Recently separated and finding it very uncomfortable to be putting myself out there

I got divorced at 40. I meet a lot more women in their 50's than in their 40's. I meet a lot more women in their 30's than in their 40's.

Irrespective of that, yes. The universal complaint I hear is how much is sucks to date at our age.

It is always hard but more so when you get older.

I think it's harder when we are older cause we expect more......we are more choosey, cause we've had more experience dating and know now what we want.

I agree with everything stated above.
In my twenties & thirties I dated whenever I felt like it.
However, in my forties, I can't even imagine going out on a date.
I have resolved to being single forever unless a Godly act occurs.

It is harder. We know what we are looking for and what we will not put up with. We now know what we didn't know when we were younger. I think our sense of self-worth is better as well so we aren't as willing to just date someone so that we have someone. I would rather be alone than to be in a bad relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. I hope that makes sense.

Faithsummer I received the biggest shock of my life dating after being single for 12 years. I had two sons to raise and an exhusband who had been violent. I knew it was my loving responsibility to give my boys all my time. So the 12 years flew by. Loved being single. Had wonderful supportive friends who were all married. The men were my sons role models on how a good marriage should be. Now they are young adults, still living at home as at university, but have their own lives. They have turned into great young men but my eldest decided it was time for me to start dating as he did not want me to be alone when they left home to conquer the world and pursue their dreams. Try online dating he said!!! Did not like the idea but for a year now I have been off and on the roller coaster of online dating. I believe what all the women have written so far is true. I am very particular because I do know now what man suits me and can spot a con artist anywhere. Thank-you to the two lovely men and their thoughts. So now I become accustomed to scammers, sexual predators and married men passing off as single men with models as their profile. It is a different world. But as long as you follow the security advice, you remain safe. I do not go to pubs or bars or concerts (have hearing aids now, lol). I have learned to cut through the rubbish and there are some true gentleman out there. The forums can be a great way to start to recognise and enjoy the fun connection. But yes, at our age the field is narrower. Try not to be too horrified like I was at the beginning. The dating world has changed. I have had one real connection that went for 2 months but relocation was an issue. We Skyped dated. It was a great means if far away and you can see them and that they are real. Hang in there. All the best to you all.

like a deer in headlights

or a lamb to the slaughter

I was not prepared that is for sure

for the pervs, sexual deviants, liars, cheaters

say they are one thing but then show up looking completely different

I meet new people at times,but haven't met any women that I feel would understand me very well. I guess I'm getting a little picky,or selective. I was married to a great woman whom I lost to cancer. I may be better off just staying single,and living my neanderthal lifestyle.
I'll be heading to West Virginia soon to do some volunteer work,and that should be a good change for me. You never know when you might meet someone who has similar interests. I'm not really worried about it.

Finalize your divorce first, THEN start worrying about dating.
Most folks, even older ones, don't want to start a new relationship with somebody who hasn't finished their last one.

that's true

But believe me a relationship can be well and truly finished before a divorce finalizes it. And if your partner has been cheating and moved on why should you hang about getting bitter? You are entitled to start exploring the possibility of a new start of your own while the process of the divorce drags on.

As for dating at our age - wow very scary. Not been on a date yet just chatted to a few guys and at the moment just chatting to one guy who is seemingly very sincere and genuine but it's early days to be thinking of anything beyond friendship.

It was so simple last time I was single (26 years ago!!!). You went to a pub or club and had a dance and a drink with a guy you liked, he took your number and you waited impatiently to hear from him to make a real date. If they didn't well you knew where you stood :)

I am still getting used to all the technology involved with modern dating. Texting seems to make men very brazen and it's daunting how quick things can get personal. It's a bit confusing. Well I'm confused

Yes very

My first time trying a dating service. Dumped after 7 yrs. what to do now?

I don't know if I should date younger man,45 plus because I like to do active things ,very artsy, and lots of guys over 50 are couch potatoes. But younger guys are so close to my kids age( oldest is 40 this year)

I like you

frustrating

I really cannot tell. I chat with a few women on this site and we seem to get along pretty well....there is a excellent connection with them. Sometimes we do meet and go out for a coffee.....off course all this is one at a time, as I am not into dating for the sake of dating...and I still prefer to date one woman at a time....But getting to know them, takes awhile. But after awhile, I begin to notice the relationship is stalling. And then it hits me. The woman are looking for just that little better kinda guy....and I get that feeling constantly.. Here I am putting everything on the line, only to be stacked up against the dream lover...obviously, you know who the loser is gonna be....C'mon ladies...you gotta give the guys a chance and be open to possibilities of it working or not....just saying...

I felt the guys in my age group and in my area only wanted one thing.
They weren't interested in a relationship.
It put me off.

im prefering dating now i prefer men to boys just watch out for married men who pretend they are single & only after one thing & its not a relationship

Great advice. It's not impossible to find love in a dating site but nothing beats just hitting it off with someone you meet unexpectedly. I have met a couple of lovely guys recently like that - you have to go for it and not miss the opportunity. While you are having a bit of banter make sure you drop in that you're single