I always state I am attached and am looking for either similar or a single female who is ok with that? If no parties mind, I don't see the problem? I wish you could search by marital status on here or is it something you have to pay for?

Not everywhere
I will say mix of good and intelligent is better
and little bit of

Which parties are asked?
All spouses? All children? Bosses?
And if no one has a problem now, do they then lose the right to change their mind?
And how well do you trust/accept their decision?

I mean someone can walk into a bank with a gun and ask the manager if they mind being robbed. At the time, out of fear of losing something, they may say one thing, but after some time, thought, and feeling safe they can very well change their mind and say they felt pressure to agree to it.

And sometimes people agree to things they don't understand because they don't know how it's going to affect them at the time.

Do you see any problem with no parties actually minding?

Do you see any problems with why your behaviors may change even if parties did mind but your desires wouldn't?


You can.
There's a "search" link along the top.
Account mail Search match

After clicking on search there is a link on the page called "advanced search."

After clicking advanced search you can choose relationship status by which to refine your search.
Single, divorced, married, widowed, separated, never married, any

It doesn't cost anything.

Takes a couple of clicks.

Probably takes less time to find it if you try than it does to read the instructions on how to find it.

If honesty is the best policy, then tell your spouse what you are wanting to do.

I have no kids but partner turns a blind eye so long as I don't leave her. Whoever I meet knows situation from start and can stop needing me whenever they want

This is why Zulu women carry a stick when they get married, it's called a side chick control measure.

As long as you don't leave her, sounds like you are mentally kidnapping her.

I do what I want or I leave

Well I rarely believe people who tell me what their partner does/feels; especially if it doesn't sound like best self interest. However I do know people who remain married on paper only and live pretty much separate lives.

Personally I would not touch a situation like that with a ten foot pole since sooner or later something changes and somebody gets hurt.

A lot of people think they can compartmentalize their lives and then it doesn't work out so easy peasy.

And if you think it is hard getting things worked out when you are young and healthy wait until you are a little older and life gets more complicated. Then your odds of ever being anything but some ones side dish or more or less ignored in life gets to be a lot harder to tolerate.

Stop needing you? They only person who needs you is your wife.

I feel sorry for her

I couldn't help but smile after I read the comments and then looked at your username.
A lot of 2's in there. 5 out of 3 people struggle with fractions

hahahahahahahahahahaha
Can those be ordered??

as long as ALL parties agree, including whoever you're attached to... since they are the one you'd be bringing the STD's to when you're done with the female you're using to get your dipstick wet with...

There have been movies like this that always end in disaster

One day, your partner will get fed up with your your atrocious behavior and go...