I don't know how everyone else feels, but I have a hard time respecting men who've left their wives and families, even after divorce is final. It feels lame.

Don't mean to take sides, but generally speaking it's not the women who've left their homes and kids.

I just don't know if I'm into younger men. Anyone else feel this way?? including men in the vice versa, if it exists, situation..

Divorce requires BOTH husband and wife to AGREE to end the marriage. It's not always the man leaving the wife and kids. The woman also leaves the husband and kids in some cases. Sometimes the wife kicks the husband out. Sometimes the husband kicks the wife out.

Currently I'm lookingf for a lady I can marry and share my life with. This is when I would ever leave my future wife and that would be when either of us die. To me marriage should be till death. It shouldn't be till they dont feel like living with each other. Dont the wedding vows end along the lines of till death parts you. I would date a divorced woman, If I were to ever marry one I would have to find a new chgrostian denomiation to worship in. Because I am Catholic and a member of the Knights of Columbus. But I would never get a divorce.

someone has to leave, look at it this way, the man is leaving his wife and kids in a home that they know. his is not making them start over from scratch, he is manning up and doing what is best for his family. You will always have the jerks (male and female) who just leave, but when a divorce is needed for the better, then why is it anyones fault for leaving.

i know it's a reality, but i can't help but feel empathy when I know the woman was hurt either.

That's a poor assumption to make. Women are more likely to cheat in a marriage than men are. Being divorced doesn't mean a guy is probably bad. O_o

I agree, just because one parent leaves does not make them bad!

Everyone is to blame...

No one is to blame...

It all sucks that we live in a society that it is so easy to end a marriage. Maybe you should have to take classes to get married? My Rabbi recommended it at the time, but I was traveling for work so we never did it. I wonder sometimes.

No use wondering about the past which I cannot control. Worry about today and hope for tomorrow.

M

michele, i went though classes, lol doesnt help!

well it depends if the guy didn't love his wife you know so its not all their fault it takes two to make a marriage work!

Exactly slut07 (I hate calling you that but it makes me laugh) - it takes two to decide to get married and two to keep a marriage working.

But it only takes one to get a divorce. And on the average, it's not usually the man that initiates a divorce.

So don't be so hard on us divorced guys. =P

Hmmmmm, interesting topic here. I agree with some of what all of you said. I am divorced, I am the one who left and filed, I also gave my ex the house-75% paid off, pay 50% more child support than required too, gee sorry if my ex felt no desire to be in a monogamous relationship, I did and still do. Hate it like hell that my daughter has to grow up in a broken home but I get to spend a lot of time with her still. If someone wouldn't want to be with me because I divorced someone else who did not want to uphold the vows of marriage...no great loss there. But overall that seems like a pretty shallow thing to say. Just because you are divorced does not mean you are a social leper of some sort, men or women.