I am 60 years young and female. I just want a casual dating relationship that starts as friendship and ma or may not lead to more. I have a full time job, care for my grandkids several times a week, and am studying horticulture. I am not averse to developing an intimate relationship but not on the first or second date. In other words, not looking for a "hookup." Is this the wrong site for me?
I was on POF, and three times I found a man who seemed to want what I want; until we met for the first time, and then the follow-up emails came. One sent 62 in one day; the next asked if I would perform very graphic services; the last wanted to watch me have sex with a friend.
Are there any decent men out there??

Sadly if you are only dating a single man you are unlikely to get a match all things being equal appearance, interests, geography, attraction, education, ability to write a narrative that actually has substantive content just as at least six representative photos that accurately and currently reflect your appearance, then of course it needs to be reciprocal. Many do not peruse the narratives and only use photos that tease out attraction but of course little else thus the process requires much work, effort, willingness to screen and not spend to much time in incessant emails and texting that delay the much needed quick meet and greet to ascertain potential chemistry and personality matching . If a person is willing to do all this his/her chances are greatly increased but given my perusal of over 1000 women, the number of well defined and representative narratives is quite small... Due diligence and tenacity are much needed and encouraged along with patience and kindness too

YES, THEY ARE OUT THERE....AND ITS NOT THAT GREAT ON THIS SIDE OF THE FENCE.

AND WHEN A MAN IS ATTRACTED TO YOU OF COURSE HE WOULD WANT TO SEX WITH

YOU....MEN AND WOMEN DO NOT TAKE INFO THE SAME NOR DO WE PROCESS IT THE

SAME...WE ARE EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICAL SO DIFFERENT THAT IF WOMEN DID NOT HAVE

THE COOKIE MOST MEN WOULD NOT EVEN BOTHER WITH THEM....IF IT IS COMPANIONSHIP

WE WANT ONLY IT WOULD BE LESS TROUBLE TO GET A GOLDEN RETRIEVER .....YOUR NOT

SEEING THE ILLUSIVE OBVIOUS LIKE THERE VALUE SYSTEM....MOST WOMEN TEST MEN TO

SEE IF THEY ARE WHO THEY CLAIM TO BE AND THEY DO IT OUT OF THERE AWARENESS.

LAST BUT NOT LEAST ''ATTRACTION IS NOT CHOICE '' BECAUSE ITS A EMOTIONAL

CHOICE.........

I think the important thing is to weed out the creeps as quickly as possible. Start with your profile making sure to be frank about what you are looking for and perhaps what you are NOT
Don't bother responding to guys with no info on their profiles and dodgy user names. Even looking at yours could send out a signal. Guys probably read 'adventurous' and make an immediate connection in their head with the bedroom. So they are already licking their lips
When you chat be careful to avoid getting too familiar. Don't flirt till you've established a rapport and he knows it doesn't mean you're a pushover it's just friendly banter.
Block anyone who makes you uncomfortable and it goes without saying if you meet them do it in a public place where he can't pounce.
Sounds like you've just been unlucky. Don't let them get away with disrespecting you

think of it this way...the internet is like a cesspool

a swamp if you will


of all the dregs of society that you do not come in contact with

on a daily basis


the creepy lech that hangs out in the corner bar stool

drooling over the waitress

trying to grab her butt as she walks by


the guys that cruise the high school parking lots

making cat calls to the girls


the ones that have a pron addiction

the ones with weird fetishes

maschists that hate women

and are looking for their next victim

and a whole lotta guys just wanting to get laid


all thrown into the mix


now...in there somewhere there are also a few good guys

I was about to protest...until you mentioned fetishes.

The answer is no.

The thread is TWO YEARS OLD. She's probably found the love of her life by now and is nursing twins.

The calibre and class of people you'll
encounter online, are the same as you'll
encounter in person.

That's 3+ years, the twins are nearly in school.
Which is good, at her age.

Dont believe it