First of all , I think it's sweet that you care so much about what your mom thinks .

And secondly, tell me what you think about this? What if you invite your girlfriend to the gathering , hang a round for an hour or two, and then tell the family that you are taking your girlfriend out for a birthday dinner?

Your gf might actually feel flattered that you are serious enough about her to introduce her to the family, your mom will be happy that you made family a priority, and after fulfilling 2 hours of family bonding and endless selfies with Uncle Tom, then you can fulfil HER needs...

an other interesting thread by Jimmy, let's read..

ok op what did God say to do lmao ... when u said oh god ... I would say take her if she does not touch or kiss or hold hands as lovers do some times in public ... and if she can contain herself around your mom and others ... but if she does not want to do that then go alone to the gathering unless their are gatherings like this all the time in your family... then I would say go out with your GF ... catch you nxt time mom I had already made plans for that day ..

Hi Jimmy,

i think the best is to speak to her openly, like you have explained in your post above. A caring and mature girlfriend should understand the importance of such a family meeting, and wouldn't mind about a delayed birthday celebration later on. ( Taking her with you is out of concern, as this is a very new relationship, i agree with you on that.)

i am trying to put myself in Jenny's place. what would i think/react if u told about this mixed-up situation and also ur reasons?.. i would think that it is very reasonable and fair for you to choose ur family meeting, not only because of its magnitude but also because of the relation being so new.. also i would think that this is a good thing that this guy respects family relations; so in long term - if it works out well - he will care for us well too.

good luck :)

Hello Jimmy Tomorrow Is Friday!
* Buy a ring.
*Meet with Jenny.
*Propose to her
*now she is family
** Done deal**


See easy

ahaha toooooo much!! solution-oriented

You Humans sure do know how to over-complicate a situation.

Here is how it is supposed to work.

Jimmy takes his girlfriend with him to the family reunion but stays only long enough to greet everyone.

Then Jimmy takes his girlfriend somewhere to celebrate her birthday.

If Jimmy's relatives are traveling long-distance, then the family reunion should be an all-day event, giving Jimmy time to return to the reunion after celebrating his girlfriend's birthday.

Hey! U stole my idea david! Lol . Ps ErotDoug. U are crazy. Hahaha

But on a serious note jimmy, it might not be a bad idea to offer her the option of coming to the family event.Even if she says no because shemay not wanna be under the family microscope so soon, i think she will really appreciate that you offered. If i were her although i wouldnt want to attend the gathering, i would possibly say yes just to be able to spend time with my guy on.my birthday rspecially if i undetstood that it would only be a couple of hours with the family vs the rest of the night with my guy . But its your decision to make. I am sure you will find a solution that works well for the both of you

There you have it 2 solid endorsements
* impress your mom
* peggy122 thinks it is jolly good as well
* great wife great life

Seriously, take the girlfriend out to an early dinner , call your Mom and say you are running late as usual, drop the girl home and head over to the party, which should be waiting for you, if not dive in, like nothing exciting happened two hours ago...

Ok your Parents and family have been on your side 32 years. I don't know what kind of sacrifices they made for you to enjoy the very nice life it sounds like you do enjoy but I would suspect it is significant; at least your traditional mother who still dotes on you as a grown man. Some things Moms just DO NOT want to read about on the Internet. So you have already stepped on your own you know what.

If ANYONE is hinting about your "duty" to show up for this shindig you really need to TAKE THE HINT and not taint their "ACCEPTANCE" of her. Come on...how many of the family are coming for this event? Do you REALLY want to have them ALL insulted?

People can be Busting your Chops about being a "Momma's Boy" but if you want to sabotage your family relationship then disrespect your family. I guarantee the long term costs will be severe.

What if; someday you ACTUALLY want to marry this woman, have children with her, that could be a pretty dismal picture if they the entire family is against her. Or just chilly? If you REALLY love her then you want her cherished as a welcome celebrated person not someone they resented from jump street.

Did it ever occur to that IF this girl is the one (which you have been blabbing to the whole world how you want it to be; so it is not like it is any secret to your parents. Who probably have print outs of it from some busy body family member; maybe the one who spoiled the surprise.

And if "they" or even HER'S are traditional old school; they may be hoping you at least have some kind of concern about how it will make your family appear to "Their" parents, friends, religious leaders, ect.. I don't see how you could have sabotaged her chances of being "approved" more. Maybe if you get her pregnant or posted nudies. I am being extreme on purpose but you are treading on very delicate feelings when you are late to marry son. You should at least give your Mother and elegant framed photo of both of you if you have to Fed Ex to her with HER flowers. That is just basic respect of Both women.

If you have any hopes of saving your chances you need to get your lady down to your parents and at least let them save a little face by and expensive brunch together. And has others suggested you at least need to put in a polite appearance if you have to otherwise entertain your lady by some spa time some place private.

I would strongly recommend you don't turn this family event into and engagement without their blessing which they may or may not like according to their customs. You have not said what this event is about to them; but you can bet if you make it out to be ALL about You, You, You it IS going to make you sound like a "Spoiled Brat" which will not affect your, or her, future well. And if this event wasn't suppose to be; you have insulted the host and who it was for. Nobody likes being upstaged. And families have really long memories.

And it really is not fair to her parents who may have not been given even similar respect.

Or for that matter HER. Her Engagement Party should be with both families present if only the closer ones. Hopefully by then you know who your Best Man and Matron of Honor will be. You can bet if your family is traditional they at least deserve that perk before the get pulled through a wedding. Which you definitely do not want to do in a hurry up.

Just because you brain (and maybe your little head) is all ga-ga-goo-goo over some girl you have known two weeks they are going to have "MASSIVE" reservations. At least give them a little time to sink in. Hey if they are thrilled wonderful but They are going to wonder what is the big rush? Are you dying and this is your last wish? Come on. Think!

And you can like it, or not, if this female is already is throwing around the "Love" word sounds like she has timed her "I love you" to put you on the spot and to be the most productive for her birthday bounty; not any serious love. Maybe she is already bucking for and engagement ring which sounds really desperate. And you NEED to know why.

I would make darn sure if you gave her something it would be a heart necklace or bracelet and be smart and sit on this situation and see just how much a fit she pitches. You are already afraid of her? That sounds ominous. If she does then you have the road map for the rest of your life. If she doesn't then you have a life time of making her birthdays special and the one that COUNTS is when you are MARRIED to her.

Wow lot of people counting me to buy her a engagement ring on her birthday
We just met two weeks back guys come on think about it.
I guess I have missed a bit again, there is a party in LA planned for her so it would be a nighter there too and guess who planned the party?

On the other hand, my parents party is a whole day event too.

The thought which I get in my mind when I think about denying any one is
1. Heart broken face of my MOM when my relatives ask about me.
2. Heart broken face of my girlfriend when her/my friends ask about me.

I would love her to meet my parents but here we are talking about all my relatives which I can`t take any chances with..don`t know how all will react.

Oh...I am so stuck what to doooo

I feel it is way too early but still I don`t mind my parents meeting her. The issue is that all my relatives will be there and they are loud enough to display their feelings. I don`t want to hurt her feelings incase things go wrong. Also the main events is dinner time for both the parties so pickle thickens there

Dude blowing anyone here is not an option. Jenny is a lady so things go wild in bedroom only not so much outside..i guess you understand..need to find a middle approach

Thank you for understanding. I have kept that as my last option to tell her about the mixed up situation as I have one more day to find a better solution. So guys give a better solution please

Hahahaha...to early bro..too early

Thanks bro but if any other solution is there it would be great.
Two parties, both include dinner and well planned..and my pickle

Why relationships are like spider webs once you get stuck some where then there is no way out. I hope you understand the reference. Once I enter any ones area, I am stuck..and as I mentioned there are two parties and both include dinner.

Well Mom`s viewpoint right. You may be right and she may be like that but right now she is a lady and I can`t destroy a possible future just based on some doubts and that is the reason I don`t want her to be introduced to my family right now. All said both the ladies are important to my life and I can`t hurt either of them. Both parties are important and my presence is essential in both places and hence the pickle and sol searching happening here.