uh huh...and here come all the lurkers who see the title and think it's an advertisement

I wonder what took him so long?

.:::crickets:::.....:::.::chirping::.::.

Wise move my friend ...

Just seen the thread.

I'm not into auto-erotic asphyxiation, or spitting. Actually the whole BDSM thing does nothing for me. If she and I can't just enjoy each other while in the act...well, I guess I'll just go without.

Ugh...Ugh...Yummyyyyyy.....Lolzzzz...

I missed this part of your quote Reb., but you have a valid point.

Some may argue that there is a fine line between passion and agression. The acts you mentioned in this quote are actually a natural progression of passion for many "regular"couples. There are many people that cuss and call each other less -than -regal names even in foreplay. And few frown upon that brand of agression between consensual partners. But you are right about the spitting ... at least spitting on each other's face. I think that one is quite debateable

Hi Scooby ! I think its such a debateable topic and dependent upon the couple involved . Some would argue for example that a couple shouldnt have to use sex toys to enhance their experience and that the natural chemistry of the couple should be ienough. Others disagree. All up to the couple and the boundaries and liberties that they mutually agree upon. Finding someone who wants the same as you do is crucial in this scenario

Hellooooo I am also ready

Forget the lurkers, where are all the BDSM experts with the lingo talk and everything on the subject? They're quite entertaining.

Just because I laughed my azz off getting whooped with a wooden spoon growing up, doesn't mean I like any of that in the bedroom now. lol

Yea, it always escalated somehow, in my case, with a stainless steel long handled heavy BBQ spatula

oh man maybe that is why

I got hit with the hairbrush, fly swatter and a yard stick

got my hair pulled if I tried running away

my brother and I used to play chicken with lawn darts

and hit for hit just for funnsies

Not for me, I prefer to be stood in the corner and told off for being a naughty boy

Sensual I like, I like to worship, oh yeeeah

No see, hair pulling, I still like that a lot

Their masks are all zipped up tight at the moment. Rough or Ruff! Ruff! RRrrrufff!

I don't know what to say except Urmmm Bring out the gimps?

I have been reading the posts on this thread, and the OP. I think about David Carradine that asphyxiated himself for his sexual pleasures. Or the classes in abnormal psychology explain voyeurism or other abnormal sexual behaviour. I mean outside of what the masses of society dictate to be normal. Just as a gay man is gay, or a lesbian a lesbian, or anything else such as the Kama Sutra. It is in the individual. A passionate embrace of two lovers pulling each other close. Whatever their desires, I can only hazard a guess they look for an equal matching the bedroom as well as their other interests.

Oh my virgin eyes can unsee this now!!!

My theory on bdsm is that besides the heightening of sensation through physical or mental pain and having it bleed through to pleasurable sensation.

The underlying motivation comes from seeking purpose

When some one is dominating another it gives them a sense of purpose and control.

When someone is being dominated they are given a sense of purpose in serving the dominating one.

After all life is an opportunity to find and create purpose.

The purposes we find in life always have consequences so it behoves us to consider them carefully and always be prepared to question them and their consequence to our selves and others

My purpose in life is to appreciate what is. That keeps me pretty busy with out having to go to extremes. Although many consider me extreme in my search for truth.