Because of misunderstanding,cheating, lost of love and losing there trust to each other,.

Because we exist in a universe that stresses instant gratification, maybe. Because the thought that the grass is greener on the other side rules. Because there are always other fish in the sea. Because you aren't the same person I married. Because I'm tired of not measuring up. Because we don't see eye to eye. Because.

The cliches and justifications are endless.

not being patient enough in the beginning to know each other really well. Finding out whether your individuals goals and ideologies in life can pair or they clash. Not creating a friend...well these are just tips of the iceberg for situations are dictated by context.

In the USA it is also money & debts. Texting & F*c*book. Most divorces happened in the 4th yr of marriage & over 50% have named texting & social networks as an issue.

Despite the real reason being jealousy and low self-esteem.

Cheating could be the worst. I don't know why people cheat. Cheaters actually boil my blood & i can't understand it, & me being a man that likes sex i've never & will never cheat on the woman i love.And maybe there are people like me out there that no matter how many chances they get they would never cheat or mess around or womanise ect

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I know one other that feels the same

Since you are from my country. The most reason is adultery because of a long distance relationship.

i understood this ^^

This is fascinating to me... I don't want to go too far off topic. But why?
Why are there so many long distance relationships? * personally I would never attempt to have one*

That also happens elsewhere not only in U.S.
Facebook alone has been responsible for destroying a lot of relationships

Me neither. I had an online long distance relationship Back in 2001 & that was enough lol.
But if i know i'l meet the person really soon in real life then i would go for it


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It's because some on here think that they can handle a long distance relationship,but this can be a tough feet because there would need to be a lot of trust between both parties to make such an online relationship work for the time being.But,it will be a whole different story if they get together for Real. You then have to ask yourself wether they can truelly make things work because a lot of the time couples don't always get to see the Real person behind the computer because I believe that we all have difference faces they we choose to show others and it'll be up to those women out there if they like what they see

My guess is that so many of one parent from Filipino families are working overseas is the reason...even here where I work there would be approx 15 Filipino men working and the family is still back home...loneliness and boredom...takes its toll...

Because many of us are working outside the country. There is a
separated beds from the husband and wife. Some couldn't control there human needs then commit adultery.

Yes Mikey..... You are right.

you are right, indeed... but loneliness and boredom are not necessarily the only reasons why families with overseas workers break down....

My first thought is...
" I would need a lot more than cyber" .
Second thought
And I know myself pretty well.
"I could never 'Bond' thru cyber.

I thought perhaps it was a cultural or generational thing.?
I like reality, even when it sucks.
And need human contact, even when they are annoying.

I wish those well that try

"Ten most common reasons why marriages fail" [By: 'Dr. Val Farmer']


Drawing from my experience as a marriage counselor, here are 10 common problems that destroy marriages.



01. 'Poor boundaries':


Engaging in intimate conversations with members of the opposite sex leads to emotional experiences that cloud judgment, trigger fantasy life, and progress toward physical intimacies outside of marriage.



The connection and acceptance found in an illicit relationship diverts energy away from solving problems with one's spouse. Confiding about marital problems with a sympathetic listener provides a contrasting experience to whatever dissatisfaction might be present in the marriage.



02. 'Selfishness':


There needs to be fairness in the distribution of work and responsibility within the relationship. This willingness to extend oneself also pertains to meeting emotional needs. Placing one's desires consistently ahead of a partner's emotional needs and responding only when it is a matter of convenience, demand or negotiations leaves a spouse feeling unloved.



If too many important needs are neglected over time, the unloved spouse feels used or taken advantage of. Consistent lack of love interferes with a spouse's willingness to give unselfishly in the relationship. When marriage partners don't trust their needs will be met, they tend to meet their own needs first and become hesitant to share freely of themselves.



Selfishness in its most destructive form involves control, manipulation, jealousy, possessiveness, demands and abuse in order to get one's way. In milder forms, it is lack of consideration and respect.



03. 'Disrespectful judgments':


Marriage needs acceptance, admiration, appreciation and emotional safety. Feelings of anger and hurt follow when the process of exploring differences or contrasting opinions consistently degenerates into criticism, impatience, labeling, contempt, or discrediting one's thoughts or feelings.



It is disrespectful to try to change a spouse's thinking by lecture, ridicule, threats, brainwashing, or negative aspersions. These perceived attacks on personality, character, intelligence or values undermine the mutual respect that forms the basis of love. The tendency is to retaliate in kind or else to withdraw and not share one's ideas. It becomes hard to love or give of oneself when one feels unfairly judged or mistreated.



04. 'Explosive, angry outbursts or rages':


Anger can have a useful purpose if it is listened to and leads to dialogue and constructive problem-solving. However, anger can either create more anger or withdrawal, both of which interfere with effective communications.



Unbridled and unpredictable tempers interfere with emotional safety and trust when spouses need to engage each other on emotional issues. The issues behind the anger get lost as the angry response is perceived as unjust, abusive and unwarranted. It is intimidating and controlling.



05. 'Lack of emotional intimacy':


The lack of sharing one feelings, goals, hurts, struggles, joys and emotional details of one's life lead to loneliness and sadness. Feelings of friendship and partnership come from being connected through interest, deep listening and empathy, mutual support, and sharing perspectives as confidants.



Expectations for marriage include a desire for this soul-satisfying experience of being known, understood, loved, accepted and valued for who you are and having a place to turn for comfort and support. If this component of marriage is lacking, marital partners feel cheated of the essence of what they truly expect marriage should provide.



06. 'Lack of affection and sexual fulfillment':


When needs for sex and affection are not met, problems mushroom. Without affectionate gestures and words, love seems hollow and not as believable. People don't marry to get a roommate. They expect to have an active and fulfilling sexual life. Chronic anger and conflict dampen a couple's willingness to be affectionate with each other.



07. 'Leading separate lives':


Relationships also suffer when couples don't mesh their lives through shared activities, recreational companionship or spending enough time together.



Living too independently from each other takes away connection and joy from the relationship. Couples need to function as a team when it comes to parenting, managing a household, sharing finances, and relating to relatives. They need to consult with each other about important decisions and coordinate their schedules.



Time needs to be set aside to enjoy conversation, adventures, common interests, vacations and fun. Time spent together should be anticipated with pleasure. Without this component, couples drift apart and have little in common.



08. 'Communication is a painful process':


A marriage with too much conflict, hostility, blame, criticism, defensiveness, and belligerent verbal attacks seems like life with an enemy instead of a friend. Marriage needs to be a place of safety, a haven, a place of love and refuge, not a war zone.



Always being 'right', being 'rigid', 'judgmental', or easily angered or flooded with emotion disrupt communication before problems can be solved. Avoidance of conflict is even a bigger problem as the emotional connection is lost when couples don't share opinions and attempt to resolve conflict. When repeated attempts to solve problems fail, one partner gives up and starts to withdraw emotionally.



09. 'Destructive habits and addictions':


Addictions have great power to be placed in front of the needs and happiness of a partner. Betrayal, hurt, anger and pain follow the wake of addictive behavior. Addictions need to be treated to protect the integrity of the marriage.



10. 'Dishonesty, laziness and other character defects':


Basic trust and respect underlie love and form the basis of relationships. Lies, deceit, disloyalty, secret habits, or emotional dishonesty about thoughts or feelings destroy trust and respect. Spouses who willingly don't take or follow through with their personal responsibilities unfairly shift those burdens to their partner. Marriage is a partnership between equals, not a 'parent/child' relationship.

Very well said Kaustav