I am not sure what I am doing wrong. I am NOT an hierress with self-image problems nor am some desperately lonely woman with daddy issues.

I have already down graded my profile pic. My next option is to get one with me sick in bed in the middle of the night with no make-up. But that would scare off a sincere person!

I thought your profile and pics were nice, so not doing anything wrong.

Welcome and good luck

Maybe try not judging people just by whats written in their profile alone and giving them a chance

What do you think the profile is for? People see if there is anything in common or of interest

thank you!

Hi Babs, welcome to M2

You're a beautiful woman so it doesn't matter which photo you choose as your main one. I like the closeup though. Don't ever down grade. If men are not responding to a beautiful woman... it's their loss.

Your profile is good. Make it better by adding a sentence or two showing your sense of humor.

Join us in the forums and make friends while looking looking for your special someone.

Hi Bab's I have to agree with Mz Rosie again lol..
Never down grade yourself for anyone...
Your profile is short and to the point nothing wrong with that.
Welcome to Mingle
Best wishes in your search.

I think your profile is short and sweet,and you seem like a great person...

Your profile is just fine, very genuine, good luck in your search.

My guess is you are an extreamly nice lady that would/will attract a really nice guy; eventually. If you get tired of waiting or the obnoxious weirdos don't give up, or whine, just keep poppiong in and being seen. Note profiles you like an send happy holidays or little notes if they put up something or even just a Good Morning before they head out for work.

Especially if you post in forums and people figure out if you are just kind of boreing in a good way (no drama mamma); medically retired, stable person who leads a quiet and ordinary life. Use being available to your best interest. Least you are not married to a job. You might want to add a couple of interactive interests or something that would be date suitable even if it is a chess in the park.

I think I would explain the "disabled" a bit more; since people usually jump to the worst conclusions. You are on your feet and you may not marathon hike or jump out of airplanes but if you would meet at a community event or maybe have coffee at the free museum it will seem like you are not intimidated by people in general but maybe like the less expensive or casino lifestyle. Many disabilities are more common and might mean you lucked out and just get to retire early but not totally dependent or going to be a huge responsibility. Even if it IS the right person will not care if you make it clear you have the ability to manage it. If you are affilliated with any specific disability show a lapel pin, cap. or t-shirt; or being at and "event" (better yet volunteer) in a photo and then you don't have to go into the whole big description.

You really need to have a photo array to show what you "do". While posting pictures of kids and guys generally doesn't help attract men if you have pictures of family or friends grilling, playing board games, riding motorcycles, or collecting rock and roll music that pushes the connect button. And it can be ordinary things like cooking, showing you housekeeping, or driving a car. It can be a rental or a hoopty but if you can drive you want to get that accross.

You are really very pretty and seemed well groomed. Pretty hairstyle. Nice color choices. Modest. Maybe just a little tiny bit more reserved than would help you. Think date clothes and sexy plus with out going over board. I see a beautiful dress that would have made a rocking full length photo even if you wore flats and no longer do heels but don't kid yourself some time the pain is worth the fantasy of little sexyier shoes. If you would have done a nice standing pose with your hands that are very dainty and feminine open not in the defensive body language I think your photos would send a much better message about you. Don't go over board in a cheezy pose just at your side or maybe one hand on your hip in a modest shaply pose not the crude clevage or booty shots his co-worker friend/enemys will torture him about.

Please I don't know how to dress it up; avoid the sideways lined up for the green bay packers defensive end pose with your hands locked and muscles flexed because your nervouse; and please never EVER let someone try to sell you on the whale on the floor pose that some of these idiot studios suggest. Casual sitting poses can be fine but if you have the option when someone (say a waiter is snapping a photo in a restuarant make sure the the garbage is off the table, a fat tip is, and and you sit up staright and smile into the cammera even if you would rather be drawn and quartered. People are drawn to people who enjoy themselves and these kind of pictures get responses.

The slacks and long tank top are good but if you open the jacket or ditched it since it is probably more comfortable than flattering your going to look a little younger and allureing. Try a shrug with a little ruffle if you are uncomfortable totally uncovered on your arms. With the creamy skin tones avoiding burning yourself out in harsh light was very wise. But a nice bare shoulder shot can be very pretty even if yours are softer/feminine than your athletic or boney counter parts.

But please let go and really smile in your photos even if you have to clown around in your house or the yard with the camera on a tripod. You have to get the nice face shot full frame. Remember Great profile phots are taken from having hundreds to choose from and with a digital camera and photo shop you can edit and crop to your hearts delight. JUST DO IT and think of all the nice posts here and how people want to like you and send that future Mr. Wonderful your most personable greeting profile and celebrate your success.

Good Luck.

At 5'7" you are not that challenged height wise but with no one or thing around you in your photos you tend to look much more imposeing than you are. Get a reference photo that shows your petite porportions. Being plus is exactly what many men are looking for but it does help if they feel like you will not tower over them.

great feedback! Thank you so much!

I mean Hot dog I don't even know what to say She covered it all. So other then Hang in there or keep your head up. And just ride out the rough patches.

Well honestly !..all I can say is ..I can be gentle unless you like it rough...lol..
But I'm not into biting..just saying...
Well ok
. A little biting is alright..lol.wink.wink

I don't know what you mean by "Down graded"?

Don't down grade photos though ... your photo is like your calling card and it will not appeal to 100% of what's out there. WHich is EXACTLY what you want, cos you're not looking for 100% but for this one guy, or maybe a few specific men.
So if most don't react, that's just great news. You wouldn't want to have to waste your time dealing with a gazillion men that aren't the right type for you. So let your photo work for you, it will automatically filter out those 'wrong' men (for you).

Furthermore, your profile text... it start with "Like I said..."
You said where? What is it referring too?
Apart from that odd start, it is not the right message to start off with. Put it at the end if you really want it in there. Things that state what you do not want, are generally off-putting, esp in the opening sentence/paragraph.

Apart from that, if you're looking for a slow start but in the end a relationship, the 'hang out with occasionally may be the wrong word. That sounds like once in a blue moon. Someone serious would likely want to see you on a regular basis and not like twice a year.

Oh, and one last thing "heavyset" on here is usually a helluva lot bigger. I'd consider the other option. (can't remember what it was).
Also, if your disability is minor, I wouldn't put that on my profile text either.

Good luck

curvy or BBW

Hi Bab ! Your really beautiful, remember that we don't live to pleased others but ourselves. Your really beautiful