Hi everyone, I believe friendship is the best human relationship ever..... a romantic relationship shpuld always start woth a special friendship.

what do you think.?

It's the only way to go.. getting to know someone as a friend over a certain time gives you more of an insight into their character etc. Then if a relationship develops then your starting off on a more solid foundation rather than jumping into bed with them on the first or second date.

It has not worked out for me to be friends with a man for months or years, and then be in a relationship.

Sometimes you get into that "friend zone" and that is where it is.

Not sure why you've had problems with male friendships Cat.. maybe next time if you like the guy maybe a little flirting by you will help. Some guys are a bit shy to start things.. I guess females can be the same.

I like you but I'm not on your radar regarding your search criteria.. plus a live across the pond.

I really hope you can find a nice guy soon as you seem a nice girl to me and I also live in a small town.

Thank you aussieguy. I do have a male friend who lives in another country. We will probably never meet. I'm probably better off with someone in United States where I live.

Your welcome Cat.. I think long distance relationships can be time consuming, costly etc, so I think your right in looking for a guy there. If you can't find anyone let me know...

I went to Virginia in 2000 to meet a lady but it didn't work out.

Yes a relationship that has the foundation of a good friendship is the only way I would go.

I have a lot of friends from the male side but only one I would go from friends to a relationship.

We have enjoyed our friendship and it's a great way to learn more about them without the pressure of a relationship.

I have no desire to have someone overseas. If I met them first maybe with a huge ?
To many complications. I am too old for that.

I think this has been addressed at least a million times before.

I think it's best to to find yourself in a romantic relationship and then realize in hindsight that you could if you wanted to see your early interaction as a "special friendship."

I think if you specifically try to build a friendship first and then attempt to "graduate" to a romantic relationship it will most likely fail.

No different than trying to be a "friend" to your kid and then once you get to know them and build trust, to then build the more important "parent" relationship.

It just doesn't work that way.