'Very Few' actually 'appreciate' me... Therefore, I take upon myself, the 'utmost privilege' to 'thank you profusely', in reply!

I was exploring different websites; and chanced to come across 'that' poignantly 'enlightening' material. Chose to 'share' with 'family' & 'friends' ('Mingle' is after all, turning out to be my 'family' - Wonderful souls out here)

Thank You once again, 'Bro'! Have A 'LOVELY' Day (& a 'beautiful' life)

Bravo Kaustuv

I Thank You Sincerely!

To add my two cents here Kaustuv,maybe the reason why some out there don't wanna deal with marriage counselors of shrinks is because not everyone I'm sorry to say wants to listen to the Psychology babble that they shoot out to force change during relationship & marriage crisis

'Perhaps' you are 'logical' in your 'presumption', Robin. I use the term 'perhaps' because I've been 'single' all my life ('hitherto', to be technically specific)!

May you have a lovely day! Keep 'Shining'!

Very true Kaustuv1,even though I wasn't trying to make it sound mean or anything,but it is true of some in those professions,that's what I was meaning by what I said

I 'understood' you, Robin & did 'appreciate' the element of 'articulateness' with which you 'delivered' (spoke). It's something 'rare' I find these days (to speak one's heart out), without 'hesitation'!

Keep 'smiling'! You are 'precious'!

Thanks Kaustuv and I can honestly say here that I do tend to speak my mind about a lot of things and not everybody likes to hear it because they don't want to admit that there is some basis behind such words

I'm 'smiling' (in 'consummate appreciation' of your statement), Robin. Yes, it's an 'unfortunate' reality of life, that most of 'us' (people) are incapable to 'accept' the 'truth' underlying some particular issue. Perhaps, it's our 'human shortcoming/limitation' or our situation in life doesn't permit us to 'see' the 'bitter' truth.

Whatever it is, Robin, I hereby express my 'heartfelt' appreciation for 'this' rare attribute of yours. 'Some' observe it 'this' way that it's 'diplomatically' wise to 'refrain' from speaking one's heart out, as it might not prove to be 'conducive' under certain specific situations; maybe 'they' are justified in 'saying' so.. but.. it's also true that 'few' grace this Earth, devoid of (i wouldn't say 'hypocrisy' at this juncture) 'diplomacy'!


Personally, I 'thank' you for being 'you'.. 'You' seem to be (at least, to me), a 'candid' person with 'principles' in life; 'ones' you would never forsake for any kind of 'personal gain' whatsoever.


Keep 'shining' & spreading that 'love' light' & 'peace', Robin. Stay happy! You'll always sense an 'inner peace' (which I presume, 'you do')!

If one of the people in the relationship, can't communicate properly how they feel, then the only way is down, because if they feel it's too hard to tell each other what's wrong, then it certainly isn't right. It isn't fair on either of them.

I've said it before and I will say it again, wrong intentions from one person is the reason for divorce and breakups.

'Divorce' is the last thing anyone hoped for in a 'marriage'. That's why pacing is everything & understanding what's in it for both.

The reward :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pmMAw5a7POU

there are a million reasons why people walk away from their vows
and end that union..I really cannot speak for others but only myself..

After 20 years together we felt more like room mates than two people who were supposed to love each other

oh we were very good at getting bills paid, doing household chores, parenting our children..two people who could work side by side and in sync after years of practice.


so good we could finish each other's sentences and make a pretty good guess on what was going thru each other's head without saying a word

communication was not an isssue..trust me on this when I say that if I am not happy you will hear about it

control issues on his part played a big part in it
too much time spend apart led to the disintegration of our emotional attachment to each other
unfulfilled needs were there also


I wanted someone that might want to take me to a little outdoor cafe somewhere on a boardwalk and dance with me under the twinkle lights to the sound of the outdoor band
someone to walk with me in the moonlight and hold my hand

he wanted to read his kindle in bed

And denial ! It is easier to blame someone else than to look at ourself & admit it.

I was guilty of #3, in my divorce.
I had to hear it
Accept it
Admit it
And change myself
And make sure I never repeated it.

I feel like going for a coffee.. down at one of those boardwalk cafes...lol

. perhaps a little dancing afterwards..

hahaha it's the after dancing....ummm dancing a girl would have to worry about with you

Because people are never satisfied with the partner they have

Okay....that is too phucking funny.

Let there be no misunderstanding, cheating and trust issues are symptoms of the "disease" not the cause of it.

Marriage ends because people are dishonorable in their oaths of commitment.

You don't lose love, or "fall out of love", you make a decision to no longer love.

What really makes me laugh is when an "ex" tells you that all men/women are the same. I ask how, based on that logic, it makes sense to dump one for another.

My parents have been continuously married to each other for 50+ years. Believe me, there were plenty of times they were unhappy, dissatisfied, angry, misunderstanding, misunderstood, distrustful of/by each other. But they made a commitment and stuck to it. While the grass may look greener on the other side of the fence, once you hop the rail and do the same gardening in that lawn it'll brown up the same as the yard you left.

If my allegory is not understood I will be direct: take your same BS attitudes, selfishness, lack of character, and lack of will to another relationship and it will end up the same.

If you ain't getting your a&$ kicked, you stick it out...you know, richer, poorer, sickness, health, forsaking all others...blah blah blah...all that jazz.