"I think that everyone has something about themselves that they feel is their weakness... their 'disability.' And I'm certain we all have one, because I think of a disability as being anything which undermines our belief and confidence in our own abilities".

Aimee Mullins

There's no such thing as true love

I will tell you there is a such thing as true love....I had I felt and I lost it.....it could have stayed but it had to go for some us just must grow in different direction like a branch. Sometimes loves changes and the people too. But to say true love doesn't exist honestly isn't true.

Op yes our own emotional, mental or even physical disabilities can make it harder to find love at times. But sometimes it's the reason you know someone truly loves you.

Whether the disability is real or just scars, I
think you need to accept yourself to be able
to love and get love in return.

Love doesn't cure anything.
It is the reason to look for cures.
Be whole, before you try to give away
part of yourself.

So you have something left, if the worst
happens.

Thanks for your contribution. Too early to make that conclusion, dear. At 18 y/o you haven't lived yet. True love is a reality that some people here have actually lived at one point in life. It doesn't come on a platter, though....

Thanks, Sikology. I concur.

And yes, some things would surely be pointers to why....

Thanks, Soufie.

Well put.

Sorry, Seakolony. I mis-spelt your name.

Depends on who you are.

Disability's, anything seen as a flaw by others will reduce your available dating pool.

If you're the type that sees dating, relationships, love, as a "numbers game," then a disability will reduce your chances.

If you're the type that holds a belief like "I know what I want! I won't settle!" then unless your standards are extremely low, your "chances" at love are going to be reduced.

If you're the type whose disability kinda defines you and mostly what your life is about then it's going to reduce chances at love.


All she's saying is "everyone has insecurities."
Which should be common sense since things like "fear" exist.

The difference between insecurities and disabilities is disabilities exist 24/7 365.
Insecurities are usually situational.
Ask most introverts and they'll say they can be extroverts in certain situations. Lot's of people describe themselves as being able to be both an extrovert and introvert.
Someone without legs can't walk depending on the situation.

No. I have to disagree.

I think everybody on this site believes I'm PERFECT. No Flaws.

Your do good I betcha think this song is about cha doncha

Thanks, Ciretom.

It wasn't about comparing disability with insecurity.

I may be wrong but you give the impression you would not give an equal opportunity at love to a person with a permanent condition.....disability.

Still, I respect your stand.

Oh, don't break the good lol!

Thanks BG. We all have flaws. Some visible, and some invisible.

"Does disability reduce chances at true love?"

True love? No. Dating? Yes.

If a physical disability prevents a person from participating in activities, then the person will have difficulty getting a date.

If a physically-disabled person cannot work outside the home and depends on monthly checks from the government, then the person might not be able to afford to do the activities that a potential date would want to do.

Thanks, David.

What happens to true love overcomes all odds? Where true love exists, I believe there would be flexibility in dating to accommodate any limitation. How and where you date in this case would not be defined by the 'norm'. Rather, what works to offer comfort to both.

True love knows no boundary......

Yeah, but how would a woman know that a physically-disabled man is her "true love" if she won't give him a second look because of his physical and financial limitations?

As long as you do no become "The Disability", relationships shouldn't be a problem with others. However, what cannot be predicted or controlled is the impact that your disability will have on another person. There are many people who operate within narrow intellectual parameters & will inaccurately project upon you, their own personal bias, fear, & insecurities. In essence, "They" will reject you, but that rejection isn't personal or about "you"-it's about "them". And, in many instances, its not a bad thing because many of those individuals are of the type & caliber that you don't want in your life. The major problem would seem to be that many folks who are afflicted with "Disabilities" began to lose a healthy relationship with themselves because they feel that they are not now- as they once were. That can be a valid assessment but the trick is to not impose a negitive judgement on that difference but to attempt to accept it for what it is. Just- "A Difference" that is niether "bad or good" but just different.

i agree

Hi David,
Disability is not gender sensitive. So, a woman would also ask the same question. However, any man can have financial limitations. Sad to say, women are increasingly pegging love to financial status and putting many men at a disadvantage.

True love should first look at who you are, not what you are.

I dated someone with toilettes once. I always thought he was mad at me. Didn't really work.