I honestly don't care either way

1. most of the male strippers I've known are gay.

2. I don't really see anything wrong with it, I see it as the same thing as going to hooters, fun to look, just don't touch

3. I do think that it CAN become a problem, but only when your significant other, starts to know the strippers by name and would rather go then be home with you, but to me that would b apply to an place/person the same way if they wanted to be with their best friend every night and u wasnt invited, then it'd become a problem.

but maybe im unique, I also go dancing with my gf and I have no issues with her dancing with other guys, she knows where the line is, and that if she chooses to cross it, she's choosing to end the relationship on the spot..

Basically as long as she isn't kissing/ or leading to the guy to a dark corner it's all
good.

same with strippers don't care if she goes and watches, but if she blows the guy, relationship is over lol

That's what it will lead to if he or she keeps frequenting such places.

I honestly don't believe that, I do believe people can have self-control,

its interesting what happens when your partner knows you're 'ok' with something. ..it becomes less of an issue and not as desirable.

you tell someone they 'can't' do something and they will do it to prove that you cant control them, you take away the 'forbidden' aspect and it's no longer taboo so it loses some of its allure

Or they feel that it's okay to mess around because the boundaries have been removed.

I didn't say anything. I was agreeing with tmommy and I quoted her post. kick his azz out. I think its disrespectful also.

to Rebel Archer

okay, that's putting mildly. you live near Mississippi....wow, ! I never been to the south......I hear Georgia have some wild strip clubs......" Magic City Club"....lol

Not my thing really but I did go to one on Bourbon street in New Orleans. I wasn't forced to go inside but I was with gang of guys so I didn't want to say no.

Didn't do anything for me so I wouldn't ever plan to go to one.

What's the point in staring at an apple pie if you know you can't have a bite

A partner, if she was going on a hen night or something like that with the girls it wouldn't bother me one bit.

oh debb what's wrong? you know I take the respect of my opinionates seriously. let me know who's a problem?

joethebricky,


I heard of bourbon street , isn't that where mardi gras main street? I would think it would be at least one strip club or nudity bar?

no problem.

you left me a message on this thread (page 2), but I didnt post, I just quoted someone and posted, and I think you got my post mixed up with hers. ive never been married.

the boundaries are not 'removed' they know what the boundaries are, it is just a different perspective on 'where' those boundaries are.

some people think talking to a member of the opposite sex can constitute cheating, some think kissing someone else constitutes cheating, some think only when oral or sex is involved is it cheating, there are still boundaries it is just where you decide to place them.

even people in open relationships have boundaries, sure their boundaries may be more generous, but there are still rules and if a s/o breaks them....then buh-bye

if it works for your relationship Isaac which it seems to, then all good. it seems there's a lot of trust there

Yes it is although I wasn't there during the festival.

It's a crazy place and I think there's a few strip bars.

But there's plenty of normal every day kinda bars, great place and the music really is something else, some of those folks play the guitar like you wouldn't believe.

there is, and I'm not saying it's right for every relationship, I understand the mis-givings that some may feel about this.

I used to be the same way, but I honestly believe that stemmed from me never 'truly' trusting my ex, sure I said I did, but if I was honest with myself I really didn't.

it's different with my current girlfriend because I do truly trust her, as she's given me no reason not to, but she's also aware that if she breaks that trust just once there is no reconciling, and at that moment she is choosing to end the relationship.

I was never confident enough before to say that, and I honestly believe part of the reason my ex cheated on me was because essentially she knew I'd try to work things out, and forgive her, basically almost giving her the go ahead, because there wasn't any real consequences.

I hope my current girlfriend would think-twice before crossing any boundaries, but if at some she doesn't, I'll just find someone else who will

by what you have said, there seems more trust in your relationship than most I've ever come across.

you both have clear boundaries set, and its working for you both.

I think if you have trust and boundaries that you both clearly abide too (which you both do) that's great because that's when relationships last.

I didn't know you were in a relationship, all the best.

yeah it seems to be working we've been together going on 8 years, (and yes she knows im on here) I like forums

excellent.

your very honest with each other, I wouldn't have thought otherwise.

I went to a strip club with my ex-husband when we were dating. It was fun. The girls were very nice.

Strippers need love too lol,and strip clubs may be bad for married people and people in relationships,but what about us single ones? I don't go to non but would,and it sure ain't bad for us,just don't give Dem all ya money lmfao!

Just remembered ... I once been to a ladies' night with male strippers in the UK. I remember I was paying more attention the the UK women going nuts, shrieking and yelling, than I was actually watching those guys. Can't even remember if they went the full monty. I think they did, but not sure.

What I remember most, was this pregnant girl, ready to pop, who went nuts over these stripping dudes. Think of all the women, she screamed the loudest. Insane. Couldn't believe it. Maybe, in retrospect, she was in labour, labour screams, haha.

But seriously, watching these nutty women was far more exciting than watching the strippers. Although there was one who was really sexy, the only one who didn't have bulging body builder muscles. (I don't like body builder muscles, I prefer natural muscle)