8 Years, and your on a dating site? Sounds like both might have commitment issues. Shame he isn't like the guy my ex left me for, our divorce was final this past March and by September they were in a new house, new Harley, new Mercedes and married. Her digging for gold continues.

I know of people who dated for many years happily. Once they tied the knot, it all fell apart. Maybe its psychological, I don't know

dating is perfect but .....................

But..............not something you want to commit to for life

It depend on how both of them loved each other...

Don't know why everyone is so into getting married. Spend all that money for what? The chances of becoming a statistic (how high is the divorce rate) all for a ring and a piece of paper stating that in the eyes of the law, you're married.

Can't people just be happy living together and loving one another? It doesn't matter how long people have been together. Skip marriage, save the money because its a lot more expensive to break up once you spend the money to get married then spend even more to get divorced. Just food for thought.

hey

WORD! 8 years? Sorry Op but your relationship is well past its expiration date in terms of any hoped for marriage proposals...

8 years.
You would know by now how much u love him, wedding ring or no wedding ring.
He would know by now what will make u really happy.
How marriage is important to u.
You would both know by now what are your goals as a couple.
What u want to achieve as a couple.

Makes excuses.
- even u acknowledge that those are just excuses
and yet u stayed with him for 8 years
-does that mean he makes u happy &
complete even without marriage?

8 years ago did he promise a ring
& marriage someday
that is why u still hope?

Because that means it is
ridiculously long to keep a promise.
U know, he will not marry u.

or

8 years ago u both decided
marriage is not that important in your relationship?

That would be unfair for the guy.
You stayed in the relationship
for 8 years without marriage why
change it now?
Will it not put a strain to your healthy relationship?
How big deal is marriage to u now?
More big deal than making him happy
& not pressured to do something he does not want?

At the end of the day,
the opinion of others will not matter,
the big question will be
which is more important to u,
your relationship with him
or your need to get married?

well said chronic

DAYUM, Goof....3 hours??!! That alone is frakey...but then when she was not amused at the bubblegum machine ring, You need to find funner babes!

80% american men won't marry. Too many laws n lawyers against them. Only young and foolish will marry under these laws. Only time the law is equal is if there's been no sex between the man n woman.

While marriage rates are getting lower, the actual percentage of unmarried American men is about 46%....but you've never let facts get in the way before...

"" In 2014, 53.8 percent of American men
were married.""
http://fusion.net/story/40998/the-percent-of-americans-who-are-married-has-hit-another-all-time-low/

Um...no. People are actually marrying at an older age now....

"" Today’s young adults are slow to marry
by historical standards. As of 2012, at
age 25, 78% of men and 67% of women
had never married. About five decades
ago, only 28% of men and 13% of
women had not married by age 25. The
median age at first marriage is 29 for
men and 27 for women today, up from
23 and 20, respectively, five decades
ago.
The share of never-married adults
declines with age. In 2012, 32% of men
and 25% of women had never been
married by age 35. And by age 45, 19%
of men and 14% of women had never
married. The corresponding shares in
1960 were much lower. At age 45, only
7% of men and 6% of women had never
married.""
http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/09/24/chapter-2-trends-in-the-share-of-never-married-americans-and-a-look-forward/

Let me put it this way, have you ever heard the phrase ''Why buy the cow, when the milk is free'' ??

Perhaps you have an idea of the scenario there or perhaps i've no idea what i'm talkin about

There are so many possibilities here that come to mind.
Is this a sudden thing you that you want to get married or has this been an issue. Me personally if marriage is what I was after I wouldn't. have waited 8 years.
Why do you want marriage is it for security? What? I think those reasons have to be figured out and then why doesn't he?

Have you talked to him? Asked him bluntly?

I don't think you will find the reason on a dating site. I think if being married is more important than the relationship then it is time to sit down and lay your cards on the table... Then make some hard choices...

The U.S. Census Bureau reported today that 11.4 million married-couple households, or 21 percent of all married-couple households in America in 2011, had at least one spouse born in another country. About 13 percent (7.3 million) of households had two foreign-born spouses, and 7 percent (4.1 million) had one native-born and one foreign-born spouse.

http://www.census.gov/newsroom/press-releases/2013/cb13-157.html

marriage is like a hot bath, after you are in it a while its not so hot.

I would believe this because it seems to be a real draw for people to who are not USA citizens and want to stay here to want to marry.

It has gotten so common for non resident aliens to solicit mature women for marriage it is getting where many of my friends now ask to see a birth certificate early on.

Too many times the guy marries, get citizenship, and then just disappears. Many are well paid professionals and can afford two residences or have a second residence that they just never move out of and won't allow the new wife to move into. Unlike what many believe a spouse does not have to provide support if the citizen spouse is not destitute.

Sometimes they to go back to "single life" until the woman dies and then they come in to claim half of whatever is left. Because it is getting harder/expensive to divorce by publication and the humiliation many mature women will stay silent. Especially if she gets some sort of shared insurance benefit that they don't get from their own jobs. Often the only time the children find out their ill mother's are alone is when a social worker is called in to find nursing home care.

how does getting married change anything?

Spouses get preference on citizenship applications. And if the spouse says they serve as caregiver or starts a business even if it is not particularly profitable they get extended work visa's. With staffing budget cuts there is very little fraud enforcement.