honestly now..could it really be possible for you guys to be friends only with women you are attracted to?

Not even playful kissing or under armed hugs?

ya, possible but what about casual hugs?

Yes. I have been friends to some I'm attracted to in the past.

Now it doesn't mean I would not try to be more. But I'm not the type who forces the issue with a woman. I stay on the edge of my boundaries. Most of the times.

Sure.

you guys are saying a girl who knows youre attracted to her would just accept that your advances are friendly? or you just wont let her know of the attraction???

friendly hugs and kisses ?

Yes, it is possible.
Chances are, the woman is aware of the guy being attracted to them. Now whether it advances to anything more than that, is subject to the two of them.

I would try seduction...if that fails, I would enjoy the friendship.

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It would be possible but annoying.

You like purses?
On a bright sunny perfect day go to a Louis Vuitton store with $100,000 in your pocket, find the most attractive handbag you've ever seen.
Then have the store owner say "You can't come into the store without offending me. And you can't buy it. You can only look at it through the window...and you have to occasionally clean the window. When things are good, I'll bring it closer to the window. When things are bad, or just because I feel like it, I'll hide it from view. And you have to come every day and put in the same effort. No going to enjoy the bright sunny day. Otherwise I'll know you aren't serious. You will never have that purse, but you can look at it from a distance."

Could it really be possible for you to be a viewer only with something you want and are capable of having except for a seemingly arbitrary decision made by someone else, with their own relationship rules, boundaries, and definitions they impose on you?

That's part of why men and women can't really be friends.

Most everything in life anymore (at least in the U.S.) is set up so you don't have to deny yourself and you can't be denied anything.

The other part is natural biology and human nature.


If the culture was still structured around celebrating boundaries and social facades, denying nature and keeping things to yourself, then men would find a reward in living up to a more "ideal" self.

As it is what's celebrated, therefore incentivized, more often is "being real," and, "being yourself," and, "being honest," and, "don't keep it bottled up," along with the aforementioned "you want it? Go get it. Can't afford it? Use credit. They won't sell or give it to you? Sue them for discrimination, they're the ones doing something wrong. You don't have to accept less than what you want, they have no right to label or judge you."


That's the other side of the coin.
Women shouldn't really trust friendly behavior.
When a human being is being motivated by sex hormones it changes their behavior towards the more gregarious and pleasing. i.e. friendly.

Only oblivious, stupid, self centered, and/or relationship lazy women can ever be assured a guy is being friendly for platonic reasons.
If a guy is friendly towards a woman (no matter the guy. Father, brother, neighbor, boss, employee, cousin, retarded dude on the corner), there is no guarantee it isn't motivated by sexual desire, which will naturally motivate attempts at progress, advances. Some small, some great.

You may get a general idea if you form a very close relationship with the person, enough to get to "really" or "truly" know them.
Of course that will naturally influence and be a part of any other relationship so that other relationships are completely affected by anything in your "friend" relationship.
Not to mention you are ultimately building a romantic relationship, you're just backing into it and making things 10x more difficult as you rationalize it.

And most only pay lip service to that idea, of wanting to and willing to put in the effort, at getting close enough to "really" know what is truly motivating another person at any given time.
Lots of people want shortcuts so they can take complex relationships as easy and for granted.


Other than that:

Could it really be possible for you women to be booty calls only with men you aren't attracted to?
Pretty much the same question.

foof for thought there

Hii

hmm... odd question. Could you be friends with men you are attracted to?
I think you'd always keep hoping for something more than just friends.

I'm personally not a fan of friendship between men and women.
There's always some sexual tension, nature of the beast. People can argue that isn't the case, I don't believe them, I think they're lying to themselves.

Loaded question, sometimes we can not touch what we want to touch, even if we want to touch it, of course, without ruin it.

I agree with you
Always friendship between men and women has sexual tension specially if one of them likes the other or has any kind of feelings.
And to be in a relationship with a person who you like or you have some kind of feelings for him/her , you will be disappointed all the time which is not.. the way you see things and think about it will be totally different from his/ her..

When we cross this threshold, almost impossible to comeback.

I have never met a girl/woman that I found attractive that wanted to be more then friends. So yes it is possible I have only ever been friends with the women I find attractive.

I don't have many of them but I do have a few men that are friends and nothing more. They run the gambit from being guys I once thought I was interested in dating but the more I got to know them the more I knew we were not compatible to guys that I never considered dating and they never considered dating me.
Then there are the word games all the other guys I have met play where they ask "can we be friends?" That usually is short lived because as soon as they figure out I really have no dating interest in them they disappear.

Nope. That's not what I said.