my daughter is 4, and not yet potty trained
i have tried several tactics
i took the diapers away, she wet the underwear
i have bribed her with new toys, but shes not a very materialistic child, there is nothing she wants

i beg her to sit on the potty
she cries and cries and acts like she is scared
but i cant figure out why
im afraid to physiclaly hold her there as it might traumatize her more

but she is 4 and is being held out of preschool because she wont go potty
i have no ideas left to try

oh hun can i ever relate to this..having a lot of trouble with my son too...i wish i could tell u what to do, but the truth is, i need the answer to that question myself.

Take her back to Wal-mart, get ya money back.

hi! my neice was the same way. they just stopped pushing and pretended like it didnt matter. but whenever she wanted to go spend the night at my house or her gram's, they would tell her. "sorry sweetie, i wish you could but, only little girls who dont wear diapers can go... ". it seemed to work cuz she loved going to grams and my house. hope it helps ladies! my boys were all pretty easy - fortunately!
mechele

Wow my sister son is going through the same thing.

I mean he can do it when he wants to but yet my sister still end's up buying diapers for her son because he doesn't know when to go and or he does and he just can't get the hang of it.

This is just the oddest thing, but I am only resplying here because my sister is going through this very same thing .

me too.the only thing that really has worked for me is that everytime he goes il praise him for it and tell him how proud of him i am.

make a sticker chart for when she potty's so she can get a reward. I work at a child care center and that works for us. or if she has a doll you could pretend she is going potty first and then maybe she will not be afraid if her doll isnt.

Have you talked to her doctor? She may have something going on physically. Potty training should never be a punishable offense. Let her pick out her big girl panties. Maybe that will help. I took my kids in with me. They would go then I would go. I know some people aren't that liberal but it worked. For boys,throw a couple cheerios in the toilet and let them aim. My son thought that was hilarious.

The answer to your daughter's problem would be through other children. You may want to talk with your daughter about her best friend or someone she is close too. Allow that child to take your daughter to the restroom when she goes. Children learn from each other. Give both of them rewards and big hugs.

sounds like too much pressure. who really wants that in regard to elimination

she'll do it when she's ready

and it won't matter in time for her to be valedictorian

i think your pushing her a "lil too much" where she's developing a complex! I would give her a plain lil training potty or have her pick out her own. let her pick out some favoite stickers or dolls whatever she adores tell her to put the pretty stickers and her favorite doll or whatever she loves, and to decorate her "own potty" how she likes it. you want her to "feel" safe. with her favorite things next to her while she "goes" may make her feel secure. have some of her fav books next to her potty. let her pick out her favorite panties she would like to wear too.
Also have her to talk to her dad, an aunt, her grandmom someone who is 1 of her favorite people(not you though) about why she don't like the potty! Have them ask what is it about it she dont like how she would feel more comfortable to go. (obviously in 4 yr old style of talking!
you shouldn't ask her because your the one who makes her sit on the potty and tries to make her go so to her your the enemy in that department.
whatever you do DO NOT YELL AT HER OR TRY TO FORCE HER TO GO BECAUSE YOU WILL GIVE HER A MAJOR FEAR AND COMPLEX about going. i got a 8, 7 and 1 yr old. my son had the same problem. i gave him his own lil training potty and i went to a professional for help with him lol!

fit, that is excellent advice.

in the meantime try to find someplace who may take her in diapers or a pull-up until she is ready. but if you just stop pushing and let her know that she can go whenever she wants then that is best.
if you are lucky enough to find a sympathetic daycare then it may help when she sees the other kids using the toilet too.

but it should be fine and she will decide to use the toilet on her own in time. good luck!!

you should never ever ever push a child to potty train. you will traumatize her and make her afraid of the potty and of you. why would u want to intentionally do that to her. she will go when she is ready it is normal for children to not potty train until they are as old as 5 or as young as 2 but they have to be the one who initiates it. never ever force your toddler to do something that makes her afraid! and u need to pick a preschool that understands how to work with toddlers. if they wont take her cus she's not potty trained it means they are lazy and dont want to deal with it and are not willing to work with your child. why would u want to put her into a situation like that? i have 4 children and they have potty trained as young as 3 and as old as 4 1/2. leave her alone. she will go when she is damn good and ready.

i got my daughter a praising potty!!! what it did was sing and give praises each time she did her buisness!! great success....got it from walmart too good luck

I had no problem potty training my daughter. The best advice I can give you is get a potty seat that plays music when the child does her thing. Children also need approval so it might be beneficial to you to praise her or clap for her. This makes children feel good and less intimidated. I hope this advice is helpful.


Sincerely

Rob

no, this is a monkey see monkey do operation.

you get her a potty chair that you put right next to your toilet.
then, when u pee/shift....u put her in the chair beside u.
encourage her to sit beside you...she can c and hear what u r doing....

then, when you have to sit a little longer, you take a book and read. u give her a book. she sees u doing your thing. it takes a while, but it works. no stress. repetition until they get the idea. just like training a dog.

i want the video of Duffy training her dog(s)!!



but i totally agree with letting them watch mommy and daddy
go to the toilet. i recommend sitting for boys at first....

I had the same issue with my son and i tried it all the singing potty, sticker charts, bribes hell we even paid him because he was materilaistic and loved money nothing worked one day i told him i give up let him have his pull-ups and put figured the hell with it the next day he started going potty on his own. if you show her it's not a big deal andyou don't care you'll be surprised how receptive she may be for my son as long as i pushed he pushed back he knew i couldn't control it and he was bound and detern=mined i wasn't going to make him. it 's her body when she's ready she will

well my daughter she was just like this.i tried everthing but holding her down. you know what worked i rented rudolph the red-nosed reindeer the island of misfit toys.you play the movie and when they ask why does he take the toys i told her it is becuse the kids that dont use the potty. that night when she went to bed i told her to use the potty she said no. the next moring one of her toys were gone. she said daddy the toy taker took my toy from that day on she never wore a dipper.and this has worked on 4 other childeren with the same problem. yea i know it is a white lie but the toy taker brought back the toy after the problem was over.hope it helps

My youngest is special needs and her doctor recommended this awesome potty chair at http://www.tinkletoonz.com/ the music reinforces a reward for going potty, best thing is the sensor can be taken out and velcro'ed into the bottoms of underwear so that in school situations the helpers or teachers hear music so kids who can't verbalize their needs the music does it for them.

way kewl...

A friend of mine who potty trained her son, they sell those potty targets, but she found something much cheaper and so much more FUN.... Fruit Loops cereal, throw in a handful as targets, so when he would hit them, totally destroyed them and he LOVED that LOL