Topic: Teenagers
cookieie's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:15 PM
My wonderful Mother-in-Law gave me an outstanding piece of advice...
"repeat yourself like its the first time your saying it" It took me a
while to understand how this actually worked. I discovered that
kids/boys/men only hear every 4th word, so you NEED to repeat
everything. I also found the softer you speak the more intensly others
listen.

ShagnaC's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:17 PM
I totally agree with you cookie, If you yell, demand, or insult they are
not going to hear you at all.
Are you being sarcastic there O? I dont think I repeat myself a lot do
I? lol

Ontario's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:18 PM
especially while cuddling...!

cookieie's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:19 PM
ONTARIO... we are talking about teenagers.... they do not need anymore
encouragement. NO cuddling.

ShagnaC's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:19 PM
then it is ok to be a little louder to get the excitment going.

millsdd's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:26 PM
My kids are 21(son) and 16(daughter)and I learned a LONG time ago to
lower my voice if I wanted to really be heard. Of course it's not a
pleasant lowering and usually through gritted teeth but they started
calling it "the voice" and I've found it works on others besides my
kids. When I need to get my point across to some asshole I use "the
voice" and it usually gets their attention..... especially when
accompanied with "the look" LOL

Ontario's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:26 PM
Well I was,nt telling about kids this time...!

Ontario's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:36 PM
I don,t have any kids...but my 8 and 5 year old nephews I have to reat
alot to...what age does it stop...?

cookieie's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:43 PM
boys??.... who turn into men.... death.
SOMEONE will need to repeat to them until then.

no photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:47 PM
I am 45, hope to grow up soon. I think teens are out of control because
you cant spank thier little butts when they are 5 and they dont lesarn
to respect adults.

Ontario's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:50 PM
Cooky...what are you saying...Boys and Men never listen...?

cookieie's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:57 PM
There are exceptions to that theory that men never listen. They do
listen, they just dont hear every word that is spoken. I am sure some
women are the same. I have been accused of not hearing. my excuse is
that the subject just want interesting enough to pay attention too.
I have a guy friend who can resite back to me every word I say to him...
his problem is that he has short term memory loss.

ShagnaC's photo
Mon 10/30/06 04:58 PM
I dont think spanking or grounding works, I think talking to them and
being open about natural consequences both positive and negitive work.
Sometimes I want to lay my kids across my lap and spank them but it is
something I dont think works at all.

no photo
Mon 10/30/06 05:01 PM
Oh Shagna,

I have to dissagree with that one. Lets say spanking doesnt always work
but it does work better than talking sometimes. My parents had 6 kids
and manage to keep them all out of trouble and drugs with a good ass
whooping when we needed it. I did as well with my kids although once you
give them a good one and the threat of future ones makes talking a whole
lot easier. Lol

Ontario's photo
Mon 10/30/06 05:04 PM
Shagna spanking may return to haunt you ...some say it leads to
domestic violence...!

ShagnaC's photo
Mon 10/30/06 05:06 PM
I just think it is all about communication, and hope you displayed a
positive role model and instilled good morals.

TxsGal3333's photo
Mon 10/30/06 05:18 PM
Shagna communication is what it is all about there is nothing that I
have not talked to my kids about and been very open minded with them
about life we still talk. Actually my son & I are the closest we still
talk about every thing lol yes I still bring the sex issue up with him.
But you have to keep the communication open.

Ontario's photo
Mon 10/30/06 05:20 PM
Wow...when my mom starts talking about sex I would head for the
hills...!

michael1313's photo
Mon 10/30/06 05:23 PM
yea,,,COMUNICATION...huh...

michael1313's photo
Mon 10/30/06 05:27 PM
I tend to agree,"COOKIE",,,my grandfather said to me when I asked th
same Q's...but in his soft country manner,,,WALK SOFT,SPEAK QUIETLY but
carry a big stick when you can't whoop 'em any more....M