Sometimes when I am online or walking around in world I see or hear things that would have just made my mother cringe..can remember her teaching me how to cross my legs while wearing a dress and how to walk in heels and that a lady is known by her speech and her appearance. Do you think that this concept of being ladylike still exists? I am mother of sons and taught them to open door for lady and clean up after themselves and bring in groceries. Does being a gentleman still exist and what.does that mean anymore?

I don't wear dresses.
I rarely wear make up as I like to show up naturally.
I'm a gentlewoman.
I always give up my bus seat to pregnant women, disabled people, people with little kids, and the elderly.
Yes we still do exist.

Admirable/Adorable!

I wear dresses in the summer. As it's more suitable for this kind of warm weather. Or sometimes I'll wear a party dress, if I'm invited to someone's birthday party. Someone I know, keeps announcing to us all "I'm a true gentleman. I open doors for women", etc. And I just sit there thinking "No. You aren't. You'd like to think you are". He has an ego. A big one. . They surely exist SOMEWHERE in this world. Saying that, I don't expect
a man to be a gentleman to me. I
don't want a man thinking he has to have it all to win me over. Despite what kind of background he ends up being from, I will not judge just by the first day only, of meeting him. I'd want him to feel as relaxed as possible.

What does it mean? Do you think a man has to open car door or pull chair out for you or stand when you leave table or are you just happy if he chews his food with his mouth closed? when walking into dinner do you walk next to each other and you pause as he opens door...perhaps his hand is gently at base of your back. When you get to your table he lets you sit first and offers to hang up your coat. Haahaa..sometimes think I am a dinosaur

Since last November I focus on being ladylike over the summer. wearing dresses, skirts, jewelry and styling my hair instead of putting it in a pony tail. Make up was the hardest. At first it felt like my face was dirty. I hardly had any on. I had to give up trackies, runner, tshirts, jeans and shorts. I also had to change the way I talked. That was hard. I had to remember to sit a certain way (I had to remember I was in a dress). I speak with full sentences instead of Hey bro, whats up which is Hi, how are you? as an example. It has taken 6 months but I think I have it now. lol I do have to remember when I am with my old friends ladylike.

See I grew up with brothers and we played football and basketball and was kind of a tomboy..one of guys but I was taught that when in public a young lady should behave as one. Now she understood that as a teenager I was interested in what was in fashion but I was told "If you dress like a truck stop floosy don't be surprised if you are treated like one"

Most certainly and I see it and hear about it almost daily; and yet I get to see and hear the other side of the 'lesser thinking humans' as well! While I've been chastised on a most recent political thread for my use of a 'A$$swipe' typed word use by a fellow member {he's since neglected to go after any of the other male gendered members for their equally objectionable written/altered wording verbiage --- interesting and yet telling.
He'd assumed that because I was on the political forum that I was 'MALE'; neglected to look at my profile/look at my profile image and just think that telling me how shocking and likely that 'any woman would find my way of speaking a enjoyable/attraction and wished me good luck in my search' and then refused to apologize for his blatant error!
I'm not 'GAY - Not looking for a lesbian relationship' and I countered with a extended 'Welcome to Mingle' and 'hope that you find the exact type of MAN that your seek'

While I might post/type in one manner on a certain topic that's not how I publically carry on a public conversation!
Children & my elders do not need to hear how my vocabulary can decline to quick/rapid 4 letter words; but when trying to describe specific situations given our wide variety of vitriolic verbiage a resounding full force 'WTF' just clears the vocal cords quite nicely!!!

Haahaa..No worries. I can curse like a drunken sailor or a screaming banshee when angered

FLASH BACK MEMORY ~~~ out in the barn with my dad, and a Guernsey stepped on my foot!!!
Now cows aren't quick to respond to screams and curse words of any sort and are even slower to raise that foot once it's planted --- but the words that poured out of my mouth as she was bearing full weight down upon my tennis shoed foot!
Well, mom came a running and dad was busting a gut LOL'ing while trying to get Guernsey to lift her foot from on top of mine; meanwhile my dear mother was about to have a fit about those 'VILE' words pouring out of my mouth!

Father saved me from a serious A$$ whopp'n by refreshing my mothers memory about who taught me those INFAMOUS words because I was his shadow! But I still got hold the 'LAVA' soap for 15 minutes in my mouth and broken 3 broken toes too!

You mean you and your mother didn't wear matching miniskirts and shirts unbuttoned to your navels when y'all watched twerking videos and practiced your moves together? Look, ma! No bra!

Everybody is in a hurry anymore...welcome to a new era of technology driven fast food love.

You are shown the "menu", place your order, and if you are approved by the "Soup Nazi" restauranteur, you get served the goodies. But then you step to the left, cause there are more customers in line want to try the milkshake!

Continuing with the restaurant analogy, (GOOD FOOD )when you have to read the menu and anticipate the appearance of your food, that is associated with a classy joint. But when the menu just shows you pictures and the price, that is associated with cheap and fast.

You can debate which was the first to fail, but the lady/gentleman roles depend on each other. Ladies becoming accepting of misogynistic behaviors, men becoming accepting of unladylike behaviors, skews the relationship. Instead of being mutually beneficial they turn mutually parasitic.

I've seen and touched a naked woman before (yes, she was alive, not under the influence, and had given her verbal consent). Hanging them boobies half way out of your shirt doesn't lure me to love you. Giving out beaver shots don't make me wanna pay your electric bill.


And don't get me started on people of all ages trading nudies of themselves to ANYONE who says hello to them.

(BTW, Hello! ........ dang, didn't work).

There are plenty of gentlemen running loose in the world. And it means the same thing it has always meant: To protect and serve women with special dutifulness to the woman that is nurturing and serving you.

Hmmm

not of the "Everybody's doing it get with beat" mentality or " its all in good fun" Nice to see you back again RF

Shoot.....if I still didn't say "Yes man" or "No mam" to my Grandma she would probably put me over her knee and spank me.

awww shucks!

Nice to see you...and don't think I missed how you threw a little housework into your definition of a gentleman!

Haahaaa..hey now I take clothes from hamper and wash and fold all boys have to do is put them away. I plan menu and do shopping and all they have to do is help bring the bags in . They have some chores that need doing..my definition of gentleman at least for my sons..has to do with respect

R-e-s-p-e-c-t...yep yep...wan't referring to the groceries, that's man stuff to do, I was mentioning the "clean up after yourself" part...but if I gotta mop, you're squarshin' bugs!

Haahaa you have any idea what the entire area surrounding a teenage boy would look like if I did not make them clean up after themselves. I happen to be excellent sammich maker and bug killer

I never equated being unladylike with a hair style, whether or not a woman paints herself up or what she's got on. It has more to do with what she AIN'T got on and how she presents herself in public.

Having been a teenage boy, I do.

And here's the part about being a gentleman that I like....if you make the sandwich, I kill the creepy crawlies - not cause you can't, but because you shouldn't have to.

I think so but maybe you have to look past more of the "popular" behavior to find it. Sad because the lady and gentleman behavior is so much easier to live with.