"Something I see a lot is this 'stalemate' and this 'victim' scenario, in relationships played out over and over..

He says " She did this, she didn't do that."

She says, " He did this, he didn't do that."

What I see, is often people who spend all their time being defensive, and self righteous, and rarely anyone accepting, or taking responsibility for their actions.

It appears there are vast cultures of people deciding that 'victim' is the place to be."

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To seriously address this:

Read about the Karpman Drama Triangle as a part of Transactional Analysis.

You are dead-on about the 'victim' scenario in relationships being played out over and over.

Psychologist do indeed call it a 'game' as well and it even has rules...

http://www.mental-health-today.com/articles/drama.htm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle

i want my ass back lol

holy cow, jess... now i need you!

Beep beep zip tang! When I grow up I wanna be da road runner. Beep beep zip tang! Not me. When I grow up I want to become a puhsicologist or a puh sichiatrist. Not me when I grow up I wanna be da road runner! Beep beep! Zip tang!

do I detect a foot stomp and a hmmph in there?

you are sooo adorable when you stomp your feet

that just happens because the easiest thing to do is play victim, so everybody else feels sorry for us. And somehow that fills a void for some individuals.
for me that is just a pathetic way to avoid an issue which always going to be there unless we face it.

Well ummm...what can I say, Sherrie?

Other than yes, dropped lip, pouty frown and all.

I blame Pikachu for all of my problems

LOL @ Gypsy. Can I use that excuse, too?

Heck, I blame myself for everything. No need to throw blame where it does not belong. After all, I am the reason for the drought in the area.

Ahhh, Jess, you are right though. Thanks goodness with age I have been able to see what really happened and not place blame. Just chalk things up to life experiences and (hopefully) learn from them.

Hugs, M

MWHAHAHAHAHAHA

Is someone cleaning out the cupboard?

i TINK SO.........they did it to me too!!

I saw, and responded.... bloody hilarious, and aren't we just so intellectual?

We're the Thread Necromancers!!

It wasn't dead!!! it was just resting it's eyes after a big poker night, back there in archives..

I will get you pretty boy!!!!!!!!!!

Just for that, read New Members Welcome Area.

nope i take full responsibility for choosing three D*CKS into my life aint happening again

Im blaming my cats.......