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Topic: When A Woman Makes The First Move....
PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Wed 02/10/16 09:09 PM
Phew... game playing and baiting periods? Are we talking sports, or the search for a compatible partner? If a woman approached me and expressed interest I'd be honored. I would prefer that there be equal effort in exploring compatibility after the introduction. [/quote} Give this Gentleman a Gold Star.

themp Joined Tue 01/19/16 Posts: 20	Wed 02/10/16 09:11 PM
Wow...she approaches you,stalks you (lol) and feeds you? Sounds like a Lioness! Seriously though, it does say I want you in a big way.It would be the same if the relationship was already established right? How could a man resist? The gesture speaks volumes! Who is this woman anyway? lol

Jimmy_roy Joined Sun 11/15/15 Posts: 1121	Wed 02/10/16 10:21 PM
I'm so proud of you guys for being so evolved!None of you thus far seem to feel that your manhood is threatened when the woman makes the first move in wooing . Yet , in one of the threads where the issue of the woman offering to pay for the date arose, I got the feeling that men were more traditional and conservative in their thinking. I'm interested in the liberal attitude towards women initiating the wooing process versus the more traditional attitude towards women initiating the paying process on a date. Hmmmm... The "how to approach" part is creative thought process and hard part for guys but if a woman approaches then it becomes easier and no thinking is required to break the ice (she is interested already). But while paying if the guy doesn`t pay then most of the women feel that he is broke or miser, not a good sign for the next approach

Unknow Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Wed 02/10/16 10:45 PM Edited by Unknow on Wed 02/10/16 10:48 PM
Phew... game playing and baiting periods? Are we talking sports, or the search for a compatible partner? If a woman approached me and expressed interest I'd be honored. I would prefer that there be equal effort in exploring compatibility after the introduction. Love is not a game to me . Nor are my relationships , but the dating search??? Help me Moses! I walked into the dating world post-divorce, all bright-eyed and transparent in my intentions, only to encounter a mind field of guessing games, and the dating version of peek-a-boo(Now you see him, now you don't) that baffled the hell out of me. That hot mess of a time brought me to the following conclusion... Both genders for the most part have been wired to approach dating as a game. It is not how I would like it to be, but it is what it is . And when a person steps unto the scene as embarrassingly clueless about this game, as I was , you get your heart trampled on big time . You can only engage in the adult practices of transparency and reciprocity when there is someone to do that with, and that for me has been a rare find. Ps: At the ripe old age of 40, I am yet to be graced with this elusive "equal effort " of which you speak.

Unknow Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Wed 02/10/16 11:01 PM Edited by Unknow on Wed 02/10/16 11:05 PM
Making the first move .... If you are blessed with the right equipment .... The 'Boob Rub".... As you are passing through, intentionally let one or both of your breasts slide across his arm/back/chest/etc. Make sure not to make eye contact. Walk away nonchalantly :-) Blondey.. I love you , but how insensitive can you be to remind us that not every gal is blessed with a juicy boob to rub on a guy??? Maybe we can twerk this manoeuvre into a saucy shoulder roll? Or a naughty neck twitch? Sigh.. I give up Love your new pic Blondey! You look like spring in motion!

Unknow Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Thu 02/11/16 01:02 PM
Making the first move .... If you are blessed with the right equipment .... The 'Boob Rub".... As you are passing through, intentionally let one or both of your breasts slide across his arm/back/chest/etc. Make sure not to make eye contact. Walk away nonchalantly :-) Blondey.. I love you , but how insensitive can you be to remind us that not every gal is blessed with a juicy boob to rub on a guy??? Maybe we can twerk this manoeuvre into a saucy shoulder roll? Or a naughty neck twitch? Sigh.. I give up Love your new pic Blondey! You look like spring in motion! oh dear .. Okay .. For those less well endowed .. Lean in a little closer and graze his outer thigh with your hand . But no crotch grabbing .. Laughing .. Save that for the third move . Thanks for keeping me in line Peggy .. I don't always think before I post and for your sweet compliment .. Purrrrr :-) Ijust kidding about you being insensitive hun. Thats the last thing you could be accused of. That why I could kid about it. Frankly I think your tip can work for any gal if ahe has the confidence to pull it off. MEOW!

catinidaho Joined Fri 10/24/14 Posts: 10878	Thu 02/11/16 03:16 PM
I've made the first move a couple of times recently, got rejected, I'm not doing that anymore. I don't know why men say they want a woman to ask them out or show interest.

Unknow Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Thu 02/11/16 04:08 PM
I've made the first move a couple of times recently, got rejected, I'm not doing that anymore. I don't know why men say they want a woman to ask them out or show interest. I don't know if you will come back to this thread and see this question, but were the guys giving you any signs that they were interested in you or did you just approach them strictly on the basis of your interest in them?

Unknow Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525	Thu 02/11/16 04:09 PM
I've made the first move a couple of times recently, got rejected, I'm not doing that anymore. I don't know why men say they want a woman to ask them out or show interest. I don't know if you will come back to this thread and see this question, but were the guys giving you any signs that they were interested in you or did you just approach them strictly on the basis of your interest in them?

catinidaho Joined Fri 10/24/14 Posts: 10878	Thu 02/11/16 04:20 PM
Well, just about an hour ago I saw a profile of a guy on here and he said he was looking for a unique woman and he had on his profile that he likes to read. So I said, what kind of woman do you think is unique and what do you like to read? I thought that was kind of casual. He answered, I don't have time for that on here. That was a rejection to me.

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Thu 02/11/16 04:34 PM
Well, just about an hour ago I saw a profile of a guy on here and he said he was looking for a unique woman and he had on his profile that he likes to read. So I said, what kind of woman do you think is unique and what do you like to read? I thought that was kind of casual. He answered, I don't have time for that on here. That was a rejection to me. that to me would mean he was not being honest about what he is looking for

Lman27 Joined Mon 01/11/16 Posts: 7	Thu 02/11/16 04:54 PM
I think confidence is sexy. So, If you feel good about the relationship or the budding relationship, then go for it.

adivorcedone Joined Wed 08/12/15 Posts: 7591	Thu 02/11/16 05:12 PM
I've made the first move a couple of times recently, got rejected, I'm not doing that anymore. I don't know why men say they want a woman to ask them out or show interest. You being rejected....is kinda hard to believe.....but then stranger things have been known to have taken place... were they blind ....just saying..

RustyKitty Joined Fri 05/15/15 Posts: 1601	Thu 02/11/16 06:36 PM
Catinidaho, perhaps he was a scammer You are a pretty girl so you know it's not you.. Keep trying,

Beachfarmer Joined Tue 04/17/07 Posts: 24714	Fri 02/12/16 02:24 AM Edited by Beachfarmer on Fri 02/12/16 02:25 AM
However a connection works

adivorcedone Joined Wed 08/12/15 Posts: 7591	Fri 02/12/16 04:30 PM
Catinidaho, perhaps he was a scammer You are a pretty girl so you know it's not you.. Keep trying, Looks who's talkin...lol...sorry, could not resist...just saying...

joethebricky Joined Sat 08/04/12 Posts: 12740	Fri 02/12/16 05:15 PM
So what exactly is the first move. A friendly smile, a friendly hello. I don't believe a woman has ever made the first move on me. I've interpreted a friendly smile or hello as the first move but most of the time I was daydreaming, I think. I'll never know unless I find them and ask them. Being friendly and a first move is hard to decipher, if it ends up as romance who gives a chit.

Inquisitive52 Joined Fri 02/12/16 Posts: 2	Fri 02/12/16 05:20 PM
It is nice when a woman makes the first move but afterward I like to take the initiative if interested

Inquisitive52 Joined Fri 02/12/16 Posts: 2	Fri 02/12/16 05:25 PM
If he's interested lol guys would have it so much easier if women approached them with interest lol then they would have the option as women do now of accepting or politely with thanks rejecting

Robxbox73 Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 5302	Fri 02/12/16 05:42 PM
Personally, I like a woman who makes an initiation to an intro! I find these gals to be the adventures in the dating game. They are a lot of fun and they are very open. A nice "Hey!" is a great conversation starter. If they have any intrest in science, engineering or arts, and I'm usually hooked! I've been married more than once. So I like when you meet a lady with a confident spirit. 9 of 10 times its a good relationship. Well have a good Valentine's! And remember, you don't have to be in a relationship to know that you are worthy of that special person for you!