exasperation about scammers and other fake people.
in my past line of work as a trucker it seemed there were scammers,hookers,junkies,perverts and criminals everywhere... it got so bad many times i internalized(isolated)myself from the reality of my situation.
as we get older i think some of us go through drastic social and personal changes as i did.
i was 'self-contained' during my truck driving years, dealing with people only when i had to, and i paid a heavy price being that way...
i'm better adapted now and hope to help others to the best that i am able...
in closing i wish you good hunting and suggest a christian video that really helped me...its called 'in the fire' by T.D. Jakes...

peace/out...

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Men from the UK are lovely and kind thanks, your cheque is in the post

You laugh at the fact that many older men want to meet younger women when you yourself express a preference for meeting younger men

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