Isn't it amazing how little creative most people are when it comes to their profile text?
I mean ... we're talking about finding a life partner here!

Many ppl know that things like "don't do this" and "I don't want that" (the negatives) do not attract the right people. Same for the YELLING.

But when it comes to writing an appealing text it seems to be beyond the scope of at least 80% of singles online?
Granted, not everyone is a great writer, not everyone is very creative, but we're talking about attracting a life partner, someone we want to love, trust, open up to.

I find that I skim through profiles real fast these days.
Most are according these lines:
I'm honest, reliable, a nice job, blablablar ZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzz *Sorry, I just dozed off*

WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR:
- If you feel drawn to my text, you may be the one for me
- you have to be, enjoy, and do this that and the other.

Occasionally I see a really appealing text, to be honest, only on a dating site for higher educated people.

Why are we so non-creative when it comes to 'flogging' ourselves and finding the love of our life?
Do you ever have another look at your profile text?
Do you ever revise it? Or maybe write a completely new one?
Don't you think it's important, maybe feel your photos will work for you?
Does a poorly written profile text deter you, if not ... what makes you contact that person anyways?

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My profile could do with some improvements I think, but because it sufficiently captures who I am and what I want, I am hesitant to tamper with the sincerity of it. Poorly written profiles do deter me alot. A good pic is never enough for me because my brain and emotions need to be tantalized every bit as much as my erogenous zones. In fact , one guy's profile actually turned me on without saying anything sexual at all . Mmmmmmmmm.........

But I digress.

I am curious about what attributes people look for in a profile. Some of the following beckons my attention and they are qualities I glean more from their TONE, rather than the words themselves:-

Someone who embraces his "flawsomeness" more than flaunting his awesomeness, , sincerity, ability to poke fun at himself, wit, confidence tempered with humility,open-mindedness, compassion, passion for life, liveliness, and..Oh yeah.. I'm not gonna lie... I like quirkiness. Quirks are so cute !

But in the absence of the things above , I respond sometimes just to give people a chance and the benefit of the doubt .

Speaking about profiles, mine has generally evolved...revisions based on feedback...and at this point, change will be forthcoming...
So right now, I am leaning towards going really really creative, just to match the most creative profiles on here...y'know the ones I am talking about.....no answer/tell ya later/ask me...lmfao...What do ya think???

In general I look for the same in a profile.
If it lacks that, it depends how much time I got, and what got me interested in him in the first place (did he send a nice message? Does his picture appeal? Something else)

I must say that a picture is the first thing I look at. If that doesn't appeal to me, I won't read his profile either.

I've revised mine a number of times too. Sometimes I write a complete new one.
It's rather interested to see that the reactions you get indeed do vary according to your profile text. Some elicit more 'good' reactions from interesting men than others.

But I think it should always convey who you are, so for instance not something witty when you aren't all that witty. And in that sense not attempting to please a large audience. After all you only have to find that one person interested in you. If well written, it will not appeal to the ones you don't want (I've experimented with that, really works!), but making sure it doesn't exclude the nice ones can be tricky. Because you can't really test that... It's just wait and see.
All in all delicate to get it right, and lots of trial and error.
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And here I thought we guys were the visual and shallow ones only...lol....sweet...all I can say....

Absolutely...trial and error without buns on fire...know not what that means...but sounded good ha ha!!

I am curious about what attributes people look for in a profile. Some of the following beckons my attention and they are qualities I glean more from their TONE, rather than the words themselves:-


In general I look for the same in a profile.
If it lacks that, it depends how much time I got, and what got me interested in him in the first place (did he send a nice message? Does his picture appeal? Something else)

I must say that a picture is the first thing I look at. If that doesn't appeal to me, I won't read his profile either.


Picture... That is also relevant but I find myself responding to facial expressions more than features per say. Some people cant help that they have a devious looking smile or frightened eyes etc and if such a person doesnt offer a reassuring profile to counteract the visceral effects of their seedy expressions, then I cant get past it sadly .

In general I look for the same in a profile.
If it lacks that, it depends how much time I got, and what got me interested in him in the first place (did he send a nice message? Does his picture appeal? Something else)

I must say that a picture is the first thing I look at. If that doesn't appeal to me, I won't read his profile either.


Picture... That is also relevant but I find myself responding to facial expressions more than features per say. Some people cant help that they have a devious looking smile or frightened eyes etc and if such a person doesnt offer a reassuring profile to counteract the visceral effects of their seedy expressions, then I cant get past it sadly .


Picture suppose to paint a thousand words......yours is worth at least 10 times that....all I can say...

Picture... That is also relevant but I find myself responding to facial expressions more than features per say. Some people cant help that they have a devious looking smile or frightened eyes etc and if such a person doesnt offer a reassuring profile to counteract the visceral effects of their seedy expressions, then I cant get past it sadly .


Picture suppose to paint a thousand words......yours is worth at least 10 times that....all I can say...


That is incredibly sweet of you to say . Thank you
(That 10 bucks I paid you to say that really went the distance!)

Gee, I was thinking about starting a business "Creating lines for the creatively impaired!"

Lines would be designed to get attention, show virtue, and make one "Glow with Power".

How much would a line be worth like ...

"I can drink more than a dehydrated bear!!"

Catchy Huh?

Nothing is sexier than a dehydrated bear. That idea will be selling like hot cakes. Start the business. I will handle the promo!

All I can say is...people do their profiles, for what works for them.
If viewers have a problem with it, then get the hell off their profile. As it obviously isn't something that is appealing to the reader.

I will add, that it's also inappropriate to message people about their profile about something you as the reader didn't like. Don't like my picture, just move on, no need for comment.

You are ... your reaction is proof, lol.
If I choose to, I can read photos, so I can get a lot of info of 'em. Hasn't got much to do with good looks or not ... it's about inner beauty etc.
And sure outer looks have an influence, I'm a human being, not an android.

Not really.

I mean it's like a car.
You go to a car show and you see lowriders and lifted trucks and classic cars where people put all sorts of paint and character and themes and time into the project.

They really give a crap about the car because more than likely that's all they have in life.
Lots of people have 0 money in the bank and live with their mom while driving around a car they put $50,000 into being "creative."

The majority of people use their car as a means to an end.
To go from home, to work, to the store.
It's functional.
Not meant to be lived in, but used to get to the places you live.


That's scary.
To believe a persons profile really has much bearing on the process of choosing a life partner.

To believe that, IMO, turns this site into a catalog for partner shopping and you're wondering either why there isn't a more accurate item description or wondering why more marketing isn't done.



Because people don't really come to a dating site with a long term vision in mind.
They don't believe they will be here for months or years on end.
Majority of people that come to online dating do so from reacting to something, not strategically planning and proactively forecasting their life.


When I'm actually trying I sometimes do.
But I'm a big fan of just using my profile like bait and not being proactive at all.


I've found "success" in getting dates just doing it like the majority of people; not trying.
I've found "success" in tailoring my profile to be relevant to a person I'm contacting.
I've found "success" in using it like a blog.


Not really.
No matter what you write on your profile there is no guarantee it will be successful.


If it does, then it's my problem not theirs.

Most likely it means I'm looking for reasons to reject someone so I don't have to try or change or something.

Has actually little to do with anything they wrote.

A lot of people come online because they want to feel an emotional reaction other than loneliness or the aching pain that comes with it.

So they look for something that will stir their anger, or righteousness, or something other than sadness.

Picture suppose to paint a thousand words......yours is worth at least 10 times that....all I can say...


That is incredibly sweet of you to say . Thank you
(That 10 bucks I paid you to say that really went the distance!)



Yeah! The cheque is still in the mail.. Lolll

got a message ( not here)
wanting to know why all my pics are head shot only
when I told him I have no desire to step up on that wet t-shirt of a stage
to be clumped in with all the other middle aged women oooozing desperation
just to get attention due to size of titz/azz
and nothing to do with my personality, my intelligence or my value system and who I am as a person..


I dunno man he never got back to me

Yes, I’ve noticed. Most are so uncreative that they don’t even write anything...and half *** it, weird pictures, or sideways pictures.

I’m sure my profile could use some improvement, but at least I wrote something.

I don't think they want to see your titz/azz per say, although they likely wouldn't object
It is recommended to have at least one full body picture, and fair enough if a man wants to see what you look like. There's people who appear to be 'normal built' when you see their faces. Then when you see the rest, they're huge.
If a man doesn't have a full body picture, I'm not keen on it either.

I once ended up with a meet and greet with a guy in a wheelchair! He'd only showed me pictures of his face He was a real good looking bloke, sexy as hell. But I don't want a partner in a wheelchair. And although I understand his problem in finding a date, it's not fair nor respectful to do that to someone else.
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I guess none of us are really educated when it comes to profile texts.
Maybe the expectations, perception and 'demands' of what is considered to be an appealing profile varies per age group too?