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Topic: compliments...how do we feel about them?
TMommy's photo
Mon 03/07/16 07:23 PM
do you love to hear them?

does it give the old ego a boost
brighten your day?


does it make ya giggle
put a little spring in your step?

sybariticguy's photo
Mon 03/07/16 07:25 PM
I find the question non contextual as its too general to answer without some specific referents...

TMommy's photo
Mon 03/07/16 07:26 PM
Edited by TMommy on Mon 03/07/16 07:35 PM
mmmmm...online


on here in a message


just wondering...trying to bounce my own general response off what others might feel




mine is usually something along these lines


NOBootyHunter's photo
Mon 03/07/16 07:34 PM
I use them as notes of references when applying for jobs..:banana:

But it nice to hear.. who doesn't like to be complimented.. flowers by the way Great topic :thumbsup:


RustyKitty's photo
Mon 03/07/16 08:49 PM
I love compliments... what gal doesn't?
Some people don't know how to take a compliment.. what is so hard about saying something like, 'aren't you a sweet talker, thank you'..
or 'that's very nice of you to notice'.. or whatever response fits you..
Compliments said with honesty are the best.

Girls especially, should compliment each other.. say nice things about each other, build up each other - instead of the biotchy attitude of competition and putting each other down.. just sayin..


Jimmy_roy's photo
Mon 03/07/16 09:45 PM
Wow cool pic Miss T, not sure why should you feel like that for any compliments, You are so sweet and nice flowerforyou

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Mon 03/07/16 09:59 PM
As with so many things, the genuine ones are nice. The fake ones, the manipulative ones, and the disguised insults are not so much fun.

I have found for myself, that I enjoy the "what I do" compliments more than I enjoy "what I am" or "what I have" compliments.

As in, someone who appreciates how much care I put in to doing my work for them, is nicer to hear than someone who wishes they had a hat like mine, or some such.

no1phD's photo
Mon 03/07/16 10:00 PM
I have a love hate relationship with them..lol..love to give.. hate to receive..here's why.. someone pays me a compliment..I then feel I need to return to them a compliment.And sometimes that can be ..ummm. challenging..spock

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 03/08/16 03:40 AM

I love compliments... what gal doesn't?
Some people don't know how to take a compliment.. what is so hard about saying something like, 'aren't you a sweet talker, thank you'..
or 'that's very nice of you to notice'.. or whatever response fits you..
Compliments said with honesty are the best.

Girls especially, should compliment each other.. say nice things about each other, build up each other - instead of the biotchy attitude of competition and putting each other down.. just sayin..



Yes yes yes!!! Women are so stuck in society's masculine energy that they feel they have to do that. We've basically been raised that way.
The true feminine principle isn't like that at all! It's supportive, helping, caring, loving, and not competing with one another.
If women would know that when they do that, they're actually displaying and acting upon masculine energy, they might want to make more of an effort to change it!

The sad thing is that you see this 'quality' at the early age of 8-10 in girls ... They can be so incredibly nasty to other girls, excluding them -or one- from their niche group. That sometimes even happens to girls that were quite popular, then suddenly something happens, and bang! She's the outcast.
So even at that age, girls are motivated to be competitive, lest they aren't cast out of their group of friends.
Where the heck they pick up on that stuff??

TMommy's photo
Tue 03/08/16 03:44 AM
Edited by TMommy on Tue 03/08/16 03:38 AM

Wow cool pic Miss T, not sure why should you feel like that for any compliments, You are so sweet and nice flowerforyou
mmmmmm I don't know it's always been this way with me..



online I don't mind if someone mentions something once
" gee you are kind of attractive"

once...not over and over in every response like a rabid dog in heatnoway



hahahaha and uh thanks for that compliment but I am not fishing for em :wink:
and uh no I am not

well...not always bigsmile

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 03/08/16 03:45 AM
I can deal with compliments a lot better than I used to... I usually don't go "Nah, it wasn't all that special.." I just accept it, thank the other.
But truly accepting it deep down in my core, that's another thing.

If it happens totally out of the blue, it does hit me, lol. Makes me feel shy and vulnerable, but I do love it (although that appreciation usually doesn't sink in till I feel a tad more comfortable again).
But it's nice when ppl acknowledge you or what you have done. Feels good!

TMommy's photo
Tue 03/08/16 03:46 AM
Edited by TMommy on Tue 03/08/16 03:47 AM
whoops quoted myself...need more coffeegrumble

JaiGi's photo
Tue 03/08/16 04:45 AM

"Good" <<shrug>>
"good job" (yep)

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 03/08/16 06:44 AM

whoops quoted myself...need more coffeegrumble

That or you just like to listen to yourself talking :laughing: :angel:
flowerforyou

Goofball73's photo
Tue 03/08/16 07:51 AM
I tried to explain to my old boss how compliments go a long way for employees. It's nice to hear a "Good job", or "You have really gone the extra mile lately". However, he did not understand this concept as he felt it was your job to do good so why should he compliment you on something you should be doing in the first place? What he didn't understand was that people want positive reinforcement. But...he was/is an a-hole so you take what you can get. laugh

no1phD's photo
Tue 03/08/16 08:08 AM


whoops quoted myself...need more coffeegrumble

That or you just like to listen to yourself talking :laughing: :angel:
flowerforyou
umm.. I think you are confusing her with me..lmao.wink wink

no photo
Tue 03/08/16 08:16 AM
do you love to hear them?

Sure!
I really like the ones from people that know me as I can tell how much thought or value was put into them.

I like those from strangers because it helps show what they're thinking.

I value those from strangers when the compliment is relevant to a conversation.

I don't value those from strangers when they are an attempt to circumvent or replace meaningful interaction.


JaiGi's photo
Tue 03/08/16 08:16 AM

I tried to explain to my old boss how compliments go a long way for employees. It's nice to hear a "Good job", or "You have really gone the extra mile lately". However, he did not understand this concept as he felt it was your job to do good so why should he compliment you on something you should be doing in the first place? What he didn't understand was that people want positive reinforcement. But...he was/is an a-hole so you take what you can get. laugh


i think its not done in industry; scared Dagwood may ask for a raise.

one thing i learnt from my old boss:
he wouldn't say 'you are an idiot'
just: 'how could you be an idiot'
laugh
world of a difference.

peggy122's photo
Tue 03/08/16 08:41 AM
Edited by peggy122 on Tue 03/08/16 08:54 AM
I have a weird relationship with compliments.

I give them a lot. I am also gracious about receiving them but I have habit of only taking some compliments seriously if ithey are reinforced by certain actions.

For eg. If a guy is always telling me I am one in a million, special , blah , blah , blah..

But he seldom keeps his promises or he seldom makes time for me, the compliments feel hollow and as useless as a third armpit frown

no1phD's photo
Tue 03/08/16 09:11 AM
Right before my mother would lock my helmet on me.. she would always whisper in my ear... you !!are so special.. but now that I think about it, I don't really think she was paying me a compliment ..hmmm...hmmm..

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