My problem is I feel at times my career seems to create a barrier for me in terms of dating. I am actively involved in politics at the local and state level here in North Carolina and while I love the work that I do I am beginning to feel that it is a burden when it comes to dating. Certainly my career takes up a good bit of my time but often when I meet someone they seem to shy away or be intimidated by what I do. I understand that not everyone is interested in politics and all that comes with it but at times it is if I am defined more by what I do than who I am. It is quite frustrating and I thought I would throw this out there for any advice that anyone might have. I guess this is just part of the realization that career achievements and personal success are somewhat lacking without someone to share them with in the good times and bad.

Hmmmm. Well, first of all, you obviously wanted a career in politics, and now you have realized that dream. Kudos man. Be proud of that fact.

Seems to me that women are "judging" you, and that is a shame. I know a career in politics is tough to handle, but maybe, just maybe, you haven't found the woman that is going to "get" you, and like you for who you are. Seriously. My Uncle is a doctor, and his career takes alot of time away from his wife and four kids. But he makes the most of his free time to be with them, and his wife is understanding about all this. She supports him cause he allows her to be a stay at home Mom. Basically, he found the right one.

I understand what you mean about career achievements though. Being successful is nice. But to have someone to share them with is much better. All I can tell you is don't give up man. Keep trucking on.

Well it would seem you could meet someone in your own circles who would understand the commitment you make. Like all the other "wifes" that stand by their political partners.

Give yourself some time and don't look..... that's when some gal will look your way.... Then it's just a matter of how you handle the relationship.

J

wow i cant believe i just read all that

Me too

I don't think your lack of social is anything to do with your career. I think you just want to tell us something about your career to feel you are something in hope to attract women that think there is more to you. Would you like me to support what I am saying here, well it is all in your post, from the first sentece to the last.

Good try and good luck! haha

lack of social life...

This reminds me of those that tell you of their worth and all they talk about

hey dude, i work 2nd shift & that puts a kink in things toooooo

I can honestly say my post was not to draw attention to myself but to seek advice. I guess the gist of my question is how does one juggle the demands of their career and at the same time work on having a meaningful relationship. I would much rather someone get to know me based on who I am as a person as opposed to what I do.

huh??? try being a woman...kids, grandkids, work, house, car...i'm not being a smartazz...but it is hard to find the TIME to date and i've found it's much easier in real life and a dating site...start w/someone you're interested in the workplace, neighborhood, corner bar...good luck to you, brenda

oops sorry i guess i missed your last sentence...although if you're in the public eye that may make that part a little difficult..and it's not like you can just hook up w/the corner ho...lol..

That was my point too, it is not just the field I am in but any kind of work when one thinks about it.

i read your profile... says u like to talk about yourself.. seems one to say this does a whole lot of talking about theirself... not sure but do u take time to listen to your date? just a thought to think about if ya do indeed do that?... gl to ya

I only really talked about myself in the context of explaining my problem. But I think I am a good listener, I would much rather have a good conversation than just ramble on about myself (then again I could be accused to that right now the more I think about it haha.)

u just havent met the right person then is all

I think the fact that you're in politics is great. If you're meeting people who don't like or get that, then they're not the right people for you.

Humm well read your profile and by what I gather you are actually finishing up your college degree. Your still young and have not completely started your goal all the way in the field of Politics as of yet. So the way I see it is let the relationships ride for now. Finish your college degree get the job your going for once things have settled. Then look around you at that time for by then you should have been exposed to many nore women that are in the same field as yourself. Then see what happens from there. But first and foremost get your career going full blast first. All good things take time.