Good Day, my beautiful Shots to all that continue to follow my forums, it teaches me my thoughts can bring people together rather it's serious or we buggin' out. Okay, check this out, America, okay I was downtown at my city's main library and I felt like reading a African American novelty, the author by Reshonda Tate Billingsley. Its called " Best Kept Secret". it made me think about what if you date a person and you madly over heels or Nikes(us guys) over them. You date, you introduce them to your friends , family, & sometimes your children. Everybody says you & them are a cute couple and see true happiness. So you take it to the next step and ask for there hand in marriage , they agree. Now you on top of your A,B,& C game you truly happy. Then one day, you met the devil, and you find out somehow your love of your life is badly Bipolar, badly Manic Depressive, Badly Psychosis, & also has number od disorders. Before you answer this , read my words carefully, would you still pursue a relationship or marriage after you found out about your lovers illness? Would it make it easier if they confessed this from the beginning or would you leave? Maybe its too much to bare, maybe the craziness is too much? What would you do, let's talk about this & share dialogue. We'll Talk soon!

having experience with such illness, I would prefer not to have that particular strugle

if it was hidden(hard to do) long enough for me to fall in love,,it would depend upon how well it was managed and how it manifested. I would not stick around if it manifested in any way that was a danger to me or my child or if there were any weapons accessible to them

EyeAmYourHost39,

Me, to be honest it really depends how sick she has to be. I mean if she loyal to her meds, and she has the spells in control , I guess we can work it out. Just don't do no Glenn Close type of **** & have a knife up to me as I awaking in the morning, I don't have a rabbit but I have a pet possum and I would hate to see my little friend in somebody's pot.....lol.

Ms Harmony,

Hey its always wonderful to see in my cyber home, well, I guess I would have to see in your favor. But Can Out weighs the illness. when I read the book the husband " Lance" in the book couldn't understand why his wife was flipping out, doing odd things, and mood swinging the way she did. She never told him about her illness and it caught up with her later. Her mother would shelter her , deny her her daughters illness. even told her not to tell her husband and allow him to marry you.

That's an easy peasy question. Hell Noooo!!

I excepted long ago that the only woman that would date me has ether got serious mental issues or is incredible desperate. Ether way, her dropping this bombshell in my lap would not surprise me in the least which is, oh yeah, why I stopped dating.

If you haven't known them long enough to know their mental, emotional and physical health issues, before asking them to marry you, then you are moving way to fast. If they are hiding their illness(es) from you, (which should become noticeable)then what else would they hide from you. I'd be gone.

Imo if you have already asked for her hand in marriage before you realized this. .makes me think 2 things

1. You moved way way way too quickly, and didn't allow yourself enough time to get to know them.

or

2. You did allow yourself enough time, but this would mean that side of them never surfaced so if it was a condition it would appear to be well managed. ..

So I guess my answer would depend in what situation was the accurate one

No. Get the hell away from her as fast as you can.

What I'd do... depends on the situation, how the relationship is working out, why he hadn't told me, how I found out about it etc. etc.

Like Isaac said,
- you've moved too quickly if you didn't even know nor notice anything being wrong

- they're not honest for not having told you, which is a real crappy way of starting a relationship

- if you haven't noticed it could be managed well (then they still should've told you) OR they don't really know. Like a narcissist will likely not know or never ever admit to it.

No, I wouldn't pursue a relationship with such a person. Maybe when she's better... and maybe not. Plenty of fish in the sea, no need to poison my existence.

Okay.


I read your words carefully, so the devil thing must be kind of a twist that a lot of people may ignore.
But it changes everything.

I mean if the devil is after me, if the devil is paying particular attention to me rather than the other 7 billion+ people on the planet, (only god's omnipresent, not the devil, so I have to be special and warrant special personal interest) then I would definitely continue a relationship with super crazy.

I mean you said she has:

That's a crap ton of things wrong with one person and being with someone with all that means my life is most likely in jeopardy.
Because you can't manage ALL of that with pills very effectively.

But I'd need their wild outside the box thinking to try and come up with strategies to get the devil off my butt.

So, crazy hot chick that seems to want to stick around me, have lots of sex and fun, or break up with her and have to deal with evil manipulative powerful devil, existence of whom proves I have a soul which they want to steal for eternal damnation and pain, all by myself?

I'd keep crazy chick to sick on the devil.

I'd just tell her the devil is really a chick that wants me to cheat and it was sent by the government who knows where to find us because satellites can track her periods.

Cut and run Am. Leave that work to the professionals.

Seeing the ignorance posted in this forum with exception to a few responses. Now explains to me why, I've basically given up on attempting to date. Being a person who is Bipolar, the stigma that has been put on by media and those who don't understand. Won't try to understand either when you do share that you suffer with a mental illness.

SheriAscher,

Welcome to my cyber home, so you saying like Hall & Oates said'" I can't go for that...say no go"....lol

DNHBlue,

hey buddy well that's a another way saying no.....even if she really. really, beautiful, you wouldn't at least take her out for ice cream?...lol

Bucksthe1,
Hey Buddy , welcome to my cyber home, you said something that made sense in my mind, you do have to know the person's background, share personal details then go ahead and marry.

Isaac_dede,

Hey buddy nice of you to stop by my cyber home....well even though I based this topic of a book I read but the question is universal in the world today. you right about everything you responded. keep posting>

Carefulwisher,


LMBO........no , no, no , not me " Lance" in the story, his wife " Tia".....but I will run!