I went to a Halloween party tonight...lots of people, a few friends...

But I just felt distanced, and alone. There was enough whoreiffic action around so if I just wanted to get some, I could have...

...there were enough people, that if I just wanted to be social and meet new people, I could have...

...there were a few of my friends there, so even if I didn't want to meet new people, I had people...

...but there I was, in the middle of all these people, and I felt even more alone, than I would had I stayed home all night and played video games

On the way home, I started to think (and you can do this when you don't have a radio) that the reason I have a motorcycle, and the reason I feel more comfortable riding it than driving a car, is because I'm destined to be alone...

...I started to think marriage isn't for me, that there isn't someone out there, "just for me." Now, I know the first response would be, you're just going through a break up...and I know that's good advice, but I'm honestly starting to think that the single life is for me, and that I'm going to forever be alone

I used to think the same.

I remember my 6th form ball (which is I guess junior high equivalent?) I only went because I wanted to see my crush in the most beautiful state I would see her in. I went knowing that her BF would be there and that it was going to be a bitter sweet sight for me.

I sat at a large table, enough for 20 people on my own just watching the band, the people dancing and her when I saw her.

I thought there that a) im destined to be alone or b) im destined to be with her.

2 years passed, she disapeared.
1 year later I read that book, which I can only describe as "waking up out of the matrix."

I now think a) Im destined to find my dream girl.

or irongically
b) im destined to be alone because my standards are so high (not even my crush passes now) and Im not willing to drop some because I feel THIS IS my value, I know exactly what I am capable of, to drop would mean just as bad as "Settling"

and I know that no woman wants to know that her man is "just settling for her"

I have faith, Im pursuing path A.

Yup, I can totally identify with that -- I'm convinced I HAD my "one real shot," and it didn't stick (thanks to a hell of a lot of outside interference), and that's the end of that.

Been married, it was horrible, would never do that again regardless.

Maybe some people just aren't meant to be with anybody. I don't know, who can really say? But I've gradually become resigned to it, and it hasn't killed me yet, so maybe it's not so bad after all....

There are worse things than being alone....

Wiltard, are you thinking along those lines, to reconcile your thoughts?

To accept that if that's the case, it's ok?

Or was it in deep sadness?

I hope not.


Sometimes a sense of isolation does feel not so great.

Not out there desperately grabbing at anyone, just to not be alone, is a good thing.

Taking time for you, and accepting that for now, you are single, and learning to enjoy that, makes for a more whole person, a healthier person, and may I say, a more attractive person.

When you feel comfortable being single, you will find that you will be more aware of what best suits you, and who best suits you, and you will attract similar people into your world.


Single can be a great place to learn about yourself.

It's not that I have high standards...

...it's just all the relationships I've had have crashed and burned.

That's why I think there is no one for me anymore...

...who knows, maybe this is just a phase that will pass...I hope so...

Taking Jess' advice, I think I'm just too Wiitarded.

Too into the nerdy things that girls aren't into.

i am thinking the same thing after an engagement with the man i thought was "the one" fell through. it sucks and i am so lonely

hang in there people.
gotta have faith!

dude there's alot of women on here that are into the "nerdy things".search by interest on here and i'm sure you'll find someone.i honestly don't feel anyone is meant to be alone,i think we chose the path to go down and some just chose to walk the path alone not realising it.

Actually, I did search for interest for NINTENDO

Didn't come up with much, but I guess the fact that there's a few is a positive.

My sister who is an opposite of me, says I just need to learn to mingle at parties. I'm a shy person though, so...

you gotta search in places where women that like the stuff you like hang out. like sci-fi/anime/game conventions ya know?

it'll be stupid to go to a club or bar and look for her.

that doesnt mean that your opportuinaties are limited to conventions; you got stores aswell.

believe me, being a nerd isnt as limiting as you think it is.
That website I keep talking about; the author used to ditch school to the arcades to play games all day.
Does he still do that? Im not sure since he doesnt divulge into his personal life, but I doubt that he does because his passion is attraction and how it works.

"I started to think marriage isn't for me, that there isn't someone out there, "just for me." Now, I know the first response would be, you're just going through a break up...and I know that's good advice, but I'm honestly starting to think that the single life is for me, and that I'm going to forever be alone"



spoken like a true pessimist ,

exactly quake, but thats only half the problem.

im starting to belive that sex and fun partys are for me

These guys are right, girls are into nerdy things too. Just look. A friend of mine has the same attitude as what you are saying. He destroys every relationship or chance of one now because he is "supposed to be alone"

I am a nerd, I read all the time. On the other hand I used to own and ride a 2006 yamaha fz6.

Yay a nerdy girl. Thats always a plus in my book. Oh and DragonlOve is in the same state, thats a first. :-P

thatplayer89,

you mean STI's and irresponsibility.
you're gonna have a empty depressing life that revolves around sex. just like every pickup artist ever.

hey there's nothing wrong with nerdy guys..i am kinda nerdy myself..love playing video games, love watching anime, love to read..there is nothing wrong with being a little nerdy.

exactly becca,

its a massive shame that geekiness/nerdiness is associated with negative behaviour.