Ever think about certain people that came into your life that made a huge impact. What if that person never came along, where do you think you'd be now?

That would be my stepfather... well, not anymore, my mom got divorced yonks ago but still... without him I'd prolly married with children for some 25 years now...

THANK GOD he came into my mom's life!!!
Because of him we went abroad, best experience of my life! Got to see and live in Indonesia, Australia, broadened my mind, shaped and changed me and my life :)

Yes I do think this a lot. If it wasnt for this person I would probably be uneducated with at least 6 kids breading more.
Wow 3 is enough. I don't have a problem with kids. I just wanted a career too. Now I have up to 30 of them each day lol .

Yes I have thought that often. IF I hadn't met my husband, I wouldn't have the wonderful children I have, I am not sure if I would have traveled as much or be as compassionate person as I am now. I know I wouldn't have chosen the career path I did without his encouragement all those years ago

Oh my. So many pluses and minuses. I have no idea, really.

Some people inspired me, often without intending to. Others destroyed my illusions or forever altered my understanding of human life by what they did.

I could not have come to recognize and appreciate the truly wonderful positive people in the universe, had the vicious, the callous, and the selfish, not made me aware of how unusual and precious the good ones are.

Most men who I loved only caused me heartbreak. Maybe they are setting me up for the one who will finally bring me happiness.

Yes..there are many.
Some good, some not so good.
My best friend..if only for a short time.
I owe him my life.
RIP Blake.

This is something I mulled over many, many, MANY times during my grieving and it is no different than what I knew before He died.
He helped to mold me into the woman I am today.
we met when I was 19 and married when I was 20. I "grew up" with Him. He was in my whole adult life. I was kind of headed down a wrong path of finding all the wrong men and He came along and was the different, unusual one who found my heart & soul and shared His with me. I truly believe that I would not have the 2 wonderful children we created, the love and respect from said children, the strength to carry on my life since He's been gone, and of course the LOVELY MEMORIES of days gone by.
Don't misunderstand, I know some of it was of my own making but He was MY OTHER HALF. A lot of people think having a person in your life that you depend on is a weakness, I do NOT think like that. I believe it takes a village for people in general to grow, learn and become strong and independent. Independence includes knowing when we DO need support and not afraid or ashamed to seek it.
I have no clue whatsoever of where I would be right now without Him. I just know for a fact it wouldn't be as great!

....going further, I believe that all of you here that are making an impact on my life with your posts/insights are necessary for me to grow and learn. It would be a tragedy for me to lose my online-village.

Well, I found help by accident. . I saw that there was an independent living scheme, next to my dr's surgery. I went into the independent living centre, to see whether they could help me get a flat. As I was wanting to get my own place so badly. The woman who saw me, told me that they are a charity, so I'd need to be referred to a social worker or a support worker, before I use their service. She gave me the phone number of a place, where social staff were. I then began to get visits from a support worker. She'd visit me at my mum's house. Seven months later, they found me an affordable flat. The only reason why the rent is so cheap, is because they're a housing charity. Otherwise, there'd be nowhere cheap enough to rent. I'm so grateful that I was given the opportunity. Now I'm living in my own home. I can guarantee, that if I wasn't able to do anything about it, I'd still be in a horrible state.

if it had not been for a few bigtime stock car drivers in my area i would have never got the chance to race myself,,,,,

luffy, naruto, bleach.....without these 3 in my life, i think i would've had much more time for more important endeavors

My body would carry less scars,
if it weren't for those confounded
friends o' mine...