Do grand romantic gestures influence you positively or make you back up and say let me think again? What would be awe so cool or make you run for the hills?

Well I would say that grand gestures of romantic feelings would possibly set me back. Make me think what am I in for? As I've never had any big gestures done for me. Small gestures is more of what gets me...


now....Nice to see you again PacificStar.

looking at rings before even meeting families is too big

I real time serenade at an unexpected moment would be awe so cool

Getting those big pieces of chalk and drawing on the street in front of her house.. nake a big heart. Shape.. with an arrow going through it... put both of your initials inside of it ..like we .used to do as children..For Valentine's Day

Depends on how grand it is and how soon it is, if it's after only a week of dating, I'd be having second thoughts.

Depends on a lot of things.
Like the nature of our relationship up to that point.
Like what I know about them.

Like if that's their "thing" and they do them all the time.
Like if it's them that considers it a grand gesture and I don't, or if it's a grand gesture to me but for them it's just a gesture.

If it's an honest grand romantic gesture with the grandness simply representing or meant to convey their depth/level of feeling or understanding then I like to think I am "influenced" positively.

If the grand romantic gesture is being made and appears to have strings and expectations and/or is following a script, is not stemming from healthy communication so much as a desire to manipulate something from me, then I think I tend to "back up and say let me think again."


Lots of things. Most to all of which would have no meaning to you as they're subjective to me and we have no relationship by which you could in any way understand what they "truly" meant to me.

I'd have to know what the exact Grand Romantic Gesture was, and as others have said, when it happens.

In a way, I suppose you could be asking whether or not I could be persuaded to change my mind positively about someone, because of the size or the expense or the amount of work involved with the "gesture." I'd say no to that, only because I'm completely convinced to the core of my being, that following fact based logic is the way to go. And if I've decided to leave someone, I would only have done so if I was convinced that leaving was the thing to do, because of who each of us are. No "gesture," however grand, could change who we each are, so the reasons to end things are the same.

Welcome back PStar!

I think a surprise trip organised by your suitor or gifts delivered to my door or workplace or a seranade is super sweet !

But personally I feel uncomfortable at the idea of any of these things happening before the 3-6 month mark of dating.

I feel that the challenge in receiving these grand gestures too soon is that you are still learning if their motives are pure and if they are consistent with the person they present themselves to be.

Until that happens , I feel cautious about receiving grand gestures like that. And quite frankly, I value consistent tiny gestues of regard and respect than all the over the top stuff that often disappear after the suitor gets want they want from you, whether it be sex, a relationship or marriage

To me romantic implies a relationship that is familiar.
In the initial stages of my relationships, while familiarity is building, I try to be as natural as I can be without the push of romance. I am romantic at heart so sometimes me being me is seen or accepted as romantic.

At the point where the relationship builds to love. I have been known to be a grand romantic because I demonstrate my love when I feel it. The deeper the love I feel the more grand the gestures I use to express it.

To me a grand romantic gesture is not one that requires money, work or sacrifice. Grand represents a gesture that specifically demonstrates my love to her. Since I tend to love whole-heartedly I put everything I can muster into making her feel my love for her.

If I have not realized love for her and she demonstrates a grand romantic gesture towards me I understand and accept her act of love as long as I can see a relationship as being possible. If I do not see us in a relationship of more than friendship then I will stop her and thank her and explain how I feel.

Any romantic gesture, grand or not, that is directed towards me when there is no relationship I just ignore unless I feel some connection might be possible. Its like sexual advances from strangers in a bar. If I am not interested I ignore.

What makes any gesture romantic is how well you know and care for each other. The gesture is personal and meaningful. You can give someone a single rose and it might be ho-hum or it might make her cry tears of joy.

Amazing an almost unseen characteristic here one of integrity an example of character how unexpected and appreciated!!

I am not really big on grand gestures. I like the simple things

I am in the same ball park as ya all
Too much too soon and I am backing away real fast.

In an established relationship then if it is not too intimate it could be kind of sweet. The sweet heart chalked on the street for an wedding anniversary yea. After a date yikes.

I have always worked from the premise if you don't already know the answer to some questions it is probably too soon.

What do you think of the practical jokes kind of romantic gestures?
I have an inner leprechaun that misses doing some of that kind of stuff that did as Wife .

like flushing the toilet when they're in the shower or dumping a cold glass of water over the top of the shower at them LOL

Well probably a little sweeter spirited than that. I was thinking more like showing up at the office with only garters under my raincoat or having his truck filled with balloons. I once put something playful in his BDU pocket.

It depends, If I know the person and we are dating, there's not enough grand romantic gestures that would be too much. However, if the person is online with just basic personal information, and sending grand romantic gestures, that would cause me to sit back and ponder the sincerity. This can pose a dual frame of mind response, either the person genuinely likes me and want to share good times together, or she is in the business of manipulation for her personal gain.