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My wonderful Mother-in-Law gave me an outstanding piece of advice...
"repeat yourself like its the first time your saying it" It took me a while to understand how this actually worked. I discovered that kids/boys/men only hear every 4th word, so you NEED to repeat everything. I also found the softer you speak the more intensly others listen. |
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I totally agree with you cookie, If you yell, demand, or insult they are
not going to hear you at all. Are you being sarcastic there O? I dont think I repeat myself a lot do I? lol |
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especially while cuddling...!
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ONTARIO... we are talking about teenagers.... they do not need anymore
encouragement. NO cuddling. |
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then it is ok to be a little louder to get the excitment going.
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My kids are 21(son) and 16(daughter)and I learned a LONG time ago to
lower my voice if I wanted to really be heard. Of course it's not a pleasant lowering and usually through gritted teeth but they started calling it "the voice" and I've found it works on others besides my kids. When I need to get my point across to some asshole I use "the voice" and it usually gets their attention..... especially when accompanied with "the look" LOL |
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Well I was,nt telling about kids this time...!
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I don,t have any kids...but my 8 and 5 year old nephews I have to reat
alot to...what age does it stop...? |
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boys??.... who turn into men.... death.
SOMEONE will need to repeat to them until then. |
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I am 45, hope to grow up soon. I think teens are out of control because
you cant spank thier little butts when they are 5 and they dont lesarn to respect adults. |
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Cooky...what are you saying...Boys and Men never listen...?
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There are exceptions to that theory that men never listen. They do
listen, they just dont hear every word that is spoken. I am sure some women are the same. I have been accused of not hearing. my excuse is that the subject just want interesting enough to pay attention too. I have a guy friend who can resite back to me every word I say to him... his problem is that he has short term memory loss. |
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I dont think spanking or grounding works, I think talking to them and
being open about natural consequences both positive and negitive work. Sometimes I want to lay my kids across my lap and spank them but it is something I dont think works at all. |
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Oh Shagna,
I have to dissagree with that one. Lets say spanking doesnt always work but it does work better than talking sometimes. My parents had 6 kids and manage to keep them all out of trouble and drugs with a good ass whooping when we needed it. I did as well with my kids although once you give them a good one and the threat of future ones makes talking a whole lot easier. Lol |
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Shagna spanking may return to haunt you ...some say it leads to
domestic violence...! |
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I just think it is all about communication, and hope you displayed a
positive role model and instilled good morals. |
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Shagna communication is what it is all about there is nothing that I
have not talked to my kids about and been very open minded with them about life we still talk. Actually my son & I are the closest we still talk about every thing lol yes I still bring the sex issue up with him. But you have to keep the communication open. |
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Wow...when my mom starts talking about sex I would head for the
hills...! |
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yea,,,COMUNICATION...huh...
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I tend to agree,"COOKIE",,,my grandfather said to me when I asked th
same Q's...but in his soft country manner,,,WALK SOFT,SPEAK QUIETLY but carry a big stick when you can't whoop 'em any more....M |
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