couldn't think of another word lol

Well, if I am recommending specifically to you, I would say only consider a feller say 46 or 47.



you can't blame a guy for trying!

I personally go for the 4yr limit up or down, any lower is considered a pedophile and and go too old it feels like dating parents

I usually do a ten year cushion in any direction. 25-45. I'll go as young as 21. Anyone younger than that I don't feel are mature enough.

i agree, i was in love with a much older woman and when it was just the two of us thats what mattered

hey... no old man bashing... hurts my feelings

I like mature older men ..

Grey hair excites me lol

(More of a fetish these days I reckon )

dont tell nobody lol

Mum's the word.

Good on you for having the gumption to say it out loud.....I think there are plenty of other women and many more guys here that keep it quiet for fear of being lambasted.....
Now I better run and hide...

what people think about me is not my business .

lol Deal !

Hugs

Doesn't matter what I think.
It matters what you/they can make work.

You can decide you want to go after 60 year old dudes, but there is no guarantee you aren't just picking an older version of the younger people you have been dating.


There is no perfect relationship where it magically works where you are happy every day living in some kind of surreal fog of permanent bliss.

There is no magic person that you can just pick up and stick in your life where everything becomes magic and lollipops.

There are always going to be some favorable contributions and detrimental problems from any decision you make choosing anyone. Older, younger, same age, doesn't matter.


I really wish you started the thread with this.
I wonder what you think are old fashioned values.
Because in my experience this is never true.
At best it's an idealized version of interpreting stereotypes about "old fashioned ways."
Where people pick and choose which "old fashioned ways" work best for them.

Hi

you make some valid points. idealized I would say is incorrect though because I know men are not perfect nor women. but I do want to live a certain way. an older man will most likely understand because they might have had parents living that life and so some of the values might have rubbed of on them. im not saying all older men are like it but that is the point of searching for that one who wants the same sort of relationship as me.

everyone has something that makes them tick. mine is living as a 1950s housewife (without the racial abuse lol) cooking cleaning looking after the kids and my man etc. and I know there are a lot of men who think the same as me. im not weird though well I don't think so

I think acceptable age gaps change with your own age ...
Many young women are attracted to older guys. I remember when I was 18-22-ish, a 40-45 year old man held very high appeal! Self-confident, established men, still sexy, physically very attractive. Yummie! The age difference seems easy to overcome at that age (also cos you cannot fathom the full extent of it at age 18-22).

But now, me seriously pulling 40, turning 49 in 5 days... the thought of a relationship with a man that is 20-25 yrs older... No freaking way! A man around 70-75 years old ... Sod that!
I want to grow old with a man, not have a mere 4-8 years together, then be alone yet again. And being with a man the same age as my dad ... yuk!

So it seemed ever so sexy and hot when younger, now it seems gross.
For me it's some 5 years either way, preferably less, 3 years.