I was in a long relationship that lasted 6 yrs.

My ex lied to me repeatly about his now current partner, telling me she was his cousin, friend, etc....

Well i've been single for 2 yrs. And it's been rough for me to get over all the pain and anger i had towards him.

But he's not making it easy for me, he calls constantly to pick fights, then does a 180 and says he misses me, etc. coming by my office to see me, asking me personal questions. which really isn't his business...

i am so tired of dealing with this man, i've gone to the extent in order for him to leave me alone, and none of it sinks into his head.

my mom tells me to get married and he'll leave me alone, i'm starting to think that's probably the only way.

anyone have any suggestions on this problem i'm having. Or can relate to it, so i dont feel like the only one here

Ever heard of a Restraining Order?
Do it.

welcome to the screwed up ex's club,,,, we have keychains and tshirts

hey thumper95 you just gave a bright idea we should have mike change the name of the site to the screwed up ex club


we all have been there so we know

LOL...I hear that! and then when I make it clear that I don't EVER want to get back together w/him....well then I am a whore and a slut and biotch and all that really nice stuff! So then why would he want to get back together?

Restraining order sounds good...

Had an ex bf like that- it sucks.

Don't marry just so he will leave you alone.

I've done toe whole legal thing with protection orders etc. seems like law enofrcement here dont enforce them. i've even called his work place and talked to the human resource lady, thats who they referred me too.

and he keeps telling me we have to talk because of our daughter, but what's the point he isn't active in her life, you get me!

Marrige is in no way they answer. I mean why make a commitment so big like that if you in no way are gonna be happy with that person. People like you ex like to point out other peoples problems just to make themselves feel better about thier own. Then they do the 180 just to keep you around. I know this because my step-mother does that to me alot. And if he has lied, than you can't really rely on that person to fufill your needs. So try to make it absolutely clear to him that you don't want anything to do with him or his non-sense if that's what you really want.

well i just needed to blow some steam off in here... and freshmountainair, i've been called everything in the book, why do they call you down when u want nothing to do with them. they're just hating...

restraining order is my vote too!!

Restraining orders are not that easy to get, and they are expensive too. To be honest I would just call him a c*** and hang up lol.
;)

da absolute thanks for giving me some input.

he is a liar and i learned never to trust or believe a word that comes from his mouth. i think he's realizing he doesn't have that power and control over me so he's doing and saying what he can to make himself satisifed, trying to make me angery

Oh well

i could loan you a blade or 2,, just clean em before ya give em back,,

I don't know....he frusterates me faster than anyone in the world! Same situation....he never pays child support on our two girls....he hasn't even seen them in over 5 months! But he constantly calls about how much he loves me and then turns around and says the meanest nastiest stuff to me! When his actions are the reason we broke up not mine..... Super frustrating....I know exactly how you feel!

Find a couple guys to go pay him a visit.
If he disappears you can get SS for the kids.

what you tryin to say sage???? that she needs to talk to someone like me?

No thumper your to close, you might intro her to someone, or maybe I could, who knows?

Oldsage... I pack a 4 iron!! U wanna buddy up on this guy with me??

RESTRAINING ORDER!!! and DO NOT get married unless you are in love, will be a bigger mistake than the 4-iron hehe

Best of luck!!

know what your going thru,Just got my divorce finalized yesterday after 2 years of him refusing to sign and begging to come back only to call me every name in the book when I refused to take him back. I have 3 kids all 16 and older in age and they have seen everything that has gone on. It took them telling him to leave me alone before he realized what he was doing to the kids.
I had a restraining Order only it did me no good the cops here just turned the other way.

Oh....my family would rather shoot him than look at him twice! There is no doubt about that! I think my dad and brother in law would beat him to death given any chance....