hell yes ..I do that every time..start out with a question here and there

feign interest along the way

then a few more questions

uh huh ...uh huh..oh really tell me more

but ..not really an interview with me

more like a Psych eval

how many times were you married?
oh ya? women just don't understand you?


oh you have a criminal record what was that all about?

hmnn..
was crashing through the red light, while stalking you..

Op I used to ask a lot of ? guess men did not like that either ...
I don't know why ... but for me asking I feel I am getting to know them better ... but some that have ask a lot of ? of me have been scammers so I learn to keep some things short ... and if they don't answer mine then freak um ... not the right guy for me to want to meet ... now friends different story ...

Well, there's a few question in particular that irritate the heck out of me...
- How long have you been on this dating site?
Why do you want to know?
Does it matter?
Do I care? Why do you care?
I don't even know! So I now have to keep logs so I can answer rude, irrelevant, privacy invading questions? It's none of their business. And I don't give a toss, I seriously don't know. I usually don't even know what day of the week it is (1 of the benefits of not working). I'd have to go through settings to find out, just to satisfy a man's needs, a guy I barely exchanged 2-3 sentences with? FO!
And the amount of men that ask this is astounding!

- How often do you date?
None of your business! You either like me or you don't.
I seriously don't get why men ask that sort of chit when you have barely exchanged anything beyond "Hello".
It's almost like "Dating Neanderthals" Great title for a book, maybe I should write it down and publish it
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see how it says joined date under your pic?

Wow.. how on earth did I miss this topic..lol..wink

I can answer some of this for you. To a point.

If a guy asks you how long you have been on site, it's usually because the guy wants to figure out as soon as possible if you are a serial dater. You may not believe the amount of women that hang around dating sites for nothing more than to date one man after the other for whatever they can get. It's usually, believe it or not, free meals. Many women know that the grand majority of men think with their penis. Because of this, some guys get nothing but taken.

The question, "How often do you date?" It kinda falls under the same thing. If you date a lot of different men, Just being honest here. For a lot of guys, it sends up red flags. Dating a lot of different men can mean a lot of different things to a man. I'm only going to name two. One, it can mean you have relationship issues. No man is good enough. No man wants to put his heart out there for someone to crush. The second, Fear of being used. Lots of women "act" like they like a man just for whatever they can get out of the man.

I'm sure some men are being nosy knuckle draggers. But not all. Some guys ask sensitive questions. And yes I know some ask too early. No argument there. But for a lot, they are just trying to guard their heart.

Yeah, on this site. I'm not talking about Mingle, I'm not looking for a date here, cos of the distance. And I ain't seen a dating site that publicly states "join date". On a forum it is okay to have that clear, but on a dating site not so much. WOuld seriously work against you if your join date is more than a year ago, sending the subconscious message no one wants you.

Yeah, but to some a 'serial dater' would be better than someone who doesn't date so much and vice versa. That could give the message someone isn't desirable and most men rather have someone who's popular with other men than not.
So them asking such questions means us women have to play Russian roulette and try to give them the answer they expect.
Kind of stupid. And it remains rude to ask after hardly having exchanged "hello".
I want to be treated as a human being, not have them assess me like a thing while they go through a checklist.

Dinners ... that's something you can control yourself. I don't do dinner dates on meet & greets (meet & greets should be short and sweet, 1 hr MAX), probably not on a 1st real date either. I don't like to sit there with someone I barely know with my gob full. On a 2nd date, definitely appreciated!

The most questions I have been asked by men is
When was the last time you have been with a man?

Does that have any importance? NO
Do they ask this question to give them peace of mind that you are clean from any STDs or are they making sure you know what you are doing?


Next is do I know how to cook?
I feel like saying What do you think, Dah I feed my family on take aways?


What is it with men asking these questions?
Notice how these two question relate to the two topics men love, sex and food.



I am waiting for a guy to ask me a sport question and then it will be complete.

the first question is designed to see if you are a.. a...
ahem...
a... a "horse"or a "hurse" (ahemmmmm pardon me :P)
do you have a long list of lovers you already had, or "how likely would i be a notch on her bedpost?)

the second one is to see if you are a classic woman or if you have moved away from the classic woman roles.
(are you a Feminahtsie?)

I mean come on, its not difficult to find reasons for these questions.

these questions might tell you more about the man than he would ever dare to admit.

oooooo man no one wants me

I must be uh ..ahem..hard to handle

yep been asked that one many times
"hey how are you and then-how long ya been on here"

Some people just do not know how to have a conversation online and need a little (gentle) guidance. We all have our strengths and weakness and we just need to relate and understand. Below, is an example of the worst first contact ever. With honest conversation over the months we now relate as friends and she is now dating and not using this opening line.

"Hi, How are you doing today? My name is juwitha,
23yrs, from switzerland, but presently now in Dallas NC
studying Accountant also am living with my uncle and
his kids, what is your name and age and also where
are you from? Sorry for been disturbed i just do view
your profile on single muslims although am totally
new on there also to this online service stuff, ur bio
on your profile, look like what i have been looking for
all my life"

Sweet, but totally lost online. haha! (This looks 100% spam but was not)

seems to me a lot of singles are living on islands.
building high barricades
like the 80-20 rule
80% of the singles are building barricades against the 20% predators / scammers and what not.

so a shipwrecked wen swims over to the island and what does she get from the sole resident? a spontaneous hug?

80-20 says negative.

Well, though you started saying 'not to generalize' I can't see here anything other than PURE generalization....