I think as guy's its like were preprogramed to want a woman, like biomechanical programming, you see how sexy she is in the photo or in the street, and you want her. But when you experience how difficult, how messy it is to actually be involved "living" with a woman, you don't want to be involved with a woman.

The mechanics of my body and my desires want her, but in real life I don't want to be stuck in no living conditions with her. When your just stuck in a house, or a flat with her, with no where to go. Any guy what has experienced that knows what I'm talking about.

What a conundrum.

Not only guys think this way. It happens when your relationship is based on only physical attraction. If you don't have anything else in common with that person, it is really difficult to stay with her/him as you don't feel comfortable share your space with a stranger.

Answer the three simple questions...
Would you feel the same warm and friendly feelings towards her if take away all physical attraction?
Do you like her values and principles?
Can you accept her the way she is, despite she isn't perfect?

If you can honestly answer 'yes' to all questions, then you have found right partner for yourself.

Superficial and immature.
Sure ppl still have primal instincts that define our behaviour and needs up to a point.
And it used to be important for men to impregnate many women. It used to be important to woman to bind the man at least temporarily to protect her and the young child they had created. All to do with survival of the species.

If you want to let your life be dictated by your knob and testosterone, you won't get much further than lusting after every woman you see. Likely won't make you very happy cos in the end men also need love. Another primary need. And that need prolly won't get fulfilled as long as you keep running after your hormone driven knob.

That's why it is important to find someone you enjoy being with and makes your life more interesting as a couple...some of us never find that match and settle for the FWB relationship.

rather surprised you are not in your twenties

Some never get there I think? Well, not until 'it' ceases to function like it used to... Then they start offering massages instead of sex to women, hoping they'll get away with it, only to find that women their age are at their sexual peak and they cannot fulfill them with massages.
Geezzz.. I'm glad I'm a woman, haha

That's why I'M PREPARED now ...
I bought a chocolate gun ( Hope it helps )..
for my next and final adventure..

Neh,..NOT UNLESS I FIND IT. ( Must be RIGHT this time )

..lol. . I don't need love.!!.
But.. you can line all these women up that need impregnating.. have them bend over and let them know I'll be there in a few minutes..ok..lmao..wink.

Very true when I was young my moral compass was shooken a lot because my parents split up after telling me that it was a sacred vow that only loved ones should do

The opening post was long ago simplified in the old phrase:

"Can't live without them, can't live with them."


Yeah, but all this really comes down to, is that when you're a kid, it's common to get the idea that as soon as you find someone to say they love you, that everything else will just fall into place and happen naturally. And the way you're supposed to figure out who you love, is that you feel that anxious nervousness inside whenever they are near, and a less fun version of the same thing when they start to go away.

But just as we find out the hard way that mom and dad weren't creating money by bringing out a credit card (they had to earn it first somehow), we also find out the hard way that love doesn't just happen, and then make everything else wonderful either. In fat, whenever someone thinks it HAS worked out that way, they are usually headed for a huge fall.

I'm sure I said guys, I can see a few feminine looking faces on here!!!

Sorry, it is an open forum and anyone can respond.

Well these are open forums for all. Can't exclude.

I agre with the above posts

I love when she makes a mess.