Maybe the reason we feel unmatchable is because all we are reading about the other person is what they want us to know about them, whether it is true or not, or reading about their outward image. People aren't going to post their "bad" side. Johari's window. We don't know about that person, but we DO know about ourselves, our good and our bad, and we take that and match it against another person's outer persona, therefore feeling unmatchable.

Isn't it a good thing though when you're 'difficult' to match up with someone?
It means that if you do find someone, it's going to feel real good.
I've been told many times that I'm too fussy, too selective, never going to find someone. At first that made me insecure, had me thinking that maybe I indeed was too fussy, everybody was right, except me.
So I changed my parameters, only to find out that my initial parameters HAD been right all along!

Thing is: you do not want to match with every Tom Dick & Harry, you want this one guy (or woman) who's a great match for you. Meaning if most don't qualify, you got less sifting and sorting to do to find that needle in the haystack.

And the right type of man does exist. Even when you are a woman of great contrast / extremes like me. There are men out there that match perfectly with you.
And when you do find such a man, oh the joy! Bliss!

Sorry, all I got out of that was tom Dick or harry...lol...some ladies are sure as hell fussy.....

Stop listening to others. You know yourself much better then they do.

I know I'm way too tall for you Cat but did you ever try responding to a message? Or was it because I haven't put up a picture yet? conversation would be nice. I'm not all about all the bells and whistles on here yet anyway. Oh I'm lacking in the field of punctuation sorry folks!

I totally agree with you. If I have to die trying!

I think in the long run a lot of people cause themselves to be alone. In other words, take this guy that likes mountain climbing. He is looking for a woman that will climb a mountain with him.He looks through one profile after the other searching for a woman that will climb mountains with him. He skips over countless women. Possibly good women. All because he wants a woman that will climb mountains with him.

He never once stopped to think that maybe, just maybe, the one that would have been there for him when he fell off the mountain and broke his neck, wasn't a mountain climber at all. Sometimes what we need doesn't come in the package we want them in. Because we were looking for this certain package, Sometimes we miss out altogether. Just because I might like climbing mountains, doesn't mean my match does or is suppose too.

Yep, exactly what I learnt :)

Yeah, anything less is settling, isn't it! And if I have to settle, I think I'd rather stay single.

ITS ALL ABOUT OUR BELIEF SYSTEM. WE MADE IT UP IN OUR LITTLE OWN HEADS. WHAT

WE SEE IN OUR MINDS EYE WE WILL HOLD IN OUR HANDS. ITS REALLY LIVING OUR OWN

DREAMS...CHANGE A BELIEF, CHANGE THE OUTCOME.....

BEST ADVICE I HEARD HERE.....MOST ARE SO FOCUSED ON THE SURFACE NOISE , AND WHO

DID WHAT TO WHO, THINGS AND RESULTING FEELINGS....YES ITS ALL ABOUT KNOWING

YOURSELF BETTER...CAUSE YOU DAM SURE CAN NOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT ANYONE BUT

YOURSELF...

I guess all that really matters is if you can find a woman that will let you put your peanut butter in her chocolate.