huh.you lost me on that one mr :(

Well like I have said Michael if you have walked away and replaced what
you have lost and have no intentions of taking it back and it was only
you that is at lost. Unless the issue is brought out for all to hear
that its time to put the past in the past and leave it there there will
always be a lot of tension around that is still a very hard issue to
deal with Gawd knows we all have familys that love to keep something
stirred up all the times therefore that is why most family's tend to
split and go there own ways. But if you do intend to take the property
back or fight for it then hey tell the ones you consider that share your
same thought and go for it. Then invite the family to your house on the
holidays hmmm for some reason the bad apple might decide to stay away.
There is no sure things to an issue like this. For no matter what your
choice there are gonna be issues.

ummm ell you know im silly so that was just silly. If I have to keep
trying to make myself look silly Im going to start getting really pissed
off!

good advise txs hope your around if i need some advise .

yes "Purplecat",we do just that,and this is th "Blinders" that I was
talking about.
so...how to stop all th growing tensions between this"FAMILY"
member,long enough to talk it over with them,and come up with a SOLUTION
to this growing problem,that we ALL can live with???

then stop tryin to hard :P lmao

i agree with txg..

if you're gonna get the land back, then do it and be done with it.
invite the family to your place for the holidays..the bad seed prolly
won't show up, and there goes the tension

now, if the bad seed DOES indeed show up, then easily put, leave the
past alone, it's a topic not up for discussion.


you can always have a sign on the door, one they can read before they
enter, "Positive Attitudes Only, all negativity can be placed at the
door, and picked up on your way out" lol

all you can do is try to settle the issue if the person or persons
involved cannot be civil ,there is not much you can do ,you can try
,don't beat yourself up if you tried and they did not reciprocate.Keep a
good heart if they have no good heart they are not worth the stress.

your right, cat.

Okay now the advice that ellgee just gave if ya don't think it want work
well I got one for ya. About 7 yrs ago my brother started having
Thanksgiving at his house and a Chinese X-Mas every year the rules are
once you walk through his door there is no gossip if you can't say
something nice then don't say anything at all he made this very clear to
all when he started this. I can say now coming up on the 8th year we all
have a great time no harsh words are spoken nothing but laughter and
smiles.

ppl can aruge til they're blue in the face...

stubborn is stubborn...there's no 2 ways about it

michael...decide who's the bigger "man" in this..you or them?

good luck ,if I where you
i'd have a nice bubble bath and a cup of tea and try to do something
nice that you like to do .take e breather and try not to get walked
over like that any more ! you hear me !

hey txs another good one ..If you can't say anything nice ,don't say
nothin at all is a great rule .Michael start makin that sign.

The "Bad seed "y'all are refering to will not go away untill
th death,as this person lives next door to my house,and
truth be known,I do not really want th property back,
only wants th anger to go away,and become FAMILY again...

forgive michael, and the anger will go away
I know is hard, but you can try.

then make the sign..and everyone can move on from it

Thank you purplecat, but... my brother looks kinda like iam4u he is a
biker I mean who is gonna go against him in his own house LMAO Truth is
we went for sooo many years with all the tension every year and he got
feed up with it. So he does invite all but seems that the ones that
caused it all decided not to show up it was actually there lost not ours
for now we truely have a great time.

DaBadGuy4u
lmfao Are You Giving People Shit Hell Gooooooooooo For It I Think It's
Great To Speak Your Mind

Please do not misunderstand me,,,I,,,am not th angry one here.
I have gone to other families houses to hear this problem talked about
by this person,and then dropped when I am seen,
th family does not wish to hear from either of us about it,
but is still unwilling to help me stop it from being discussed
by th other...how do I put this to rest,and still keep my heart in th
right place,without loosing family member support,
(not talking about money or things)but referring to th love of th
family,as this still goes on????help???

"Lady63",,,if you are not going to offer constructive help,,,
sit this one out,and please keep your sick nose out of my ass.
you are th one that I got "hostle"with for that sick comment of yours,to
this FAR from sex issue,I would thank you to but out!

Michael...im certain this didn't just happen recently, cuz you said the
material things have been replaced (that tends to take some time)

so next time you walk in the room, and things go hush hush
instantly...pull "them" off to the side, and tell 'em let this die
already, it's time to grow up and move on..it's done and over with by
now

SUMO - shut up, move on

words to live by for some (not implying you)