Are there certain rules? I have tried to chat about life in general and get to know people. It seems however that no one wants to do that. Most everyone I have talked to either is a scammer or they want to talk about sex right off the bat. Am I doing soemthing wrong here. Please help. I definately need advise.

Best thing is to do is tell them you are a respectful lady and you don't deserve that talk because it's rude. Make it a point you need to be friends first and if they still respond to you then you may have a friend, if not you are better off without them! Good luck in your search and GOD BLESS!

Sometimes you have to weed out the losers to get to the real people.

And depending on what fertiliser is used, you may have more weeds than flowers.

Just delete those that are not capable of having a conversation without sex involved, and be patient.

Thank you, Brian.

when they talk to me about sex.. i BLOCK THERE BUTTS

^^ Good advice from all .. thing is Internet is a breeding ground for all the basement minded people (that can be women too .. I've heard it on good account from some guys I know) ..

But it can be a blessing too.

The more you do it the better you are at picking that out right away.

a lot of good stuff , this is a good site with a lot of good people. be true to your needs and wants you'll find a friend or two.

Here's how it worked for me here:

1. Sign up.

2. Spend some time getting to know the rules, how everything works, the features, etc.

3. When you've gotten settled in, start looking for local people who seem interesting.

4. Send them some e-mails.

5. Never get any replies.

6. Read the forums, and post 5200+ times. People will notice you, and they will start contacting you about things you wrote about in the forums.

7. Make a lot of great friends from all over the world, the only downside of which is that they are all 897,000 miles away.

8. Abandon the idea of meeting anyone datable because the only people who would date you are too far away to ever do so.

9. Enjoy the site anyway because so many of the great people in distant galaxies are fun and understanding and you can develop some real communication.

Well, that's my experience anyway. But then I am extremely "selective"....Your mileage may vary.

I think the forums are the key here. Once people get to know you, and you get to know them, you'll be surprised by how friendly and caring so many of the JSH members really are. And it really doesn't take long at all.

And welcome to JSH!

desperation does funny things to some people...

wolfmomma stick around the forum and you will come to find there are more real people on here then you realize. It takes time sometimes to make friends and maybe more if that is what your looking for. When I first started on these dating sites all I was getting was the same thing. I was like, if this is what this is all about then why bother. Then I ended up here and that is when things started to change. The first email sent to a girl that was on JSH was in a relationship. I was a little rude to her and I think why at that time and it's been a year. Every topic she put up was about sex. Anyhow, she was not happy to say the least because of the email I sent. At that time my head was more on that these site are all nothing but scames and people that play games. Well, here it is a year latter and I have made more friends on this site then I have in my everyday life

Be yourself, if you're not comfortable with what they say to you TELL THEM. If they keep bugging you, Block them. Hang in! You will find friends or maybe more if thats what you're looking for. I have found several friends at JSH and looking forward to making more.

nanafry, Is that a Thomas Kincade?

Its simple, only answer messages that come from really hot guys, cause we all know that really good looking guys treat women with respect......lol :-P

Nah, not everyone are like that....though its good to be wary and hope the right one comes along

Mimx, thats bs....

Im seriously thinking about sex right now and no one wants to talk to me about it......

Sin, notice the "lol" at the end of the sentence....that usually indicates a joke, and for most people they pick on that.

Oh I thought everyone emailed me just for sex!! LOL

There are no rules.... Online dating, the new wild west. Grab your guns!

rules??? ehh ok

Sorry Mimx, my bad....wish its true eh but that might just send wolfmomma into therapy, buying into a lost battle haha