been here for quite sometime now.
met very few great & gentlemen.
that eventually becomes my friends.

however,am still finding my mr.right over here.anyone?haha!

am a woman who doesn't need a man to elevate a lifestyle.
as I certainly know the real meaning of hardwork.
am looking not only a lover but a partner as well in a journey in this what we so called life

These things take time, some find true love very quickly and for some it takes awhile. Your a very lovely woman and I am sure you will find what your looking for real soon..Best wishes to you.

These billboarding posts are fun.


Where else have you been?


Do you understand how you should be scared of what you just said?

You've met "great" (men?)

"Great" men tend to change the world.

You've met them...and you don't want to date them.

You're rejecting "great" men.

What does that mean? What is that saying about you?

...Unless they really aren't that great...which means you either don't see the relationships or men realistically, or lie.
I'll pretend you do neither, it would make the OP pointless.


Also, you're turning great men into "friends."
So any guy that wants to date you, they have to not only be more than "great," they have to compete with several "friendship" relationships with "great" men.
God forbid if you believe in "friends first," then men are screwed and going to be avoiding you as much as possible to avoid the cycle you offer evidence of, turning great men into friends.

Not only that, you mention:

Anybody with any sense that reads this is going to think you are offering the trite "I don't need a man, I want one, just to share my life with. I don't need a man to provide, I got my own job, I got my own money."


So your demand is for men that are more than "great," can handle your "friendships" with "great" men, who you don't need at all except for your desired relationship of a wanted partner.

From a different perspective you are expecting a guy drawn to internet dating that is more than great, totally secure in himself, and specifically looking for a woman who doesn't need him except to fulfill his role as her partner and her lover how she defines it.

...You really expect to find a guy like that online? Or in existence?


Good luck with that.

Ciretom that was an impressive read, and I certainly could understand your post.

I was going to go with simple, that maybe fridawanda needs to reassess what she really wants in a partner. If she has met some great men that, she considers friends, then I think her standards and/or selection criteria is too strenuous.

But if fridawanda is strong enough to live on her own and support herself, and she truly doesn't NEED a man, then why is she upset that she hasn't found the right guy?

Ciretom, Well said !

Maybe she's looking for Scott Pilgrim?

I am not sure maybe it is an English translation or something. I get that you are independent and you are making it on your own. And Yet you come across a bit like you way or the highway in your profile and here.
IF this is what you want to project then you are spot on and sooner or later someone may come along.
If this isn't what you want to project, I would advise to soften it up a bit.

As I read your profile,I got a whole other view of you as a person.

Good luck out here.

Well I think I got what the Lady was saying.

I thought she just meant she simply wants a level playing field. Nothing wrong with that.

Hardly needed surgically dissecting did it.

Seems to me the OP is using the stereotypical female way to describe men who she just doesn't find physically attractive enough for a relationship. As in "he's a GREAT guy, but there's no chemistry..." a lot of women do this to avoid hurting a males feelings, if the male seems to want to go forward physically & the woman knows he's got no chance. We also do it when we genuinely want to be friends but nothing more.

Sometimes it works & the male accepts the friendship, other times it doesn't & he stops contact. There's nothing wrong with being called a "great guy" or a "great girl", unless you want to be called something more intimate & the other person just doesn't feel it.

Damn it all these years I thought they just really saying I'm a great guy..nooooo..lol..wink

Ah yes, the friend zone purgatory, I myself have been placed here by EVERY women I have ever been interested in. There is nothing worse then trying to get something going only to have her ask you for advice on how to woo a guy she like or how she thinks it's so great that your the only guy she know that she hasn't slept with. It got to the point that I'd rather be kicked in the teeth then go through that again and now I just except that if I consider them attractive their probably not interested.