We can also tag this topic "saying NO to sex makes you more "killing" or "more valuable", or "more classical". Etc. A "No-To-Sex" lady is the only type of girls guys respect and want the most. If I were talking to my sister, this is the truth I will make her understand. As a guy, as a man, whenever we hear a lady say no to sex in a relationship until after marriage documents and rites have been done, we go 'gaga' for the lady. I dont mean girls who are 'forming' "hard to get". I am talking about single ladies hoping for a good caring and nice future husband. Dont portray yourself as a cheap material. Now you know, would you change your search preferences? I hope guys wouldnt be 'angry' that I revealed our 'secret'. Whats your thought?

That's so true

as a single person I do not portray myself as cheap material as u put it.i find that derogatory.as more than likely would many others.i am happily single and if right guy came along cool.but cheap never.if men want beefburgers let em chase em.this prime rib steak is staying single and clean and not cheap!!!
p.s do u realise how fedup we all are of constant threads mentioning sex.its all the time.it so old it grown a fur coat.

Well what you say is true then why do I get accused of being hard to get?
I refuse to get up something that I want to give to my husband. It is the only thing you can give. To me by saving myself for him shows him that he is special and also i believe when you have sex with someone you are giving him a part of you.
Yes my values and expectations are high but why should I lower them for 5 minutes fun and then hate myself.
The right man that comes along will understand and respect my choice especially if he wants a woman that loves him.
Is it really that hard to do?

hear hear well said.

I disagree with the premise as described.

Women who JUST say no all the time, do NOT get lots of males attracted to them because of it.

It's WHY they do what they do that matters.

Otherwise there would be a gaggle of nuts-in-love males gathered outside every nunnery.

Men do tend to go ga-ga over the woman who chooses to have sex because it's with him. And they do tend to lose interest in women who appear to want to have sex all the time with whoever happens to be around.

Just my observations about this.

All men are differenti.
I certainly do not go 'goo goo gaa gaa' over the no-sex type woman. Altho the last time i dated a no-sex type was when i was 19

Not hard to do but it requires strict self discipline

I am highly selective because I can be. If I give my flower to any man, he must really be special. As far as saving sex for marriage, that is strictly cultural. Not all societies find this acceptable. Also, I had the luxury of being chaste when I was younger. This is no longer important as I have grown older since no one expects me to be pure anymore. Chastity changes as you get older.

Mate I'm not the one who has a problem waiting.
I don't find it hard to do. Once I decide to do it then my mind is set. It is about being careful not to put yourself in situations that could lead to it.
But as a man can you do it or have you done it?

Funny, probing Uche?. Ok. I can tell you with every sincerity of heart and soul that I never allowed the flesh to rear its ugly head up since I found myself single again, over 5 years now. Its not difficult if you refuse to allow worldly garbages inroad in your mind. Chastity is sweet and pleasant!! I have perfect peace of mind and joy unspeakable. It requires grace though

Well done. Good on you. Be encouraged to keep going.

Think the bottom line is: you put out easily, then you lose the respect element, and without respect there really is no future.
So respect to all you who preserve their dignity and self respect, but hey people will only wait so long, and that goes for both Male and Female.
But also we all must appreciate, for some, its most probably been a while and then there is the nervous element!

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Well... I agree with, no matter where men are or what they say, MOST still see TWO types of women.
" Good girl & Bad girl "
And there is NOTHING women can do to change that.

My grandmother had this solution..

"A GOOD woman, should be a LADY in the parlor, a WIFE in the kitchen & a WH@RE in the bedroom "

Yes.

Wow! I think that makes me a good girl then.

Good in the parlor? Doing what there?

Wow. Where do you belong in the scale above?

That is me... All of 3. What my grandmother said. I have found it to be true. Even if she was born 1918 & it is 2015 now.
Men & women are still basically the same, as far as serious relationship.
I have told my children & younger relatives the same.

BUT - I also add, a MAN must deserve a woman to be all 3., otherwise he can NOT expect it. No woman will ever be voluntarily submissive IF she does NOT respect a man or find him worthy.

Yes, sure, in the parlor. Let's see. What do I do there. Serve tea? Yes, serve tea. With lots of sugar. And cream. With a smattering of honey...