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lack of convictions, values, morals and standards spring to my mind 
I accept that there is two sides to this topic.. and I respect the fact.. that this is just the way it is... |
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Ohh..Not the EPA the standards and practice thing.. I don't know what the abbreviation for that is SP Sap..lol
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I accept that my values are my own
I take full ownership of them I have taken the time to evaluate them they are mine they may not be yours I have no intention of selling myself short settling for something that will ultimately lead to my unhappiness know thyself know what I mean? your values are your own |
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Whether the relationship status is separated, divorced, widowed, or even single the biggest problem I had, when I dated, was unfinished business. I found it extremely irritating to try and have a conversation with someone who was still grinding an ax against an ex. "Eff you! You're on a date with me. either move on or get out of the dating pool."
This irritating reality is usually most common among separated people hence my own reluctance to date them. However, I never made it a moral issue because that is just silly, judgemental, and almost always hypocritical. |
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our experience leads to our perception which leads to our reality...
Must have sucked to have dated those stuck on an ex Waterloo, your hesitation is an understandable result 
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our experience leads to our perception which leads to our reality... Must have sucked to have dated those stuck on an ex Waterloo, your hesitation was an understandable result
Fixed it since I stopped dating long ago. Anyway... It happens frequently once you hit a certain age. In a way it was a good thing since it was such a non starter. I didn't care what else she had going on. If any ISSUE with the ex entered the conversation I was out. Simple... |
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I think every single case would be different to some extent.
I think there would be some seperated people who would never go back to the other half, violent relationships for instance. However, there must be some cases were there's a chance that they may reconsider and eventually want to go back to their ex. So where do you draw the line. |
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I think every single case would be different to some extent. I think there would be some seperated people who would never go back to the other half, violent relationships for instance. However, there must be some cases were there's a chance that they may reconsider and eventually want to go back to their ex. So where do you draw the line. Same with the person that is separated telling you that they have a good relationship with their ex a healthy one not physical.. perhaps they have children together they share custody with.. but they reassure you that the relationship that once was is over.. well for myself I wouldn't have a problem dating that person.. But yes if you're talking metaphorically where do we stop.. Putting ourselves out there expanding ourselves as a person accepting other people and there'.. past and paths there are now.. Well that's up to each person to rub the Buddha bellies. belly.. and ask for divine wisdom..lol |
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I think every single case would be different to some extent. I think there would be some seperated people who would never go back to the other half, violent relationships for instance. However, there must be some cases were there's a chance that they may reconsider and eventually want to go back to their ex. So where do you draw the line. Same with the person that is separated telling you that they have a good relationship with their ex a healthy one not physical.. perhaps they have children together they share custody with.. but they reassure you that the relationship that once was is over.. well for myself I wouldn't have a problem dating that person.. But yes if you're talking metaphorically where do we stop.. Putting ourselves out there expanding ourselves as a person accepting other people and there'.. past and paths there are now.. Well that's up to each person to rub the Buddha bellies. belly.. and ask for divine wisdom..lol My first line was more to the point of what I meant, each case would be different. I'm sort of similar in that where would I draw the line. What if her ex was a complete nut case and her divorce was ongoing. Would I miss the chance of meeting a diamond just because her divorce wasn't final yet. I'm all for having standards and morals but we all have a story. As it happens I was due to meet a woman off here (no one from the forums) She was divorced and casually mentioned one day that she had a restraining order put on her by her ex, so obviously I swerved that one. Seperated and waiting for a divorce to come through? It takes a lot to leave someone who you've loved and lived with, that's for sure. |
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I think every single case would be different to some extent. I think there would be some seperated people who would never go back to the other half, violent relationships for instance. However, there must be some cases were there's a chance that they may reconsider and eventually want to go back to their ex. So where do you draw the line. Same with the person that is separated telling you that they have a good relationship with their ex a healthy one not physical.. perhaps they have children together they share custody with.. but they reassure you that the relationship that once was is over.. well for myself I wouldn't have a problem dating that person.. But yes if you're talking metaphorically where do we stop.. Putting ourselves out there expanding ourselves as a person accepting other people and there'.. past and paths there are now.. Well that's up to each person to rub the Buddha bellies. belly.. and ask for divine wisdom..lol My first line was more to the point of what I meant, each case would be different. I'm sort of similar in that where would I draw the line. What if her ex was a complete nut case and her divorce was ongoing. Would I miss the chance of meeting a diamond just because her divorce wasn't final yet. I'm all for having standards and morals but we all have a story. As it happens I was due to meet a woman off here (no one from the forums) She was divorced and casually mentioned one day that she had a restraining order put on her by her ex, so obviously I swerved that one. Seperated and waiting for a divorce to come through? It takes a lot to leave someone who you've loved and lived with, that's for sure. |
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Edited by
no1phD
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Mon 04/10/17 12:01 PM
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And I too have a similar story was dating a woman.. still am kind of..lol.. she and her ex do not get along still talking with lawyers arguing over custody.. money and things of this nature... if it wasn't for the great sex that her and I share between ourselves... I would have bowed out a long time ago.... and she has a young child as well which kind of freaks me out..hmmm... not what I was looking for at all..but.. she really knows what she's doing in the bedroom..hmmm. and out of the bedroom..lol..
Oh my God I'm such a selfish bastard |
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I think every single case would be different to some extent. I think there would be some seperated people who would never go back to the other half, violent relationships for instance. However, there must be some cases were there's a chance that they may reconsider and eventually want to go back to their ex. So where do you draw the line. Same with the person that is separated telling you that they have a good relationship with their ex a healthy one not physical.. perhaps they have children together they share custody with.. but they reassure you that the relationship that once was is over.. well for myself I wouldn't have a problem dating that person.. But yes if you're talking metaphorically where do we stop.. Putting ourselves out there expanding ourselves as a person accepting other people and there'.. past and paths there are now.. Well that's up to each person to rub the Buddha bellies. belly.. and ask for divine wisdom..lol My first line was more to the point of what I meant, each case would be different. I'm sort of similar in that where would I draw the line. What if her ex was a complete nut case and her divorce was ongoing. Would I miss the chance of meeting a diamond just because her divorce wasn't final yet. I'm all for having standards and morals but we all have a story. As it happens I was due to meet a woman off here (no one from the forums) She was divorced and casually mentioned one day that she had a restraining order put on her by her ex, so obviously I swerved that one. Seperated and waiting for a divorce to come through? It takes a lot to leave someone who you've loved and lived with, that's for sure. I have a great story about drawing lines in sand, i mean real sand on the beach. I think I'll write a poem about it sometime soon. |
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I think every single case would be different to some extent. I think there would be some seperated people who would never go back to the other half, violent relationships for instance. However, there must be some cases were there's a chance that they may reconsider and eventually want to go back to their ex. So where do you draw the line. Same with the person that is separated telling you that they have a good relationship with their ex a healthy one not physical.. perhaps they have children together they share custody with.. but they reassure you that the relationship that once was is over.. well for myself I wouldn't have a problem dating that person.. But yes if you're talking metaphorically where do we stop.. Putting ourselves out there expanding ourselves as a person accepting other people and there'.. past and paths there are now.. Well that's up to each person to rub the Buddha bellies. belly.. and ask for divine wisdom..lol My first line was more to the point of what I meant, each case would be different. I'm sort of similar in that where would I draw the line. What if her ex was a complete nut case and her divorce was ongoing. Would I miss the chance of meeting a diamond just because her divorce wasn't final yet. I'm all for having standards and morals but we all have a story. As it happens I was due to meet a woman off here (no one from the forums) She was divorced and casually mentioned one day that she had a restraining order put on her by her ex, so obviously I swerved that one. Seperated and waiting for a divorce to come through? It takes a lot to leave someone who you've loved and lived with, that's for sure. I have a great story about drawing lines in sand, i mean real sand on the beach. I think I'll write a poem about it sometime soon. 
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@ Nr1, I see your point and I do apologize. It wasn't meant that way, but I do see it isn't nice. I should have left that part out, the rest is really just my view and nothing to do with you whatsoever.
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@ Nr1, I see your point and I do apologize. It wasn't meant that way, but I do see it isn't nice. I should have left that part out, the rest is really just my view and nothing to do with you whatsoever.
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 you're married?   
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@ Nr1, I see your point and I do apologize. It wasn't meant that way, but I do see it isn't nice. I should have left that part out, the rest is really just my view and nothing to do with you whatsoever.
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If that is someone's thing...go get em tiger. Not for me. Being opposed doesn't always equal hostility This. ^^^ |
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If that is someone's thing...go get em tiger. Not for me. Being opposed doesn't always equal hostility This. ^^^ What did I win? 
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you're married?
... don't worry... what happens in the forums stay in the forums 
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