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Topic: Why Bother
bingo8 Joined Sat 10/27/07 Posts: 49	Sat 10/27/07 06:47 PM
I'm new to this site. Just separated from a man that I was with for 11 years. Tired of being alone and all I can find is men that want a slender athletic type. I can love you like she can, but even better.

nurjoyce Joined Thu 01/04/07 Posts: 10283	Sat 10/27/07 06:50 PM
give it some time--- you will find a lot of great friends

Cain420 Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 1304	Sat 10/27/07 06:53 PM
lmfao.. same way women only want a pretty boy right? sure slender/athletic is nice, but IMO u cant help who u fall in love with.. it just happens, skinny, fat, or enormous!

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Sat 10/27/07 06:53 PM
You have to give it time and you need to post in the forums more the guys are cautious too so give it time and have fun.

TwilightsTwin Joined Tue 04/10/07 Posts: 11054	Sat 10/27/07 06:54 PM
Good luck & welcome to JSH

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Sat 10/27/07 06:55 PM
Yeah, just enjoy the site, have fun in the forums, you'll meet saw good people.

925 Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 249	Sat 10/27/07 06:55 PM
welcome,and take your time,you'll have fun here

nurjoyce Joined Thu 01/04/07 Posts: 10283	Sat 10/27/07 06:57 PM
everyone is different on what they are looking for-- i am not looking for someone athletic and buff--- someone i think by my standards as good looking could have a few extra pounds- then again we can not help who we fall in love with sometimes!

shadowdog Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 12773	Sat 10/27/07 06:58 PM
why bother?---oh--uh-um-uh-um---welcome to jsh---if it's ok--

nvrsaynvr Joined Tue 06/12/07 Posts: 5283	Sat 10/27/07 06:59 PM
Welcome!!

sin39 Joined Sat 10/06/07 Posts: 1507	Sat 10/27/07 07:01 PM
Men are visual people, ...its natural but plumpish women are not dead. They can give as good as any slim build woman. Next time these guys brush you off, pull ya pants down and show them ya better end, your a-ss I agree with Joyce!!

summerlady Joined Wed 03/07/07 Posts: 16232	Sat 10/27/07 07:03 PM
Hi and Welcome to JSH. Just give it time. Post in the threads, and let people see your personality.

malibu23wi Joined Wed 09/12/07 Posts: 191	Sat 10/27/07 07:08 PM
you will soon find out there are lots of guys who like the bigger girls too...just don't get down on yourself..love yourself and you will attract someone who will love you as well...((hugs))

theemachine Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 725	Sat 10/27/07 07:10 PM
I dont want to sound like a absolute **** head here but in all honesty, most guys dont demand that you are that super-deluxe bikini model body status. as far as attraction studys, being fit tells the male brain "healthy". and a hip-to-waist ratio (which on average mans liking is 7:10) tells fertility. note that this stuff is ingrained, we dont actually think that consciously when we see a fit body We just feel attracted. So in saying that, why not increase your chances?

soldierforamerica Joined Wed 10/24/07 Posts: 3813	Sat 10/27/07 07:11 PM
If I can reach my arms around you and touch my fingertips together on the other side you are skinny enough for me

bluebell Joined Mon 10/30/06 Posts: 1803	Sat 10/27/07 07:11 PM
hi and welcome if u love the way u look u will be confident and guess what guys that are true will like u just as much as u do

HillFolk Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 1894	Sat 10/27/07 07:12 PM
Who knows? Who cares? Why bother? I used to have that on a hat I got at a thrift store. When I came back to place I was rehabbing at they told me that was a hell of an attitude to have. They thought it was negative but I thought it was some good questions. I guess it is all how one looks at it.