Why do white girls date black men?

Hmmm... I think it might be best for me to sit back and listen to the women to whom the qyuestion is directed

and if I were to direct a question to u

I dont have any proof to my thoughts so it is merely a suspicion with no real grounds. For some white womrn, i think they are curious to explore/test the perception of the well endowed raw virile male. For some I feel it is because they have not been embraced by the men in their racial group possibly because they have fuller body types which black men generally appreciate more than while guys. And finally , i think some white women choose black men bevause their heart is pure enough not to focus on skin pigmentation and they genuinely are drawn to the heart of tbe person they are with .ofcourse there are exceptions to this but i am being very general

I would think it would be more interesting to ask why those who ONLY date non-whites, do so. But maybe it's just the Historian in me, wondering about peoples' choices.

Now that I think back, I don't recall hearing about any significant number of white males, insisting on dating ONLY black women. I wonder if that's a thing too?

Simple answer...because they want to. Just like some women of every race dates inside or outside their race. It's their choice

I dislike these kind of threads for it points out differences instead of similarities..it delineates instead of unites..


why would anyone then date anyone outside of their own culture, race, hair color, eye color, height, weight or social class?


see what I am saying here?

the reasons biracial or mixed couples have for loving each other are their own

just like any other couple

My sentiments exactly....


People choose to datell what attracts them seems simple enough to me.

I agree

I would believe white girls dating black guys Is different than white girls dating ONLY black guys

the latter seems sadder than the former, as it suggests they don't find anything attractive about their own asthetic race,,,

I spoke to a white man who only dated black women and he said he was just drawn to the physical attributes commonly associated with that racial group. Sometimes it simply boils down to physical preferences . With regard to the OP's question, I think only white women who like black men can really offer insights into their choices.With things like this, everyone else including myself can only venture guesses. I only answered because Demetrius27 asked me specifically and I was the only one in the thread at the time

As for what Tmommy said, I understand your concern about questions like this causing division and I used to feel the same way, but as I get older I see the need to openly talk about the topics that make us feel uneasy but I challenge myself and others to do it in a manner that is respectful and balanced.

You generally date whoever you're attracted to, right?

I agree. I also used to avoid such discussions, but I came to recognize that stigmatizing talking about something which ACTUALLY DOES HAPPEN, actually makes whatever may be negative about it, even worse.

And I also suspect that as with everything else about human behavior, that there isn't ONE unifying characteristic which EVERYONE who selects only one "race" over all others, uses as their reason to do so.

In fact, it is probably just a small subset of a much more common behavioral phenomenon in dating concepts:

there is nothing more common, than for people to conclude, however erroneously, that there is a direct link between one particular thing they do or don't like, and some other trait that they therefore pursue or avoid, as a sort of short cut.

I've known people who thought everyone from a certain region of the world were superior, owing to the culture of that area influencing their attitudes. We've all heard stories of physical characteristics being associated with certain groups. And there are age-related assumptions, academic achievement level related assumptions, and on and on.

They all have in common two things: There is SOME truth in the perceived link, at least in the personal life of the person who settles on it as being Truism; and there are always exceptions to their conclusions, which can show up and make the person trying to take the shortcut, look like one of the many "-ists" that are decried these days.

Well said! And yaaaaaay for us!!! We got through a sticky topic without all the drama. I knew we could do it!!!

No drama?
The drama llama is disappointed.

It's an individual decision for each white woman.

It comes down to what an individual finds attractive...and I agree MsH that it is sad when one only dates a certain race.

The reason I think it is sad is because rhat means someone is focusing SOLELY on a physical characteristic, being of a particular race doesn't mean you possess any specific characteristics other than a different skin color.

I think its sad when people focus on any ONE physical characteristic, such as a "she MUST be at least a D-cup" Sure you may be attracted to that..but when you make it a deal-killer it's sad.

I think some that date ONLY a particular race believe that EVERYONE from that race will possess certain qualities/traits/attitudes etc...it's massive stereotyping but because it's in a 'positive' manner it isn't viewed a such.

Sure you may be attracted to different skin color than your own, but again ONLY dating someone based I that fact is sad.

I'd say the same thing to someone that said they only date blondes/brunettes/redheads/girls with big boobs/tall girls/short girls/ it's shallow and sad in my opinion

indeed, why do they?
Why do white men date asian girls?

... and Asian girls go